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    DandT14 got a reaction from koolgurl in Have got married on a tourist visa   
    I'm probably going to piss a few people off with this comment. But I'm gonna make it anyway.
    If you're looking to AOS from the VWP or any "other" type visa (student, etc.) then I'd listen to the advice of people who have done just that.
    I wouldn't pay much attention to people who came with K-1 or CR-1 when they tell you that you're going to be forcibly thrown out of the country and banned for life because you didn't do things "legally."
    Yes, I'm exaggerating. But if you look at the "you better not do it, it's dangerous" posts, they tend to be from people who used K-1 or CR-1.
    That's my two cents. We don't know many details about the poster's situation, but I didn't see any reason that he can't file AOS.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from OLee in VictiM of marriage fraud   
    This is the worst part of your whole story. No man is worth giving up your child for. I saw someone the other day who casually mentioned her teenage son wasn't immigrating with her. That's something I can never support or understand.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Billious in She wants to go back Home (Philippines)   
    I hope I misunderstood you.
    Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
    Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from user19000 in Lies and deception. Be aware, please!   
    What I don't understand is how, if you are never certain, you could go ahead and get married anyway. Although it seems to happen quite a lot, judging from this section. People can rationalize anything, I suppose. But really, if you even think for a second that your future spouse might be using you for a greencard, then don't get married! Find a US citizen to screw up your life with instead, it's easier.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from user19000 in Divorce   
    That's true, it does depend on the state. My answer referred to the law in California, which is where she is.
    Problem is, so does she...
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    DandT14 got a reaction from lynndy38 in What constitutes 'preconceived intent" to marry?   
    Overstay will be forgiven if he stays and they file AOS.
    Valerie beat me to it (I had a good rant all planned)...but I just want to add that there is nothing more or less legal or right about filing for CR-1 vs. AOS vs. K-1. They are all acceptable depending on the circumstances of the people involved.
    The only potential danger is that when adjusting from VWP, appeal is not an option if denied.
    That said, I'm not suggesting you actually get married. There is a lot of responsibility in marrying someone from another country and bringing them here, not the least of which is agreeing to support them financially whether you want to or not. It sounds to me like you just met him (in person) in October? You really want to risk your whole life on a two month relationship? I'd think this one through if I were you. He can always go home and visit a few more times before you actually get married.
    If you do decide to get married, and he has no need to go back to his home country for at least 4-6 months, then he can stay and file AOS. If there's anything you're worried about (criminal history?) then ask about it here before you do anything else.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from cdneh in What constitutes 'preconceived intent" to marry?   
    Overstay will be forgiven if he stays and they file AOS.
    Valerie beat me to it (I had a good rant all planned)...but I just want to add that there is nothing more or less legal or right about filing for CR-1 vs. AOS vs. K-1. They are all acceptable depending on the circumstances of the people involved.
    The only potential danger is that when adjusting from VWP, appeal is not an option if denied.
    That said, I'm not suggesting you actually get married. There is a lot of responsibility in marrying someone from another country and bringing them here, not the least of which is agreeing to support them financially whether you want to or not. It sounds to me like you just met him (in person) in October? You really want to risk your whole life on a two month relationship? I'd think this one through if I were you. He can always go home and visit a few more times before you actually get married.
    If you do decide to get married, and he has no need to go back to his home country for at least 4-6 months, then he can stay and file AOS. If there's anything you're worried about (criminal history?) then ask about it here before you do anything else.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from reese1 in What constitutes 'preconceived intent" to marry?   
    Overstay will be forgiven if he stays and they file AOS.
    Valerie beat me to it (I had a good rant all planned)...but I just want to add that there is nothing more or less legal or right about filing for CR-1 vs. AOS vs. K-1. They are all acceptable depending on the circumstances of the people involved.
    The only potential danger is that when adjusting from VWP, appeal is not an option if denied.
    That said, I'm not suggesting you actually get married. There is a lot of responsibility in marrying someone from another country and bringing them here, not the least of which is agreeing to support them financially whether you want to or not. It sounds to me like you just met him (in person) in October? You really want to risk your whole life on a two month relationship? I'd think this one through if I were you. He can always go home and visit a few more times before you actually get married.
    If you do decide to get married, and he has no need to go back to his home country for at least 4-6 months, then he can stay and file AOS. If there's anything you're worried about (criminal history?) then ask about it here before you do anything else.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from MrsB2012 in What constitutes 'preconceived intent" to marry?   
    Overstay will be forgiven if he stays and they file AOS.
    Valerie beat me to it (I had a good rant all planned)...but I just want to add that there is nothing more or less legal or right about filing for CR-1 vs. AOS vs. K-1. They are all acceptable depending on the circumstances of the people involved.
    The only potential danger is that when adjusting from VWP, appeal is not an option if denied.
    That said, I'm not suggesting you actually get married. There is a lot of responsibility in marrying someone from another country and bringing them here, not the least of which is agreeing to support them financially whether you want to or not. It sounds to me like you just met him (in person) in October? You really want to risk your whole life on a two month relationship? I'd think this one through if I were you. He can always go home and visit a few more times before you actually get married.
    If you do decide to get married, and he has no need to go back to his home country for at least 4-6 months, then he can stay and file AOS. If there's anything you're worried about (criminal history?) then ask about it here before you do anything else.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Krikit in Canadian becoming American information? story   
    I don't see anything in what you described that would necessitate a lawyer. Your case sounds pretty straight forward - after you get married you'll file for AOS. The guide here will help you. You don't submit any paperwork prior to getting married.
    If there's anything in your history that you're worried about (i.e. she once got arrested for...) now's the time to bring it up.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from NikLR in Lies and deception. Be aware, please!   
    I think any time you marry someone you don't really know, there's a high potential for problems.
    The system as it is now isn't conducive to getting to know a person, or to really spending time with them. You meet someone (often online, these days) and think you're in love. Of course, you can only know part of a person online, the part they want you to see. Then you get caught up in the romance of it all. It's a perfect love story - you're destined to be together, but the bad guys (the government) are in the way. You have to overcome it all to be together! The problem is that you're so caught up in the romance of it, you don't stop to actually look truthfully at your "relationship" for all its flaws. When the fight is over, so's the romance, so's the fantasy, and reality can be very disappointing.
    Well, that's the way I see it, anyway...
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    DandT14 reacted to Harpa Timsah in will divorcing ruined my wife's green card?   
    She can file to remove conditions on her own, if she shows that the marriage was not entered into to circumvent immigration laws. Look at the instructions for I-751.
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    DandT14 reacted to VanessaTony in will divorcing ruined my wife's green card?   
    To answer your qn... any ONLY your qn, She simply files for ROC by herself once the divorce is final (or during the 90 days, whichever comes first). As long as she can prove she entered the marriage in good faith then she should be fine.
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    DandT14 reacted to Kathryn41 in will divorcing ruined my wife's green card?   
    I'm sorry the marriage hasn't worked out. You have my respect for not trying to take the failure of the marriage out on her by trying to 'ruin' her life. Yes, circumstances change but that doesn't mean that things have to become hurtful.
    You two can divorce. Your ex-wife would then file the I-751 ROC petition right after she receives the final divorce papers. At the bottom of the first page is a section which lists the different 'waiver's available. She would check the box requesting a waiver from the joint filing condition due to a divorce. She would include documents with the petition that prove she entered the marriage in good faith and that it was a valid marriage while it lasted, along with the divorce papers. She will need to have copies of documents the two of you acquired during the course of her marriage, so you can certainly help her get her permanent green card by making sure she gets copies of the documents she needs. That way she would be able to move on with her life, and you can move on with yours comfortable knowing you have behaved with integrity.
    Good luck to you both.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Knope2012 in Horrible marriage interview.   
    Here's my interpretation and speculation of what the redflags were.
    The wife has overstayed her visa. She meets, falls in love with, and gets married to a USC man on disability in a matter of months.
    Included with their application is pictures which were, at best, confusing. (Apparently there were pictures of friends in there?) At worst, they looked staged. The first question out of the IO when she saw the wife was "who are you?" That implies to me that she felt she had seen pictures of someone other than the wife in the application.
    Also included with the application was a sealed I-864 package, demonstrating that the sponsor didn't really trust them with her information. Somehow the IO knew the maiden name of the sponsor, but the applicants did not. (When did the sponsor/friend change her name? How long have they been friends?) No one will ever know what else the sponsor might have thrown in that envelope.
    We don't know what the other evidence included with the application was. But the evidence brought to the interview was, for the most part, weak.
    Maybe there are lessons to be learned there for others. In any case, I don't see racism or discrimination. I see an IO doing their job. Maybe not nicely, but they're not required to be nice.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Knope2012 in Horrible marriage interview.   
    Ok, well you clearly don't need any help. So I hope everyone reads this and quits trying to help you.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from JE06 in Friend's fiance came on tourist visa can he stay?   
    Yes there is. She said he came on a tourist visa, but now he doesn't want to go back. So, he changed his mind. Not hard to understand.
    And the post you quoted was directed towards someone else, the post that was directed towards you a couple pages ago was pure sarcasm.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Brother Hesekiel in B2 expired overstayed, Married to a citizen   
    I take it back, it sounds like the lawyer knows exactly what he's doing.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from Ontarkie in Lawyer says to delete Facebook entirely...is that really necessary?   
    I don't think deleting it would do much more than making it private. The information doesn't disappear,even when deleted, it's there somewhere. If USCIS wanted it, they'd get it.
    Funny though, my first thought wasn't that the "incriminating" thing on there was about immigrant intent. My first thought was "uh, oh, who's cheating?" Guess we know where my mind is...
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    DandT14 got a reaction from I AM NOT THAT GUY in I-485 Question   
    If you read all the way through section A, it says something about a petition being filed with this application. That's referring to the I-130. So, no other documents need to be attached, just include your I-130 petition. Make sense?
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    DandT14 reacted to JimVaPhuong in so is there any way out.   
    In order to adjust status without an I-864 she'd need to self-petition. The various bases for self-petitioning are limited. Read the I-360 instructions for a rundown. VAWA is the most common.
    She could also self-petition if you died after the marriage. Watch your step. You wouldn't want to have an accident.
    Marrying a foreigner involves more of a commitment than marrying an American. The I-864, though rarely enforced, is a shackle you could be wearing potentially for the rest of your life, even long after the marriage has ended. If you're not 100% sure this is what you want to do then don't do it. Marriage isn't dipping your toes in the water - that's what dating is for. Marriage is a leap off the high board without even being able to see the water below. You need absolute faith that you're doing the right thing before you make that leap.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from femery in VWP with intent to marry   
    Both scenarios are legal. My only concern for you would be in scenario 1, because if you tell them at POE that you intend to marry but not stay, they might not believe you. Then you get turned away and have to try scenario 2. As long as you're prepared for that, I'd go with scenario 1.
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    DandT14 got a reaction from pddp in Lies and deception. Be aware, please!   
    Really? I would have guessed they were just protective of their personal information on the internet. In the age of facebook, that might be a little unusual, but it doesn't make one a bad person, does it?
    But, perhaps you two have a history that I'm not privy to...I rarely stray into this forum. It makes me sad.
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    DandT14 reacted to mccbsimon in AOS (I-485)   
    wow some people on this forum are ILL INFORMED and plain asshats.
    PART 1..you should put B2 Touring Visa
    PART 2..you should select option a. if you are applying, you obviously are sending the form I-130 petition application. READ the question and then READ option a. you ARE an immediate relative of a US Citizen, therefore you are filing the I-130 concurrently and it will make a visa number immediately available to you( even tho spouses of US Citizens DO NOT NEED A VISA )
    I was just approved and was registered as a permanent resident yesterday. And i my friend was here on a B2 Visa. DO NOT listen to those that say they "raise an eyebrow" about it. Its really simple, if you came here and had GENUINE intentions of leaving and you are GENUINELY in love etc, you will have no problems. This will be made evident by the "evidence" you have such as joint bank accounts, bills with your names on it, a child together, pictures of you two with friends, family, and at places etc. Theres all kinds of things you can submit as evidence, dig deep, facebook messages to each other, cards, love letters, the list goes on and on. follow instructions to the T and you will do just fine. If you have any questions what soever feel free to message me or whatever. GOOD LUCK!
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    DandT14 reacted to Harpa Timsah in AOS (I-485)   
    Mcbsimon has it right. The other comments don't demonstrate even the basics of the understanding on this issue.
    I know people mean well, but this this false outrage and overbearing cautiousness is a common occurrence when people start a thread in another forum, and ill-informed people get "mad" and start lectures.
    People adjusting from another visa don't need to show "extra" bona fide marriage. That's ridiculous. Every case needs to be bona fide; that's like saying it's okay for K-1s to be fraud.
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