Jamaicancricket

as a recent green card holder,
if you divorce him now,
he really doesn't have any fast path to bring in the next wife.
you could write up letters of attestation about what's going on, and submit them to the IV Unit somewhere in India, so at least what you're purporting happened to you would get into the next casefile - but that's some time down the road of HIS next venture..
I dunno, I suggest you simply divorce him and make certain his name is on nothing that shows any 'joint co-mingling' - utility bills, bank accounts, etc. i also suggest you move this week, and find some room mate situation with some classmate for the fall term.
If you are renting somewhere, don't pay the August bill. If you are living with your parents, don't tell them where you are going. Change your cell # asap, as well.
File for divorce on Monday - you can prep the documents and file it yourself.
I'm a bit unfocused for time and timing, at the moment, so the best advice I can give you is - PLAN and them IMPLEMENT.
You can't get his green card revoked, at the moment, but you can certainly make things difficult for him down the road, if you choose that path.

I am understanding it the same way. Your marriage LICENSE, and/or receipt of ceremony, is valid until the expiration date. You will receive your certified marriage CERTIFICATE in the mail.
As long as the information was corrected before the county clerk filed it, you should be good to go!
Congratulations!

If he wants to be authorized to work as soon as possible:
- Get married at a city hall or courthouse as soon as possible. There's no "too soon" for it. There's only "too late" with the K-1. You need a marriage license first. Each place as their own requirements. Some, you can get married the same day, some you have to wait a few days after getting the marriage license before having the ceremony. Some request a SSN, but most of them no. Inquire about it at the place where you want to get married. Once married, request certified copies of marriage certificate.
- Get a SSN. Go to your SSA office 10 days after POE.
- apply for AOS/EAD/AP as soon as you have all the required documents ready.
- Once it's sent, the EAD (temporary work authorization) should be approved in 2-3 months. AOS timeline varies greatly. It can take 3 months, as it can take a year. You may or may not be scheduled for an interview.

The aplication to adjust status cannot be withdrawn by the sponser.
However, the affadavit of support, the I-864, can be cancelled by the sponser prior to green card approval
and when that is done (cancelling the affadavit of support)
the basis for adjusting status vanishes,
and
the application to adjust status is denied by USCIS.

I'm not starting this topic to offend anybody or to start a beef just for the beef sake. After several months of being on this very helpful forum (it's a life saver in many cases! ), I have this general observation that people do not even bother to read instructions and guides. It seems they don't even bother to use a search engine to look for answers to their questions, but just bluntly create a new topic to ask their question that has been asked 3 to 5 times the very same day. Sometimes there are several topics one under the other(s) about the same thing. It makes the forum bigger and bigger mess every day.
I know this process is long, exhausting and above all confusing at many points. It really is and also has been for me. I always try to help whenever I'm logged in and I'm able to help (when I know how), because this is the main purpose of the forum -- to help and support each other. But even earlier today I read posts in a topic from more experienced forum members that the question about Texas lockobx and Texas Sevice Center comes up way too often and perhaps should be pinned somewhere to be visible. When I browse through the K1 forum, I see more and more replies that are only like "Read the guides" or "Follow this link", because these are basic questions!
It's all there in the Guides, in the Downloads, on the Visa FAQs etc. My plead for new users especially is to first research and read, and then if your question/issue is still not answered or it's very specific to formulate a question on the forum.
I wish you all a good day and above all as smooth visa journey as possible!

You are correct. There is no (good) way for you two to be together. Let his relationship with his wife play out, and don't get involved. Forget the legal issues. No matter what they are, they can be handled 99.5% of the time. If you were meant to be together, it will happen in time. But you can't begin a successful relationship by destroying one that came before it.

Add that to the fact no other information is given except she's cheating with a married man and we're supposed to give her advise how to continue hurting his wife.
Funny how all the questions being asked regarding the immigration status is ignored.
I feel no empathy for the OP.
If you don't want to be judged, moral standards or otherwise, then don't post on a public forum.

Too many people offer relationship advice when posters are really just trying to navigate the visa process. Please leave the relationship thoughts to yourself. Every day engaged people break up, or delay the wedding, often to later get back together or not. The visa process is long and expensive yes, but so is a relationship if both in the same country. The visa is just a part of our journey that we must endure. Don't judge others because of relationship issues. I'm almost certain everyone on this board has had relationship difficulties at some point in the past. Attacking posters or judging for their own relationship challenges is quite inappropriate. If you have something to offer regarding the visa process then by all means do so. Otherwise leave the personal issues personal.
This process is so danged hard, I don't know why people feel the need to jump on others' emotions, unless it makes them feel good about themselves to put others down.
Good luck with your decision and the visa process.

You cannot have her come LATER on a tourist visa, then get married, and then attempt to adjust status based on that marriage. If you're thinking you can, I don't understand your reasoning.
On a tourist visa: she could get married but would have to leave the USA and wait in Spain while you file a brand-new CR-1 process, including the 8-12 month wait for that. She cannot stay in the USA because she would have immigrant intent, and that is violating the terms of her tourist visa, it will lead to fraud charges and a lifetime ban on entry into the USA.
On the K-1: you must marry within 90 days. That's it. If you don't marry within 90 days on the K-1, you cannot adjust her status to legal residency afterwards.
Marriage within 90 days or go home, most likely forever since a second K-1 would prove difficult.
I've seen several of these threads now and I have to admit I'm running out of patience/empathy for the posters. If you wanted to "get to know her" that was NOT a reason to file the K-1, as the K-1 specifically leads to marriage. I also feel very badly for her, if this is your unilateral decision that is majorly impacting her life and legal status.

I invite you to study all of my replies to you , in your topic.
Focus solely on what I've written. Then come back in a bit, after you've mapped out your plan, let us know what your new plan is, and we can perhaps assist you with punching holes in your new plan or vetting your new plan.
Your Choice.

My perspective of a "bona fide" relationship, which needs to be proven at his interview, is lacking due to exactly that...the absence of good morals. There is no bona fide foundation for an immigration future in my opinion. If you think we are giving you a moral beating just wait until an interviewing officer will start asking some serious questions.
It will be an uphill battle.
You said in your second post : I see now that I missed out on including some information necessary for help, but you are all simply harping on the ethics involved.
If someone can provide actual advice that does not involve the morals involved, I thank you.




Since your and his morals will be questioned in an interview, I personally feel morals are a valid point to bring up here to advice you. You still didn't answer the questions about the exact
immigration details. The situation may 'appear' potentially fraudulent with the information provided and that is exactly what you are up against. We have bona fide couples here getting denied without any of the drama you mentioned so please don't expect that the lack of ethics won't be mentioned here. It certainly will be scrutinized by an interviewing officer and you will need solid answers to overcome their speculations and assumptions whatever they may be. Morals, a bona fide relationship with plenty of evidence and the immigration process go hand in hand
and you can not distance yourself from that. The timing of meeting, marrying and divorcing is of importance in regards to filing. This triangular background is not in your favor.

Please give us more information that you left out ...... And I will tell you Im sorry if you felt I gave you a moral beatin ..... Im not a lawyer so i can not give you legal advice .... If you want legal advice you need to go to a lawyer or legal aid many do free consultations....... I do not know much about you and yours life, and the people involved ect ect..... but I can tell you this It saddens me that 100s of people are on this forum waiting to be with the one that they love we wait and wait and wait for the day we get our approvals and you come on here and speak of this wonderful relationship you have with your man who has a wife that brought him here to the USA out of love......and you dont expect to get a lil moral beatin....you are what we wives in waiting fear most .......So please call a lawyer, call his wife, call immigration but dont expect some of us to understand......You need to do what is good for you ..... not whats good for him .... not whats good for anyone else.....I really pray you work things out and you get the most of your life with or without him.....just sayin

advise = run run very fast

I totally agree with you as Im a sucker for true love, but as a married woman reading her post, it does not sit well with me :@

I just realized the time frame.......The honeymoon with his wife is barely over and he already allowed himself to "meet and connect" with you ? Great guy ? Playa I say !
How great can a "cheating and only married for 5 months" man be ?
It sounds like he is laying more than one egg in his basket of convenience. He is a floater. Flush him.
Get respect and integrity for yourself instead of chasing a newly married man.
I will never understand why some women think the man they cheat with will not do the same to them 5 minutes later.

I would suggest you visit her again & since she have a visa she then visit you
giving you history and getting to really know each flaws, likes & dislikes.
If you file K1 petition I think she can take her child along too when she arrives to get
marry to U within 90 days. the age is not much of a problem but meeting only once
might have the CO eyeballing stuff a little bit more.
If she comes there and marry U and AOS she will not be able to visit Jamaica until
that process is completed missing out on seeing her child for a while, an 8 yr old
needs mommy.
Make sure she's informed if U have an ex, your kids names,pictures with family too is good
if you ever been in trouble, pay child support or owe taxes, it must be revealed to her
should they ask her at interview, otherwise U good to go buddy
You can marry her in Jamaica and file for CR1-spouse, during this period, she may or
may not be able to visit U, if she can show proof she will return home after visit she
wil probably be allowed.The fact that she got the tourist visa says she seem to have ties
to country & that helps, also be sure to keep boarding passes, hotels & restaurant receipts
Good luck to you both.

Like my mother and her father used to say, "A new broom always sweeps good." LOL

OP, you might be the reason he is having problems with his wife. How long has he been here before he was with you? It is in your best interest to leave him alone and find a relationship with someone single.

LOL at Darnell

I say you should talk with his wife, and ask if you can move in with them, and share the husband with her.
Then let us know what happens. I think is amazing, fantastic, when two women know bliss with the same man in the same household.

Yes it will. A 47 year age gap is a BIG red flag. SUPER BIG, even for Jamaica. Like others have said, make sure you have your ducks in a row to help overcome that.

I don't personally have experience with this, so please only take my comments as the opinion of a complete outsider.
I personally think that both the large age gap and the lack of photots are potentially big red flags.
I've heard people on this site often suggest that if you have a red flag, such as a large age gap, then you should provide extra proof to show a bonafide marriage, such as a lot of photos.
It's good that he has traveled to see you so many times, but without the photographic evidence of the two of you together, all you can really prove is that he traveled to your country.
Perhaps you have other types of evidence to convince the CO of bonafide marriage without the pictures?

All the info you need is here: http://www.visajourney.com/consulates/index.php?ctry=Jamaica&cty=Kingstone
Whatever questions you may have, they've been asked and answered many times over on this site, just use the search function.

Follow your heart! Its all a leap of faith regardless of where they are from. I agree with Island Girl....there are MANY relationships that are strong and some that fail. If you do follow through...know that there is an adjustment period for both. Just because he/she gets here...it doesnt mean its going to be all sweet. Its just like any other relationship. Its going to take work. But if you follow your heart...and there is love all intertwined in it....well either way you'll be okay!

No-one on VJ can tell you what to do or how things are going to work out. None of us are in his head to know what his intentions are, even if they are good. Yes, Jamaican men (and all other types of men) woo women. Some do it for love and yes, there are some who just want the visa. NOONE KNOWS THAT FOR A FACT. I've seen and heard of good stories -- Jamaican men who meet American women and migrate to the US and their relationship lasted (even with different races, age gaps, etc.). There are other stories as well with negative endings. You just never know. Even if you were in the United States of American and dating another Black man you don't know for certain if it's going to last. No-one knows that, unless they're psychic. Only YOU TWO can make that decision. Only YOU know your man. The only thing I can say is to look for clues, red flags, etc.. and make your mind up from there.
On the topic of cheaters -- Jamaican, American, Asian, African and every culture of men cheat. Every man is different. I've heard of cheaters right here in the neighborhood and their wives live with them. It doesn't make a difference. Men and women cheat. Should I worry about that? Nope. I just focus on what I have to in my own relationship -- take care of business at home and my husband -- and live my life.