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Pursuing a relationship with someone in another country is a CHOICE that YOU make. You also have have the choice to find love closer to home too. Which is very different from a child who was moved to this country by their parents. It was NOT their choice. It was the decision of their parents. So how can the costs be the same? That $500 has to be something that most can afford not just for a few.

we got approveddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd yesterday. i woke up today and before i call my fiance i check my email and it says approveddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd. i am extremely happyyyyyyyy because i was hoping to get of RFE but guys we both are truly blesseddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd.
Good luck to everyone who are waiting!

Pursuing a relationship with someone in another country is a CHOICE that YOU make. You also have have the choice to find love closer to home too. Which is very different from a child who was moved to this country by their parents. It was NOT their choice. It was the decision of their parents. So how can the costs be the same? That $500 has to be something that most can afford not just for a few.

I have been on the road so I am a little late here. Make sure to withdrawl the affidavit of support ( it is his aos, you can't withdraw it but pulling the affidavit kills it ) Take all the emails that he has sent especially the one where he threatens to kill you. Take a copy of the same email to the local police and ask for a restraining or protective order. When he violates it , report him ( in most states even calling you once he is served violates it ) Change your locks , the passwords on your accounts and kill any cards he has access to.
You didn't marry a man , you married someone with the morals of pig ####. There are people that would pretend to be in love with a month dead cow if it would get them a green card. There is no concern for the damage they do to those they walk on to get there and they feel they are justified in what they do. You should not feel the least bit of regret for reporting his actions and letting the system take care of him. Shame on those that recommended that you just let him go. They are supporters of his behavior and all the others that think the sole purpose of a USC is to provide them with the quickie path to a green card. Even if the act is driven by desparation to get out of a third world country no one has the right to abuse the love of an innocent person for their own self advancement. Report him, cut him off and shut him off.

I cannot understand how people can advise the OP to wait for her husband. The guy told her exactly how he feels about her and their marriage, then walking out and emailing her, from a place where I assume he's settled, to let her know that he doesn't want anything to do with her since he has all needs. So what exactly should she be waiting for?

It's not about vengeance or about seeking validation for it, is about justice, that's all it is!. Why would you allow people to wreck your home, play with your emotions, scam you,treat you and hurt you?. I truly believe we have to respond to any violation or abuse and not let people rob your peace and wrap your heart. Vengeance does not call for punishment. We have a system to protect us,many people are saying "oh Immigration won't do anything against him blah blah blah", well they are wrong! I go to the Immigration Court almost every day of the week for the past 10 years and I saw thousands of people being deported!. In 2011 the United states deported 396,906 people, 54.6% of them were criminal offenders, but 46% of the deportees were people out of status, illegal, fake marriage, people caught at the border etc, they are not sleeping, they work hard!
I am an attorney and I own a non profit organization who helps victim of domestic violence as well and our message is SPEAK OUT!!! To say let go, move on, forgive him/ forget him is not constructive. We build a strong society with moral values when we demand Justice! She said she was psychological and physical abused by her husband then she must not let him get away with freedom.We need to teach our kids to demand justice and respect because without justice a society would fall apart.
Report a fraudulent marriage to the ICE, call at (866) 347-2423.
"The moral arc of the universe bends at the elbow of justice".
(Martin Luther King, Jr).

I cannot understand how people can advise the OP to wait for her husband. The guy told her exactly how he feels about her and their marriage, then walking out and emailing her, from a place where I assume he's settled, to let her know that he doesn't want anything to do with her since he has all needs. So what exactly should she be waiting for?

I cannot understand how people can advise the OP to wait for her husband. The guy told her exactly how he feels about her and their marriage, then walking out and emailing her, from a place where I assume he's settled, to let her know that he doesn't want anything to do with her since he has all needs. So what exactly should she be waiting for?

I cannot understand how people can advise the OP to wait for her husband. The guy told her exactly how he feels about her and their marriage, then walking out and emailing her, from a place where I assume he's settled, to let her know that he doesn't want anything to do with her since he has all needs. So what exactly should she be waiting for?

Ok I have gone back and forth trying to decide if I should get involved in this conversation. I have decided it's to harmful for me not to. I spent 16 years in a loveless, neglected, practically ignored relationship trying to *SAVE* my spouse and give her a better life. We were both USC and both grew up in the same town. You have a many fold problem. One, you didn't make the decision to marry, your parents did. You asked him to take you as his wife on your parents urging. He obviously didn't want a marriage as he has completely neglected and ignored you.. *THIS IS MENTAL ABUSE* You are guilt tripped at every corner by your parents and by him. You stated that he quit his job because of too little pay. *so his pride wouldn't allow him to work for less yet he it does allow him to depend on you?* Marriage is a partnership based on love trust and respect. You have none of these. You also are doubting your own worth and are depressed by how he is treating you... *not what he's doing but what he is not doing* Neglect is an abuse. You are worried about having children. You say he loves children. Trust me this would make it worse. You would see him give all the time and love to the children he would never give you and you would be even more lost than you are now. *personal experience*
You want the cheapest solution, cut the ties now so it won't cost you more * your sanity and your finances**
Ok in other posts you have asked maybe you should just let him come and divorce him here, because you don't want to hurt his future. I can't help believe that this is fraud. If you bring him here with the sole purpose of giving him a better life before you divorce him then you are committing fraud with the VISA he receives in which you state that you have a true relationship. If you are looking for the perfect time to do this .... Trust me there is no perfect time, you just have to have the courage and do it. You will never be happy, he will not change, and in the end this will cost you so much more than the money you spent. Forget the airline tickets. Look at it as an investment in your happy future. Move on and let go the anchor that is pulling you down. Listen to your own heart for once. Do as others have said, call the appropriate people and cancel the VISA and file for divorce and move on with your life. Don't look at the this as you time in the past is wasted on him, look at it as you don't want to waste the rest of your live, your future. Give yourself a chance to be happy, you are worth it.
In all I wish you the best and I will pray for your strength and happiness.

You can contact ICE and the VISA FRAUD UNIT at the Embassy.
1. National ICE office
2. LOCAL USCIS OFFICE, attn ICE Section Head
3. VISA FRAUD UNIT back at the IV Unit of the US Embassy where she interviewed.
For each entity, submit a written letter, complete with bio info on the two of you, and then a few paragraphs on what you wish to report, then include references to the EVIDENCE that you are attaching with the letter.
It never, ever, works to just 'call ICE national number', you must, instead, use postal mail.
Good Luck !

If she referred to you as her husband then that might have set off a red flag, seeing as u said she isnt so fluent in English. so sorry that happened to her

Let's clarify a few things:
- no, spousal visa doesn't buy you a 10-year green card if the couple has been married less than 2 years. You'll have a conditional 2-year green card if you go through POE before your 2nd anniversary.
- if you divorce now, she will have to file for Removal of Conditions as soon as the divorce is finalized, NOT in 2 years. ROC works like that: 2 years after acquiring the LPR status if still married to the same USC OR immediately after divorce, should it be the case, then having to prove that the marriage was entered in good faith.
On a non-immigration related subject:
- bleech is bad, don't drink bleech. The people who said it was harmless are totally wrong. It will cause chemical burns to your digestive system and get you to the hospital. Will it kill you? Probably not, unless you get complications afterwards.
- not all girls bleed during/after their first sexual intercourse, she was right about that. I find the fact that you asked her about it quite interesting.
Now I think you are saying one thing and actually doing the contrary: you say that you want trust and honesty, that spouses must be open to hear each other's story, you want to be loved, but you agree to an arranged wedding with someone you obviously expected to meet all the requirements for your "perfect wife": virgin, honest, willing to tell you everything about her although she barely knew you.
I don't know how you could think that an arranged wedding would bring you love and an honest relationship. Maybe in 5 years time, that's what it could turn out to be. But what you did was marry a complete stranger, how could she sincerely love you?? She dumped the ex-boyfriend 2 days before the wedding... so?? She was not in love with you at that time, she was just completing her side of the agreement, and she stayed with the guy she loved as long as she could before tying the knot with the husband her family chose for her. What exactly is wrong with that?
I have to say I'm quite surprised by your expectations from an arranged marriage. From what I have witnessed (not in France of course, not in India either, in a third country where I lived during 5 years where arranged marriages are common), an arranged marriage is a lot of pretending and concealing, very little intimacy, and rarely any love at all. I've seen people who were ok with that, because they did NOT expect personal and emotional fullfilment through their marriage. They found that with their close family or friends, and their marriage was merely a way to have children and a respectable social status. There can be mutual respect and trust, but love is just not the foundation such a marriage is built on.
Divorcing her is gonna cause a shockwave which may have very serious consequences when it reaches her family back in India. That's something you should really think of before making any decision.

He asked for honesty and disclosure. She could have said that she would tell all someday but not then. She didn't. Instead she lied and let him believe she was what he wanted. And continued an affair with a married man until TWO DAYS before the marriage! She had to have known long before two days that the marriage would occur! Would ANY of you justifying her behavior have accepted your spouse continuing an illicit affair with someone else until 2 days before your wedding? I would like to know if any of you would say yes! I will wait for your reply!

Worst-case scenario lying manipulator! The first stuff was bad enough, but this is over the top. Lying in order to manipulate you into marrying her is not excusable but extortion by threat of suicide is someone you need to get away from right now unless you want this for the rest of your life.
Classic symptom of being held hostage by an emotional blackmail artist/lying manipulator: keeping you terrified of telling them what they don't want to hear. You also have a conscience, which is what she is abusing to keep you. She on the other hand has no conscience whatsoever: lying to your face and emotional blackmail with suicide threats... this is a five-alarm threat level ten hunter-killer manipulator unit. This is what the rest of your life will be like if you stay with this person.
You can't prove fraud with this much to the USCIS. But you can extricate yourself, so read on your local state court what the procedure is for disollution or no-fault divorce.
With a manipulative person like this you do not discuss the matter. You tell them your decision, and that's the end of it. Be kind, but separate yourself from her