Olomi_811

Go there and get married.

This is not so so accurate information. Everyone going to consultants practice should be prepared to pay more that N10,000 for vaccination and other extras not mentioned anywhere, at their office.

NONE of these details mattered until after the fact and when you felt others needed to know them in order to side with you. People always want to see and know that the person whom they feel wronged them has been hurt just as badly. You don't get to make that call. You have your answers do what you need to do to protect yourself and MOVE ON. Holding bitterness and grudges only makes you deteriorate quicker and keep you stagnant. Grieve the loss, learn the lesson in this, and let go.

I'm sorry to say, but all this talk of revoke this, contact this, report this...blah blah blah...is all pretty much useless and he will stay in the states and be granted all he wishes to be granted. There are a million ways he will make the system work in his favor. My ex-husband did this to me. We were together, he came to the states, and shortly thereafter he met up with other Nigerians and they all advised him on how he could beat the system and he did. He started an argument with me one day over a phone call and before I knew it ..he was leaving. I cried and begged for him not to leave, but he just kept going. I had no idea where he was staying, he changed his phone number, didnt reply to my emails, etc. I went to homeland security 2 weeks later and reported him gone and told them i suspected fraud. After all this...I found out he said I thru him out of the house, treated him bad, etc. He was granted ALL that he wished for and my name was dragged thru the mud just to save himself. If anyone at the USCIS or any of these places had a brain, they wud reason that why would someone go thru ALLLLL I had to go thru to have him come here, just to throw him out? I mean get real. I was the best wife anyone could be to someone, but they dont even contact you to get your side of the story. They protected him as if he was some victim !!! So please dont waste your time and energy trying to fight anything or get him deported or anything. LET HIM GO. Just move on with your life and put all this behind you. You've spent a LONGGG time going thru the process of having him be there with you...dont waste anymore of your life now trying to undo the process....bcuz in the end, it wont work anyways!! The man I am with now, said something to me, that I will now say to you: This guy you were with and all he did to you..."one day he will surely be paid with the same coin that he spent".

NONE of these details mattered until after the fact and when you felt others needed to know them in order to side with you. People always want to see and know that the person whom they feel wronged them has been hurt just as badly. You don't get to make that call. You have your answers do what you need to do to protect yourself and MOVE ON. Holding bitterness and grudges only makes you deteriorate quicker and keep you stagnant. Grieve the loss, learn the lesson in this, and let go.

No he isnt asking me to pay for these things his family is having him pay for their expenses. But what is sad is in a "normal" marriage no one would ask that question or accuse a spouse of scamming if they had financial issues you would expect they would support each other. The fact that he is having so many things all at one time is exactly why I was asking for some prayers for him from people who would understand.

I hate to say this but people like OP's husband ruin it for everyone else I hope he hasn't ruined her from finding true-love in the future with someone who will value her for HER!

Inventory:
No trust, no fidelity, no maturity, no accountability, no respect = no foundation for a marriage or anything within a long stone's throw of it.

This one is for you Mrs. Johnson, one of my favorites:
"When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back. There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there. Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them. Let them leave your life quietly. Letting go is often times easier than holding on. We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do. Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?” :bonk: :bonk:

Im not sure about race difference but sounds like if your friends have been fighting for that long there is more to the story than just race.....

Ladybug, I have to say this... Most folks (regardless of race) who get turned down have a story.... their own story. It could range from anything such as lack of proof, pictures, story didn't sound real, the interviewer is ignorant. Your story is your own. I see plenty of mixed race couples here who get approved.. IE Jill and Ben he's now home and they are crazy happy. Make this interview your own. Prep him the best you can and don't stop praying or give up. Remember this is your time and your lives. Don't let the stories of others dictated your ending... because yours is a happy one :")

All the details lie with you and so do your answers. There is something I like to call "what he said vs what you heard." So often women accuse men of lying when the man has actually told you their intentions and shown you who they are, but we romanticized them. What has he told you that you laughed off or thought "oh he doesn't mean that?" I would suggest you do somethings that you like doing to quiet your mind and you'll get your answers. (sit by a river, go to the beach, take a walk)

God be with the families of lost love ones. Dana Airlines knew that plane was not fit for travel but greed, non cosideration for human life seem to be number one. I pray for peace and maybe just maybe this will force the airlines to do a better job at inspecting planes and not endangering the lives of others for the sake of money.

Sorry for the denial. I know that is very disappointing and disheartening, but making statements like this speak to a deeper personal issue. Depression in it's on right is hard to cope with without additional stressors. Have you thought of talking to a therapist or psychiatrist? You can't rely solely on your husband to pull you through and it's unhealthy to expect that.

Ummm...I read your post 2x and the responses. This person didn't force you online in Dec. 2009. She didn't pay for the flights in March or Nov. 2010. You were not held at gunpoint to proceed with a wedding. She didn't file CR1 by herself. You had to fill out a majority of the paperwork to get through NVC including entering your routing and bank acct numbers. Now you write asking if it's bonafide and making it look like you are helpless? If you didn't want to do any of this all you had to say was NO. None of us were online when you started this relationship, we didn't go on the trips, never spent time with you or her, & and don't know what promises you made or didn't make.

I don't argue with solid brick walls or Oak Logs. Just answer the OP's questions is all that is asked. We each have our Opinions. The OP has to decifer which is best for their situation. Surely a Birth Cert exists and a Passport. Completing the paperwork is of most importance. The OP also has doubts about income requirements as well. We should answer as best as we can and refrain from personal comments...

Divorce and move on. It hurts, but it is survivable.

A month before I got my NOA2 someone posted a question asking how she could get her sister to the US. This sparked my own curiosity and not wanting to rely on VJ member answers; I went on my own quest for knowledge. I found an unrelated Article written by a former CO. After reading this in its entirety, I changed my thinking on how I would get my husband home.
If you have not gotten your NOA2 and you are wondering if more evidence would be a good idea; skipping down to the heading You Can't Always Get What You Want: An Uphill Struggle which is just above the conclusion will be of benefit to you especially if the embassy you're petitioning is tough. I sent my additional evidence with my IV bill on 3/15 (weekend) it arrived on 3/19 and my case closed on 3/20.
Will everyone's case move as fast? Maybe not
Is it worth leaving to chance that your spouse will be asked for it during their interview? NOT AT ALL
Advise your spouse of all that you (as a couple) are sending and why. Discuss it at length so they can be prepared to combat the CO's badgering.
I did email the author on 1/10/11, but of course there was no reply.
I hope this is as helpful to you as it was to me.

How/where did you meet? Was it online? Do you have chat logs and emails? Do you have friends and family that you have confided in or who have skyped/ chatted with your husband during the course of the relationship before and after the wedding? Ask them to write affividats attesting to what they know get them notarized and mailed to you (include the postmarked envelop of the ones mailed to you). Did your pics include both of you in the pics with the family/friends? Did you file taxes married joint? Did your marriage cert. have a seal? Are there pics of both of you and your officiant?
Get yourself together and fight

Just curious...As a I130 filler, why would you know the delay in I129f?

Too bad for the i-129 Non-immigrant worker applications (not i-129F, petition for Fiancee)
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=f56e4154d7b3d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
And here I was going "Hey there's no IR1/CR1 poll for me to participate!"

Have the baby in Nigeria.

A petitioner should treat this process as though there was not a "return to sender" option. It's not fair to look at your role in this journey from a position of leverage and power. People mention the heart of the USC; it's bad enough that USCIS paperwork refer to people as ALIENS (hubby really took offense to that), but to have the frame of mind that only the USC has a heart implies that you believe your worth is more.
When the relationship is USC & USC the issue of returning them is null. Can you truly say the hurt is greater when the person is from another country or is your mentality that you believe you've paid for this person so they owe you?

Nothing irks me more than seeing "CAN I SEND THEM BACK?" or some variation of this. I admit with all the fees you pay the immigration process can feel like modern day slave trade. Know what you want, know who you are, and know who you are marrying before you dive into visa waters. Yes, some of our significant others come from economically struggling countries and others whose countries fair far better than the US. Your spouse is not an expensive shirt that you tuck the tag in, wear for a night, and return the next day. My husband is fine where he is and it touches me to hear him pray for the betterment of his country and the people. Our spouses are perfectly capable of sustaining themselves in their home country. If you examine the circumstances the quality of life may be somewhat advanced in the US, but the quantity you pay is the same. Your spouse's life is changed as well as their family's. Some of them endure ridicule and negativity, because they married you and not a fellow countryman.