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    ndu26 got a reaction from AracelliCB in VSC and CSC meaning.   
    dates indicate when a major update happened for your case.
    VSC: vermont service center
    CSC: California Service center
    NBC: national benefits center
    ...etc
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    ndu26 reacted to LoveNigarmostyle in Negative posts about Nigerians v. postive posts   
    Hello VJ friends,
    Recently I posted about my husband and myself and about our relationship status since his arrival from Nigeria. For those of you who have knows about our story and visa journey then you know it took us a long time to be finally together.
    Since his arrival, we have been happy and our married life has been a great one. I posted a little update to encourage those who are still in their VJ to let them know that not EVERY relationship or marriage with a Nigeria is doomed, for the wrong reasons, for scam, or destined to fail. I got over thousand readers of our post but a handful posted their comments.
    Then a week or so later, another member came in and posted a very vindictive and generalized post about all Nigerians and most people on VJ jumped to the opportunity to say their peace and point a finger at the person as if saying "you should of known this would happen when you married a Nigerian!".
    Often we hear only one side of the story when people come back and post their dissatisfaction with the outcome of the broken marriage/relationship. I am not saying there is no truth in their stories, but hearing one side of the story doesn't mean we are getting all the facts. I personally run a support group on FB and I have met many couples Nigerians or otherwise with most having a successful outcome once they are together.
    PLEASE those who are with their mates finally, instead of forgetting to come back and share your experiences, come back and share so others can relate, learn and grow from your experiences. WE hold valuable lessons for others to learn from. It is not just the bad that needs to be share. The good and positive does too!
    I might be a one voice who repeats myself......but I pray I make an impact somehow, someway to exonerate the Nigerians name and reputation. Also, to give those Nigerians who's intentions are not so noble an incentive to improve and better themselves to do right by others.
    We are one race that being human. Please love, help and support each other to improve life for others as much as we do for ourselves. God bless!
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    ndu26 got a reaction from Tuti & Baher in Parents got their visas!!   
    LOL! I can imgaine,thats why I said "a bit'. The immigration part is less hassle for now.
    Hubby is coming in Monday morning by God's grace and I dnt even have energy to receive him.
    i am trying to print out all the necessary forms for SSN, DMV/state ID etc cos I know I wont be in the best condition to drive him around for the next couple of weeks.
    I had planned to make some fresh meals and possibly rearrange the bedroom a bit but those ideas are already flying out of my head cos I cant even lift myself right now LOL.
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    ndu26 reacted to dwheels76 in September 2013 Interviews   
    Hey there. Longest time. My goodness your plate is sure full. Congratulations on all the progress.
    How's Lil miss doing? I bet now getting her own little personality and all that fun coooing stuff.
    Well nice to hear from you.
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    ndu26 reacted to Ebunoluwa in Question regarding 2nd I-130 Lagos Nigeria   
    Unfortunately a K1 visa is not a 'getting to know each other' visa but based on definite intent marriage which you will state in the letter of intent.
    Lagos denies more K1's than CR1's.
    If your K1 is denied, and there is a good chance that it may with the red flag of a previous approved petition from a high fraud country,
    then the case will expire and you have the option to either refile or move to Nigeria.
    CR1's are a little stronger and if the CO refuses to issue the visa then the case gets send back but you will have a chance to overcome the refusal.
    Not so with a K1...ones send back that's it. Extremely rare exceptions with VSC. Forget it if you go through CSC, they don't reaffirm.
    Some key issues here would be the time gap between the two relationships, when did you divorce and how long after that did you meet your current fiance ?
    If they are many years apart it is better than a few months or couple years in between.
    You have the option to marry and file a CR1 but since you seem a little unsure of his motive and understandably so, you have to weigh the risks.
    The best thing to do woud be to go very slow, visit 2-3 times for as long as you can, even stay there for a few months if you can to
    give the CO the impression that you will be more alert and cautious this time around.
    Meanwhile you can get an awareness and insight of any inconstencies your fiance may show during a longer wait.
    Some can't keep the game up for long and get too impatient and find another faster route on the highway of life.
    Some can keep it up but not without a few things to make you go "WTH ?" now and then that you want to examine on a deeper level.
    Since you reported the ex as a scammer you will be scrutinized more on the other hand it should point to at least your own genuine
    motive and intent, i.e. you did not marry him as a sham to get paid.
    In a nut shell....take it slow and enjoy the ride, gather loads of genuine relationship evidence without the element of speeding through this.
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    ndu26 reacted to NigeriaorBust in Question regarding 2nd I-130 Lagos Nigeria   
    My thought exactly especially if this new one is from the same area as the old one. They pass names along. For all that I love my husband and the good Nigerians I truly wish that they would find a better way of outing scammers. I wish they could administer lie detector interviews in high fraud countries. End the false denials and stop the liars before they get here and wreck havoc on the unsuspecting USC.
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    ndu26 reacted to dwheels76 in Marriage Certificate in Nigeria   
    You need to call USCIS and speak to a Tier 2 supervisor and explain what you just told us.
    And what do you mean the registry in lagos doesn't keep marriage records? Ummmm we would all be in trouble. That's where most of us get our certified copy from.
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    ndu26 got a reaction from Sundara in Questions about number of children . . .   
    No that should not matter. My mom gave birth to a child after me who died at infancy and I have never included her in any records.
    I assume they need that info to be able to trace and link family connections inother apllications/petitions.
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    ndu26 reacted to B & G in Anyone else feel this way?   
    I have been a dual citizenship holder for many years now. Even though I was born in Greece to a Greek family, I grew up in Australia. Lived there from the age of 7 till 19. And for the passed 12 years I have been living in Greece. My Australian accent still holds true, thank god! lol!!
    And when the time comes for me to apply for a US citizenship, I will do that too. My dad once told me, embrace the land you call home like its your own. But keep your heritage alive in your family and in your heart.
    So I believe that becoming a US citizen, wont take away from my Greek heritage or from the Aussie land that raised me, but it will honor my husband's heritage and the land that will raise my children.
    I think I will just end up calling myself a Greek-born Australian American!
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    ndu26 got a reaction from NikLR in question about form I864 and I864A   
    just so you are clear, study this link on when an I-864A is needed:
    http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-864ainstr.pdf
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    ndu26 got a reaction from Autumnal in Wife had to show her US passport to leave her home country!   
    I do not see whata was wrong with the procedure you stated.
    I travel with both my Nigerian and US. passports. I show my Nigerian passpot when i arrive Nigeria to show I have "permission to visit/stay" and when leaving I show my US Passport to show I have permission to enter the destination. Of course they also want to see my Nigerian passport on departure to be sure I was not legal during my stay I guess.
    If do not want to go with both passports, then I would stick with my US passport and make sure I have a visa to enter Nigeria whenever I am taveling there.
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    ndu26 got a reaction from Asia in Wife had to show her US passport to leave her home country!   
    I do not see whata was wrong with the procedure you stated.
    I travel with both my Nigerian and US. passports. I show my Nigerian passpot when i arrive Nigeria to show I have "permission to visit/stay" and when leaving I show my US Passport to show I have permission to enter the destination. Of course they also want to see my Nigerian passport on departure to be sure I was not legal during my stay I guess.
    If do not want to go with both passports, then I would stick with my US passport and make sure I have a visa to enter Nigeria whenever I am taveling there.
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    ndu26 got a reaction from samename in Lagos k1 case not in system???   
    Debbie is right. It takes couple of weeks sometimes to get the case 'into their system'. We got about the same kind of response too and I was told to check back again two weeks before my husband's interview which I never did anyway.
    you will be fine just email them again soonest. Sometimes the CEAC tracking gives you an update when they finally eneter it. It will show a newer date of update to your file which means someone has touched it there.
    Best wishes.
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    ndu26 reacted to Grant PDX in you are not welcomed in my home where i alone pay my bills   
    I was a little concerned that the OP didn't sound as concerned about the relationship as he was about the greencard. Take care of the relationship first, then there won't be GC issues. I think that's what most posters are focusing on. But the bottom line is, the visa is relationship based. If the relationship is over, it doesn't make sense to immigrate, unless that is the real goal. If you are only looking to immigrate, and the relationship isn't the primary reason for it, I see a problem with the visa. If the relationship is the only goal, and it falls apart, so does the visa. If it doesn't fall apart there is no visa issue.
    I don't know where there is any question about where the GC is mailed. If you're together, it will be to your address. If you're not together why are you still coming? Is the relationship really the reason for the visa, or is the visa the goal and the relationship only the means?
    Good luck with that.
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    ndu26 got a reaction from samename in Where can I find Alien Registration Number?   
    only the petitioner has an A# for now. The beneficiary does not have one until he/she becomes a legal alien in the U.s
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    ndu26 got a reaction from del-2-5-2014 in Now I know what people feel...   
    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
    You need to go through it to fully understand that feeling LOL. Few months ago, some people were chastizing others for celebrating their approvals just because their own cases were being delayed. When few of them eventually got their approvals, they expected others to rejoice with them .
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    ndu26 got a reaction from HappyDeux :-) in Now I know what people feel...   
    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
    You need to go through it to fully understand that feeling LOL. Few months ago, some people were chastizing others for celebrating their approvals just because their own cases were being delayed. When few of them eventually got their approvals, they expected others to rejoice with them .
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    ndu26 got a reaction from oohpartiv in May 2013 Interviews   
    WE HAVE MOVED OVER TO THE JUNE 2013 INTERVIEWS THREAD:
    http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/428289-june-2013-interviews/
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    ndu26 reacted to NikLR in IR1/CR-1 spouse visa   
    Why did you file them separately? Did you not set them together?
    Also make sure that you have consent from the father OR show proof that you have full custody of your child. She doesn't need to be adopted by her step father (unless that's something you want to pursue) but you need to show you can move with her freely at the NVC and consulate/embassy.
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    ndu26 reacted to WaitingStill in We Are a Perfect Match, But... Did We Meet Too Late? Please Help!   
    You are correct. There is no (good) way for you two to be together. Let his relationship with his wife play out, and don't get involved. Forget the legal issues. No matter what they are, they can be handled 99.5% of the time. If you were meant to be together, it will happen in time. But you can't begin a successful relationship by destroying one that came before it.
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    ndu26 reacted to sara..... in Old vs New VisaJourney Logo?   
    i like the old because i feel the road that the stick figure is running on really represents the journey that immigration is more than the new one does
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    ndu26 reacted to M and C in A little Inspiration   
    But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.
    -- Isaiah 40:31 (English Standard Version)
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    ndu26 reacted to speedwell in my wife had an easiest interview   
    1. Why are you complaining?
    2. Why are you worried?
    3. Why can't you just enjoy it?

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    ndu26 reacted to NikLR in Would you tell your spouse?   
    Agreed!
    Working for a company like that would be akin to working for the military with top secret clearance IMHO. You do things you can't tell your spouse about, but that doesn't mean they don't know you work for the Air Force, or Marines etc... Your spouse deserves to know what you do for a living.
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    ndu26 reacted to dmck in Must I visit??   
    Please consider carefully the desire to marry someone you have never met in person. Learning how you travel together, live together, do finances, take care of personal things, family, all these items will dramatically affect your marriage. This person may be very lovely and charming online and on the phone, but you two may discover that taking a vacation together is an absolute nightmare. You pack light, he brings the kitchen sink. You like to go to the beach and relax, he wants to hike through the jungle for 5 days and camp. Really please, if you are truly to be together, take the time to learn these things. My fiancé and I have known each other for 5 years and only been dating for just under 2. We have seen each other multiple times, learned the quirky things about each other and learned how to adjust. This stuff can get really complicated if you are married and have the pressure of trying to make it work just because. 20 years from now, you will find that the 1-2 years of being engaged, seeing each other, surviving a long distance relationship is nothing to what you have in the end......
    good luck!
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