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    afoyoswa got a reaction from JE06 in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from kristen_maroc in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Kathryn41 in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Asia in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from X Factor in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from del-2-5-2014 in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from NY_BX in age differience urgent help plz   
    So, you've never met each other before in person, but you keep implying that the main purpose of her visiting you is to take some photos? I'd really like to hear her side of this!
    I agree with Rae Anne that the first step is to spend some time together in person and *then* decide whether it's a relationship worth pursuing further. Although I know many people feel differently, it seems like putting the cart before the horse to decide on the immigration approach first and then deliberately construct the relationship to match the requirements.
    We personally don't have a bunch of photos, and the ones we have were taken kind of as afterthoughts. I didn't come to VJ until after we were engaged and I had traveled back to the U.S., and so we didn't have a chance to specifically stage any photos for the petition (nor did it even occur to me that people did that!). And it's probably better that way. We were busy getting to know each other and learning to relate to each other as a real-life, in-person team, and taking photos was nice but kind of secondary to that. All the immigration stuff came together after the fact (although we did discuss the existence of the K-1 visa, which I had read a little about, and decide to go that route after we decided we wanted to be together), and only happened after we had decided that what we had in person was worth preserving to the extent that we would go through this long, expensive, stressful, frustrating visa process together. And the photos we do have look like the genuine sort of photos people take as they're going about their lives.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in Horrible marriage interview.   
    You're right that many of us haven't yet reached the phase you're in of the immigration process, and are always on the lookout for helpful stories and tips to file away for later reference. Your story, however, doesn't really accomplish much in that regard, because it's so difficult to make out what is going on, because you've been pretty defensive/evasive in responding to questions from people trying to clarify things, and because you seem to be mixing a whole bunch of interpretation in with the concrete details and not clearly differentiating which is which.
    And I agree that using "myname" (in a sentence where you also use "I" and speak in the first person) is impossibly difficult to follow, as is using **** to represent names you don't want to mention (it's more commonly used to represent profanities). Next time, I'd suggest using pseudonyms (friend is Laura "Jones" but CO asked who Laura "Smith" is, or Wife/Husband for the pair of you), if you're actually interested in providing an educational service.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Jakanna in Wedding Plans Thread   
    You had already expressed your opinion once, and that was enough. There is room in this thread for all kinds of different viewpoints, and yours is what is important to you but it is not the final word on the subject. I'm surprised you've gotten this far on VisaJourney and in life without being able to realize that it takes all kinds to make a world. Please calm down and stop judging people for making different decisions than you would make. Thanks!
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    I'm meeting next week with the photography company I want to use! They'll show me portfolios for different people they have available, and I'll get to pick one. Wish Aaron could be here to go to the meeting with me, but one of my bridesmaids is going, so that will be fun. Are any of you registering for gifts, and if so, is the international spouse participating somehow?
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from VeeNDee in is my fiance a fraud?   
    Only you can really completely see what is going on and make a decision, but from what you have said, there are a bunch of really enormous red flags. Any of those things individually (the multiple visa applications, the "bugging" comments, and the indications that he is planning for how things will be different after he gets the visa & is in the U.S.) would be cause for concern, but all of them together sounds really, really suspicious to me.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from MissAAA in Any February 2012 filers?   
    Oh, wow!!! So thrilled for you! It's about time.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Kathryn41 in Moved to the states & can't legally work!   
    Gosh, I wish this were true! But it's not. If you come in on a fiance(e) visa, you are not allowed to work until you marry the USC who petitioned for you and then apply for and receive the EAD (which you apply for at the same time as the green card, but which is processed more quickly). A good 3-4 months after you get married, I'm told.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Krikit in Moved to the states & can't legally work!   
    Gosh, I wish this were true! But it's not. If you come in on a fiance(e) visa, you are not allowed to work until you marry the USC who petitioned for you and then apply for and receive the EAD (which you apply for at the same time as the green card, but which is processed more quickly). A good 3-4 months after you get married, I'm told.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Lainie B in Moved to the states & can't legally work!   
    Gosh, I wish this were true! But it's not. If you come in on a fiance(e) visa, you are not allowed to work until you marry the USC who petitioned for you and then apply for and receive the EAD (which you apply for at the same time as the green card, but which is processed more quickly). A good 3-4 months after you get married, I'm told.
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    afoyoswa reacted to Gavin + Heather in Any February 2012 filers?   
    The process is quite straight forward. They blindfold a member of their staff, they go into the storage office and grab 3 random boxes. The contents of the boxes are then tipped out into one pile, which is then shuffled a little. All staff have to pick a handful of petitions from this pile blindfolded, they then have to find their way to a desk. Once at a desk they can removed the blindfold and start processing what they have.
    It's difficult for some as they even miss a lunch break while trying to find an unoccupied desk. I think they should introduce a rule that if they've not got a desk in a couple of hours they should be able to remove the blindfold. Any petitions not complete at the end of the day are randomly put back on the pile.
    At the end of the week very little is approved on Friday. This is because they're putting the petitions they haven't yet done back in boxes for storage over the weekend. Then Monday they repeat the above.
    I hope this helps, it's the only way I can imagine they do it
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    afoyoswa reacted to Bryan and Isabel in Any February 2012 filers?   
    im 1 week away from the VISAJOURNEY estimated NOA2 date, for once its not running away from me.. hahaha :rofl: :rofl:
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from ibee in Very upsetting answers on Visajourney   
    I just read back through all of your many threads on this topic, and all I saw was people being unfailingly helpful in trying to point out potential issues that may arise with the evidence you are planning to present in support of your case. I'm guessing this latest tirade from you is probably going to quash that helpfulness pretty effectively, though. Maybe it's time to take a breather from Teh Internetz if you're getting this worked up about what total strangers say to you in an online forum?
    Remember, though: no matter how well or how badly you do at convincing people on VJ of whatever you are trying to prove, it won't make a whit of difference in your immigration process what people at VJ think.
    All that matters is the evidence. No, it doesn't feel good to live your life being constantly aware of the necessity of creating evidence along the way for future immigration processes, but it's part of the reality of being in an international relationship, and most of us are used to it by now (or getting there).
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    afoyoswa reacted to Mariya and Tim in How long between NOA1 and NOA 2?   
    one thousand freaking months...
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Penny Lane in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    I was referring to your second post, but thanks. I think I have now found out why I stick only to the immigration areas of this board, and confine my discussion of other issues to venues where people are capable of having logical, well-thought-out, correctly punctuated and spelled, civil conversations without resorting to personal digs at each other. It's nice: you should try it sometime!
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from JohnR! in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    I was referring to your second post, but thanks. I think I have now found out why I stick only to the immigration areas of this board, and confine my discussion of other issues to venues where people are capable of having logical, well-thought-out, correctly punctuated and spelled, civil conversations without resorting to personal digs at each other. It's nice: you should try it sometime!
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from HAL 9000 in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    Did I say somewhere that the Pilgrims were tolerant? I'm pretty sure I said the exact opposite, actually.
    America is a pluralistic society, no matter how much the conservative Christian folks try to pretend otherwise. But trying to hearken back to some purer time when everything was supposedly exactly the way they want it to be now overlooks the fact that the Pilgrims and early Americans themselves probably wouldn't be any happier to be forcefed the modern, feel-good, get-rich-quick, let's-tell-everyone-how-to-behave version of Christianity than the rest of are now.
    So, the Pilgrims, very much like today's conservative Christians, did not want to live under a government that does not reflect (or better yet, mandate) their exact beliefs and lifestyle, but are perfectly okay having a religion and worldview imposed upon them by the government if it is exactly the same one they already follow. So, to them, "freedom of religion" really only means that they (and only they) should be free to establish a religious government that suits their needs? I see. This must be kind of like how all men are created equal, but some are more equal than others.
    I must say, it seems a lot more practical to keep a private endeavor like religion completely private, than to have people who are from all corners of the world and who believe vastly different things live under a state religion that lets some people be fully correct by ascribing to the state religion and believing the way they would have believed anyway, and paints everyone else as "un-American."
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from HAL 9000 in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    This. I have a hard time believing that the Pilgrims --albeit not known for being overly tolerant of religious minorities themselves despite their talk about freedom of religion-- would recognize or approve of what passes for Christianity in the public sphere these days. It might even make them want to pack up their boats and head off somewhere else where they can worship and live and believe as they please.
    This insistence on trying to make sure everyone else thinks, believes, and behaves exactly the same way you do (or supporting organizations that do) makes no sense. A world where no one is trying to force religion down someone else's throat is not a secular world or an anti-Christian world: it's a respectful, sane world. Just sell your chicken sandwiches and keep your nose and your money out of things that don't concern you in any way whatsoever.
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    afoyoswa got a reaction from Knope2012 in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    This. I have a hard time believing that the Pilgrims --albeit not known for being overly tolerant of religious minorities themselves despite their talk about freedom of religion-- would recognize or approve of what passes for Christianity in the public sphere these days. It might even make them want to pack up their boats and head off somewhere else where they can worship and live and believe as they please.
    This insistence on trying to make sure everyone else thinks, believes, and behaves exactly the same way you do (or supporting organizations that do) makes no sense. A world where no one is trying to force religion down someone else's throat is not a secular world or an anti-Christian world: it's a respectful, sane world. Just sell your chicken sandwiches and keep your nose and your money out of things that don't concern you in any way whatsoever.
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    afoyoswa reacted to james&olya in Where was God in Aurora massacre?   
    I love the comments such as the one bemoaning the 'fact' that god has been excluded from 'everywhere'. Do these people ever stop to think where it is they should be finding god? If they want god how about looking at the church of their choice? How about looking for him in the privacy of their own homes? Nobody has banned the bible or any other christian books. There is no 'war on christianity' going on here. If people want god they can 'find' him very easily. No, what they really want is for all of us to live in a homogenous narrow-minded society where we are all instructed from early on in what we are to believe. They do not believe in freedom of and from religion. They are really quite un-american actually!!
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