TeapotGirl

It can be either or or both. Me and my fiance got 29yrs age gap but I am already 28, I got a good paying job in a call center and I reached graduate school in a known State university. I can basically get any guy that I want if I wanted to. I am not ugly even if I am short.
I am just not sure if I want to live in the US or not that's why I took K-1 route. If I didn't like it there, we will go back to the Philippines, so I don't call myself desperate to get the US visa.

Well lets admit it. It's really true that A LOT of May-December affair has some hidden agenda to it. The guy wants a trophy wife, the woman needs financial security.

Well lets admit it. It's really true that A LOT of May-December affair has some hidden agenda to it. The guy wants a trophy wife, the woman needs financial security.

Well lets admit it. It's really true that A LOT of May-December affair has some hidden agenda to it. The guy wants a trophy wife, the woman needs financial security.

I am marrying him for both reasons plus we get along and I am happy. I would not marry just because I love him nor because of money. Breads "When were hungry love will keep is alive" is bull**** same thing with 4M's. I never had a death on a immediate family and that sounds devastating.
1. P6k? Is there any call centers in remote area? I am Level 2 technical troubleshooter. It pays 5 figures every month. (clue- P10K x 2 plus) It pays more than food chain supervisor or teacher.
2. True, you have to at least in the 2nd year college to have a job as a sales clerk here in Manila. But I didn't become a sales clerk. I could have teached if I wanted to but call center pays more.
3. Call my line "get any guy if I wanted to" boastful but I heard that line for countless of times from the same people like you who has issues with my relationship.
4. Inner beauty is a Beauty contest cliche. True, but beautiful people always sells and easily liked. It pays to be beautiful.
5, I am just not sure if I want to live in the US or not that's why I took K-1 route--So why did you ever had your fiancee petition for you --another red ** . - HUH? I have never been in the US. How will I know if I really don't like it there if I wont give it a try?
6. Me and my fiance have been together for 5 yrs. Yes, I am on a trial error stage- where to live Oh yeah, my fiance is very aware of this and as a matter of fact, he's the one who told me that it's ok to relocate because he noticed that I can't tolerate the AC. I may have worked in a building with cold freezing AC temp but I wear 2 thick layers of clothing from neck to toe.
My fiance is retired, so he can basically be anywhere in the world so residence is not an issue to him. He just leave it to me where I can be happier on both career and cultural side. He knows that even if call center pays a lot, I do not like it. I just do it because I sent my brother in a nursing school. He just graduated this November. I know he'll have a hard time to look for a job because of the course's oversupply but he is on his own now specially when I get married
Now, I do not mean to be boastful. I just do not like the term DESPERATE so I have to tell you what's my background so you could cut me some slack. I am personally against some young girls marrying a way old foreigner so this guy will support her entire family. Because of that, couples like us becomes affected with such stereotyping. Well that's fine. I just need to be a croc skin for the most part.
Also God isn't just teaching to be humble but also not to be judgmental. That's what Jesus Christ taught us about Mary Magdalene, right?

I like that..Filed three petitions, one approved, one withdrawn and one ran away. I wonder too if the second and 3rd one the same person too. Is it a bad judgement, bad women, bad OP or combination of any.

I like that..Filed three petitions, one approved, one withdrawn and one ran away. I wonder too if the second and 3rd one the same person too. Is it a bad judgement, bad women, bad OP or combination of any.

Even if this a fictional horror story, I will still thank the OP because of this thread, I learned what VAWA, FSU, RUB, Munchausen syndrome are and what someone could do if this happens really to you or anybody you know.
It is not that far from reality at all, you know? Just the vanishing act, I mean.

This is a matter of policy rather than law, so a petition certainly could make a difference. Whether it actually would depends on why the US Embassy in Mauritius doesn't handle K1 visas. My guess is that it's probably because Mauritius has a total population around 1 million, so they probably wouldn't get very many K1 visa applications there, and they can't justify the expense of having an immigrant visa unit at that embassy.
Anyway, it wouldn't hurt to try. Direct your petition at Secretary Clinton.

Careful. VAWA absolutely DOES require proof that the applicant entered the marriage in good faith. Also, a VAWA self-petitioner who divorces may be required to show proof that the abuse was the primary cause for the divorce. Most VAWA self-petitioners find it less complicated to postpone divorce until after the VAWA petition is approved.
Julio, I don't know where to begin...
Working. What she's telling you about Filipino women not working is bullsh!t. There are a LOT of Filipino women here in the part of California where I live. We shop for Asian foods at some Filipino supermarkets in the area. Heck, there's even a JolliBee burger joint here (if you don't know what that is then ask a Filipino)! Most all of the women who are old enough are married, and most all of them work. Every time I go to a local hospital better than 80% of the nurses are Filipino, and they are ALL immigrants - not second generation kids of immigrants. If she's telling you this is cultural then she's yanking your chain.
Million dollar romance. Anyone who spent a million bucks on trips to the Philippines was probably flying first class, getting the absolute best suite in the best hotel, and had a dozen hookers in his room every night. Even then, you'd be hard pressed to spend more than $100K if you went for two weeks out of every month for a year. The flights can be expensive - over a thousand bucks round trip, depending on the time of year. Everything else in the Philippines is dirt cheap compared to the US. Either he's lying to her, or she's lying to you.
Philippines and divorce. The Philippines is one of only three countries in the world that do not recognize divorce. The other two are Malta and the Vatican. A Filipino who marries abroad is considered married in the Philippines. A Filipino cannot obtain a divorce in the Philippines, though annulment is possible. A Filipino can have a foreign divorce recognized in the Philippines ONLY if the spouse was not a Philippine national, and the spouse initiated the divorce. Even then, it takes a COURT ORDER in the Philippines to have the divorce recognized. Bigamy is a crime in the Philippines, punishable by jail. If she files for divorce then she won't be able to return to the Philippines without risking getting charged with bigamy unless she becomes a US citizen first.
Ex-spouses assets. Unless he won the lottery during the brief time she's been married to her husband, it isn't likely that she's eligible to get ANY of his assets. Many people wrongly believe that a wife is automatically entitled to half of her husband's assets as soon as they say "I do". Those people have never actually been through a divorce. Most states only allow the divorcing spouses to split the "marital assets", which are generally defined as assets acquired DURING the marriage. Anything he owned before the marriage will usually remain his own separate property. There are some exceptions. For example, any money he earned while they were married is marital income. If he made mortgage payments out of that income then she might have a claim to any equity accrued in the home during the marriage. Likewise, if he made any car payments out of marital income then she might have a claim to half the percentage of the value of the car he paid off; e.g., if those payments added up to 20% of the loan, then she might have a claim to 20% of the market value of the car. "Entitled to his assets"? No. Not hardly. "Threaten to clean him out"? No way. In a marriage with a duration this short it's highly unlikely they would even order him to pay her any spousal support. I doubt she could get anything at all from him.
Illegal immigrants. Technically, an illegal immigrant is any alien who is unlawfully present in the United States, including someone who overstayed their visa. You're probably referring to people who enter the United States without inspection (EWI); i.e., they walk across the border.
Yes, unfortunately, VAWA can be used by an EWI to get a green card. The basic requirement is that they are married to a US citizen or permanent resident, and that the abuse occurred in the United States (with some exceptions). An odd dichotomy is that a K1 can ONLY get a green card through VAWA if they married the K1 petitioner, while someone who walked across the border could marry anyone.
Employment Authorization. An EAD is permission to work in the United States. Nothing less or more. There are no strings attached. If you're eligible to get an EAD then you can request one and get it. You aren't required to have a job offer in order to get it, nor are you required to actually get a job in order to keep it. As long as you remain eligible, you can renew it. An EAD is usually good for a year. Why anyone would need to renew an EAD more than six months in advance is a mystery to me.
You've obviously done a lot of research already. I recommend you continue to research, but take your time. She can't get any immigration benefits through you because she entered with a K1 visa, so there's no need for you to feel compelled to rush anything. Allow some time for the VAWA process to play itself out, and use the time to develop your relationship and get to know her better. You should ALSO get to know her family and friends, both in the US and the Philippines, as well as Philippine culture. When you marry someone from that part of the world you are marrying an entire family.

Take it easy, do not rush, you have time to get to know each other, she has stuff to fix on her side.

Being a full time housewife an agreement specially if the guy really earns more than enough.
Just looking around my neighbors and friends (I am still here in PI and this is a neighborhood of classes between few B's, C and D), I could only count in my fingers women who doesn't work. Even if they do not belong in a corporate world, somehow they are still finding ways to help their husbands like putting up retail store, sell stuff (clothes, AVON, etc), get into project based or weekly work (laundry or cleaning).

Bill, it sounds like you're the problem.
As a bartender, she will speak with customers, and they will hit on her. This is what life is like for every female bartender. You have to trust your wife to say no. If she didn't tell you about being hit on, perhaps you should be more suspicious. If she was a bartender in Thailand, and she did more than flirt with customers, you knew precisely what you were getting into.
If she were using you, she'd stay quiet until her status was solid, then leave you the day after she didn't need you. Instead, she's complaining loudly about the lifestyle and you. This would indicate that she did come with honorable intentions. She's also paying for you. Why would she do it if she didn't like you? She doesn't want to be here except for you.
Looking at it from her side, she's in a land she dislikes, paying for a jealous, deadbeat husband who's plotting to deport her.
You are the issue. You married a wife. You didn't buy an indentured servant. Educate yourself, get a job, and be worthy of your wife. All you have are jealous suspicions that would drive any woman into the arms of another.

She will need the IR-1 to immigrate. If you want to visit for vacation or to look for homes to buy etc, then a tourist visa would be appropriate, but she cannot use the tourist visa to move to the USA/ live there, only to visit. It will be difficult for her to get a tourist visa given she is married to a US citizen, but not impossible. If you have the money, I'd apply for one- even if denied, it won;t affect the IR-1.

Why make things more difficult then they are? You still have quite a bit to go yet. You cannot wait until she is here and married? What is the rush? It's..hopefully..only a few more months.

You and your buddy should sit down and thoroughly read the instructions for the I-129F. If you read and understand those instructions then you will know that you can't simply file the form without the other required forms and supporting evidence. The VJ guides are almost entirely based on those form instructions.
Except for forms and documents that require a signature from you or your fiancee, you should always send photocopies of supporting evidence. If they have any questions about the original documents then they'll ask you to submit them, but that doesn't happen often.

Even if this a fictional horror story, I will still thank the OP because of this thread, I learned what VAWA, FSU, RUB, Munchausen syndrome are and what someone could do if this happens really to you or anybody you know.
It is not that far from reality at all, you know? Just the vanishing act, I mean.

Most likely it's just someone you live with. Don't worry you will get this through. Someone who's not happy about on her/his own skin, extend an effort to inflict pain on someone and gets a gratification from it.

I read your previous thread about missing passport a while ago. I had feeling that must have been something unusual did happened when suddenly your passport was nowhere. Whoever did this to you, NOT ONLY HATES you. But I guarrantee, she MUST BE DEADLY JEALOUS to you. Thinking you will going to another country, live with your loved one, and have a better life than hers. It reminds me of Crab Mentality.
ONE LESSON: Take care all your legal documents that you need in the future. Be aware of people around you and make sure something like this do not happen again. Good luck.

I like that..Filed three petitions, one approved, one withdrawn and one ran away. I wonder too if the second and 3rd one the same person too. Is it a bad judgement, bad women, bad OP or combination of any.

I like that..Filed three petitions, one approved, one withdrawn and one ran away. I wonder too if the second and 3rd one the same person too. Is it a bad judgement, bad women, bad OP or combination of any.

Yeah, regardless of whether you're immigrant or native-born, if you want to enjoy something that is age-restricted - smokes, alcohol, gambling, and apparently R-rated movies - you should be ready to show ID. I've seen people get carded at the store who are clearly grandparents already.

Hahaha...Be careful what you ask for. My fiancee was there for a while...that group has turned from a Visa/Immigration support/help group into a bunch of arguing, backbiting, vulgar, women. Several splinter groups are now started and the PL group is fighting them and making snide remarks about them because they started a new group to get away from the bickering. They also quite often have lots of sex talk and non-immigration topics.
Of course that's OK if that's what the moderators want the group to be....but be careful you don't dis one of the higher ups or you will get plastered..hahaha

You just can't please everybody. No matter what you do, someone somewhere will still say something about you. If you are generous with everybody, you are boastful- for those who are outside that circle. If you are stingy, it's you are still boastful.
When you discuss financial matters, you are opening can of worms. I don't do this with people that doesn't know me well because I may be perceived as "mayabang" or pompous/boastful (just in case I am a little better), be thought as inferior (if they happen to be financially better) or I am already subjected myself into being future "Town's godmother". Those who really knew me knows how thrifty I am. I just don't give away money that easily. Call me "walang pakisama"(non sport) I do not care. I am alone about most of my financial problems anyway, what's the difference?
As to the language, I was very fluent in Pangalatok when I was around 7y/o but when we moved to Makati, I haven't found anybody to converse it with so I eventually forgot how to peak it. My mother do not speak it and my father do not talk to me in Pangalatok though he's fluent too. I am surprised that people find it boastful!
If someone would like to strike a conversation with me, we can talk about almost anything: history, culture, multimedia arts, movies, news and current affairs, politics, beauty and wellness (except math) but please..let's leave financial matters alone. It's like someone's asking me to strip. There's plenty of things that can we talk about.

As proficient as one may get, we are still non-native speakers, and that might become painfully obvious at times. It happens, that shouldn't be a reason to automatically dismiss the other person's abilities.
Btw, should't it be a grad. like yourself? I am trying to improve my English, I have no ulterior reason for asking this question.