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The OP has come asking for specific advice about filing to adjust her status. She has shared some of the extenuating circumstances that relate to questions she has filling out the forms. Thank you to those who have taken the time to respond to Murysa's questions. For those of you who wish to challenge her veracity, please keep your comments to yourself. Visa Journey is supposed to be a forum to provide assistance and support, not to make judgmental personal attacks because you don't like the circumstances that have been presented. If there is a problem with the truth, USCIS is the appropriate one to determine this. I have read over this thread and I have no difficulty in believing the truth of Murysa's situation. Some of us would perhaps manage things differently if we were in her situation, but that's the thing, none of us are and the best assistance you can offer is to help her with her questions - or not post in this thread at all.
Any further negative, critical or judgmental comments will result in a thread ban for the poster. I am leaving this thread open as Murysa still appears to have some questions with which she needs assistance. So, either provide the requested assistance, or do not participate.

Again, we have no way to know for sure that OP's story is legit but trying to poke holes in it based on her English or how domestic violence arrests work in your area is silly, IMO. I don't know what the hoopla is over her English, her written English is very similar to my husband's and almost identical to a foreign exchange student we hosted when I was in high school, who absolutely wrote that well after a year even though she didn't know a ton of English prior to coming. Again, I'm not saying the OP couldn't be lying but the best thing anyone can do is advise based on the idea that she isn't and leave it at that.
It is also clear that many people here have never been in an abusive relationship and do not understand the dynamics involved it in from either side. If you've never been there you'll never totally understand, but nothing she has said about the status of her relationship would come up as a red flag to almost anyone who has been there.
OP, obviously there is no point in continuing to hash out this thread. You've gotten advice on VAWA, I suggest you follow that if you have the evidence needed. I also suggest you contact a family law attorney. Your county may have resources for finding someone pro bono if you cannot afford one.

OP mentioned before, that of course the military knows about her, but he husband is telling his commander that they are divorcing. for his CO, there's no reason not to believe him. squadron commanders are very busy with other stuff & wouldn't follow up on the situation. also, even if he would have enrolled her in the DoD system without telling his commander, he wouldn't know about his wife. commanders don't get the information: listen, one of your workers just enrolled his wife. my husbands command didn't know until we told them in person. the military is big. keep that in mind.

that's not true! my military ID is valid until 2016 and they STILL don't have my SSN in their system! please don't make comments, that aren't true. SSN has nothing to do with any military benefits.

get off her case, gary, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all, dang, you're so evil, don't you have anything better to do then monitor who writes what and play "inspector gadget" on here. geez

Many abusive people don't want to file for a GC because they fear that by keeping the spouse "un-free" will force them to rely on the USC so the immigrant can't leave. Many men also fear "independent" women (there are a million on this board) so in an extreme version, keeping them chained keeps them dependent on the USC. That way they get a wife at home that depends on them totally no matter what they do.
I find it despicable to attack the OP's use of English as a reason to attack her or her story. The question of her English shouldn't be answered by someone who "lives with a Russian" but by people who actually speak at least two languages. Someone who speaks only one language is not capable, in my view, of understanding what it is like to learn a second language and what is possible. When someone gets attacked they would naturally get flustered and probably reply faster and make more mistakes. For a second language, speaking is not easier than writing for all people.
The OP is very possibly a hurting abused person who needs help, and is making all kinds of excuses because that is what an abused person does. USCIS can make an appropriate determination regarding her story (if she goes that route). It's not up to us.
OP - you got some good info on your options at the start of the thread.

so, yer here on an F-1 visa, thinking of getting married and thinking of filing an AOS case.
You have issues for staying together due to school admissions requirements, yer soon to be spouse cannot get admitted.
Which is more important - to finish the degree, or to file an AOS casefile after marriage?
You can marry anytime, and NOT file the AOS until you both feel it's time to do it.

The car insurance thing is almost certainly a technicality that they're just using to justify the Stokes interview on paper.
OP: Use the search function on this page: look up "Stokes interview" in quotes and read everything you can find. Have your husband do the same.
While you are doing that, find a good immigration lawyer with experience in Stokes interview preparation and pay him whatever he wants for several hours of phone training with you and your husband! [immigration law is federal, so don't feel constrained to search locally - you can get an immigration lawyer based anywhere in the country.]
Stokes interviews are serious like a corpse. They only occur when something has gone terribly wrong - the consular officer has an unshakable gut feeling that something is wrong with your case. He wants with all his heart to issue a denial outright but doesn't feel like he has the evidence to make a denial stick. A Stokes interview is a legally-sanctioned fishing expedition to obtain that evidence.
They are designed to be as clinically unambiguous as possible. You and your husband are separated. You are then asked several hundred occasionally very personal questions. As is your husband, separately from you. There is a certain percentage, unknown to us, of answers you must agree on. If your answers disagree on even one answer too many (we do not know what the threshold is), they will deny you, and appealing a failed Stokes interview is almost impossible.
Assume that the consular officers want to deny the visa, have already decided to deny the visa, and are hostile to you from the minute you enter the consulate/embassy.
Lawyer up, now, or start planning to live in your husband's country. If you go into a Stokes interview without several hours of professional preparation, and extensive practice on your own after you will regret it.