djamella

Honestly, and without trying to be disrespectful, you should try to figure out what to do with your current situation- finding out that you have a child- and make sure that is taken care of. It's not your fault that you didn't know and whatever happened before can't be changed, but what you decide to do from know on is your responsability. If that kid is your child, then you are responsible for him/ her. Pal, you seem to have bigger issues now that meeting your russian girlfriend and getting her a visa. Kids first.
Good luck.

And its not about emotions, its about facts.
6 months????? What have you been doing 6 months to come to a conclusion like this?
As a woman I can assure you, it will backfire on you ... if she decides to have an abortion
based on the fact that you (stating you will never take care of it) talking her into one!
A woman in a situation like this is very easy to influence, and another fact is ... he didnt rape her!
The psychological damage is only a matter of time! A fact!
Sorry about the situation, but you need to find a healthy solution for all of you.

This thread should likely be locked. Can't ask a question like this and not expect an emotional response.

I am absolutely pro-choice, but 6 months is too late. If she wanted an abortion, she should have done it months and months ago. Time to deal with the consequences.
What kind of adult takes out their hatred for another man on a child?
You have issues. The visa sounds like the least of them.

Right. The only thing that MUST happen prior to sending the DS230 and civil documents is to pay the IV fee and download the cover sheet once the payment is processed. The most time efficient way to get through NVC would have you sending the financial package first, but it is not required.
All this discussion of "who fills it out" and "who 'sends' it" are kind of silly. The most efficient way to handle NVC is for the chosen "Agent" to collect everything and do the sending. The key issues are to have the correct information and signatures where they need to be, not who gets the information on the form or mails it somewhere.

yes that is very important..... i would question him why is he giving u a hard time.... does he still wanna do this before u uproot ur entire life to the US...

she got the visa,she just called me.am so happy,thank you guys for the lovely wish's

I've never understood why buying a house equates to more expense for some.
Your Husband sounds like he may be depressed. Was buying the house an idea he shared?
You have it made though (compared to the norm of EOMFCOIB wherein vawa/divorce/dv are the keywords) as your issues seems to be adjustable by a good talking to.
If left unchallenged then it could fester and quickly. A high percentage of divorce is due to finances. Mine was, Ex was making adequate money but believe that I as the Man of the house should foot all the bills
Please talk to your Husband and lay it all out on the floor, get help from pros and/or church, not friends for sure. I commuted 90 miles a day for 4 years in Texas, tell him to stop being a baby and Man up.

OP
since recently joining the friendly site of VJ (4 weeks ago)u have publicly searched by asking "legitimate questions" to obtain a visa to immigrate to the U.S. and this is why it seems like you might not have a Bona Fide Relationship with your SO. I post nothing negative and intend nothing with accusation
These are all your words from your posts in snippets.....
Posted 13 May 2012 ~
I want to move to the US but realise that it is not a matter of "get up and go".
I understand that the couple of ways to get a visa is either to get married to someone in the US and move there (obviously a proper devoted marriage) or to work for a US company who will sponser you and move you over.
however for me, both options are not possible.
I have no criminal record of any kind and are self employed in IT. I also have a US B1/B2 Visa (a business and visitor visa).
I am wanting to change my life and move away from where I am and would rather move to the US.
What things are possible for me to do this? Any suggestions or advice are welcome!
Posted 07 June 2012~
Hi.
if one wants to give up their UK citizenship (they were born and bred in the UK), then is it possible to gain for a US citizenship or would the same principals apply where you can only get a visa if a company employs you or you get married etc... ?
Posted 04 July 2012 ~
I currently live in the UK. I am wanting to move to the US for many reasons. The main being my line of work (in IT)I am wondering, is it possible for me to get a visa and migrate over taking my business with me? if so - what is the process? Anyone know where I stand on this? Like I said, I want to move myself and my company over to the US and continue doing what I do with the business but in US.
And when that post did not get the answers....
Posted 13 July 2012 ~
So,
for a K1 - how does it work? I mean from what I understand the person in the US would file for this. So what do they file? What sort of details are on the form they need to fill in?
what if the DOB is entered differently than the actual DOB? just the years having a mistake?
does age difference matter? she is older than me - around 10 years.
lets just say that she thinks im 2 years older than my DOB. but i think we all do that when you are dating.... ( you bad boy )
Four days ago...
well we arent engaged or anything yet. and it is still new, the relationship. but like i said... i have my reasons. she has her reasons for doing the same too!
Today ~
So I have a US girlfriend. we plan to marry at some point. Obviously means I would move over/immigrate to the US.
The bonus is, I dont need to apply for a K1 visa. I can get married on my curent B1/B2 visa then the girlfriend can file for the immigration thing/sponser. I can still continue to travel back and fourth which is ideal for me.
You seemed to have it all figured out now
BTW
IF this was for me....
what? give me a break.
I dont get why I cannot ask legitimate questions here. after all this is an open forum and it is meant to be a helpful community, not this kind of negitive and false accusation community.
You were helped in all your previous posts.
no wonder the world is in a state today because of such people.
Me being a member of VJ and pointing out that your story comes off questionable does not rock the state of the world.
I wonder why i bother anymore. I have nothing to hide so really, it is not my fault if you have issues. go sort them out
Thanks for the advice....No real hard issue on my side of the big pond
I do wish you both good luck with your future

what? give me a break.
I dont get why I cannot ask legitimate questions here. after all this is an open forum and it is meant to be a helpful community, not this kind of negitive and false accusation community.
no wonder the world is in a state today because of such people.
I wonder why i bother anymore. I have nothing to hide so really, it is not my fault if you have issues. go sort them out

I agree completely.
Under criminal law, you're considered innocent until proven guilty.
Under immigration law, you're considered guilty until proven innocent.

Cool. So that makes it easy since the wife is the only one trying to get the visa. When you filed for K-3, you also filed for IR-1/CR-1 at the same time. The I-130 is for the IR-1/CR-1, and the I-129F is for the K-3. Forget about the K-3 and go the IR-1/CR-1 route. Call NVC, tell them you want to get rid of your lawyer, and follow the instructions in the link I posted previously.

You were being very selfish and I say that with no malice intended and you asked for opinions.
Women are naturally flirty and seek attention. There's nothing wrong that per see when you are single but it needs to be adjusted once you get married, IMHO, and especially when the opposing party feels that it's inappropriate. Based on what you wrote, I think you did not do a good enough job, again IMHO. It's also a cultural thing and I'm kind of confused why you did not pick up on that while you lived in his home country and adjusted for that when you arrived back home.
I hope your Husband didn't give up all his opportunities/resoruces to follow you to your country and you basically sent him back - if he has left.
Me personally will seek divorce from you if I were him. You've showed your hand that you cannot be depended on.
All that being said, you should be happy and deserve to be happy and should never be in an unfruitful relationship. I do not fault you for seeking happiness but your execution was unsavory.
Good luck.

I am sorry to hear this, but this isnt the place to talk about your private problems ... people just talk and give advice as if they knew your situation,
as if they knew your relationship ... but noone can and thats just a fact. I wish you all the best and hopefully you both will solve the problem in peace!
Stay blessed!

I am sorry to hear this, but this isnt the place to talk about your private problems ... people just talk and give advice as if they knew your situation,
as if they knew your relationship ... but noone can and thats just a fact. I wish you all the best and hopefully you both will solve the problem in peace!
Stay blessed!

I wonder ...why do so many VJ's use the phrase..."send her back"...?
Why don't more VJ's use the phrase..."let her go"...?

I agree with you..she doesn't want your boys , she doesn't want you.. she went to USA for you not work...why would she go back if she cant find work...so selfish...

The poster was right to seek advise here and what everybody is saying about her been selfish is correct. it is very unfortunate for the wife to demand the kids be sent away and you ought to realise that.

I am sorry to hear this, but this isnt the place to talk about your private problems ... people just talk and give advice as if they knew your situation,
as if they knew your relationship ... but noone can and thats just a fact. I wish you all the best and hopefully you both will solve the problem in peace!
Stay blessed!

Hi, yes, your husband will defently loose his citizenship for germany. Germany is one of the few countries who DO NOT support dual citizenship.
Yes, he can apply for it ... but for this he will have to proove that he has family-blood-line related ties in the USA!! Or if he owns land, lots of houses, a company etc that makes him need the citizenship in germany ... but even then its almost impossible that germany accepts it. For more info you can message me cause there is one way he can keep both .... greetings from Heidelberg.