CAdreamer

Hopefully someone who knows for sure will chime in, but I'm going to say I don't think it would work that way. When I was getting my certificate at my local station, there was a woman from out of town who wanted to get her certificate there that day. They told her they couldn't do it for her and she would have to go to the police station in the city where she lives. So, based on that, I'm guessing no.
(weird though... since they are searching the database for all of Canada, it shouldn't matter where you live or which station you goes to...)

They will abandon their minor children to move to the US?
What Parent would do that?

There is no set time, if you want it back....go get it back. They will contact you to give it back to them once the visa is ready/approved.

No experience for #1
#2 - get settled,get unpacked - get the wedding done! Not sure whether you're the mail or female in the equation, if the male - you can head down to SS after about 2 weeks, but I'd give it a little longer, you need to be in their system in order for them to process your application, the worst that will happen is they won't be able to find you and you can come back a few weeks later and retry.
If you're the female (as I was) AND intend on changing your last name post wedding, I'd wait to get your SSN until after the wedding - then you don't have to revisit to change your name post-wedding

You can go to family doctor and check blood test. It shows that what you have done before. After blood test, you can ask make immunization record for interview. My family doctor just printed out blood test result for my medical exam.

They issued you the wrong permit. As you already have a license issued in Canada you should have got a temporary permit. You'll have to brave the DMV and go back and get it reissued. Explain that you have a license issued in ....... you took the written test on ..... and you should be issued with a temporary permit.
This has happened to others who have had to get it changed.
You will still have to take a road test. I don't know how long the temporary license is valid for.
And just a reminder every state has different requirements regarding licences from other countries. Some states even have different requirements for different Canadian provinces.

If you do not pay the fee then you do not remove conditions.
Biometrics are part of the process, yours will be out of date.

The one that always gets me is the cheque vs. bill. When you receive a cheque, it's usually money that is given to you. When you receive a bill, it's something that you have to pay (phone, utility, etc.). So the very fact that Americans ask for the cheque at a restaurants makes NO sense. Oh, and they spell it "check". Don't get me started on the imperial/metric. I mean, I love America, but goddamn, why you gotta be so weird!

IMO the best he can do is let you and your son go back to your country.
When he is ready to act like a responsible husband and stepfather he may try filing again and then deal with the consequences of his previous actions for being selfish or silly.
I am sorry that you are in this situation, I wish the best happens for you and your son.
As some said before look for legal help to know all your options.

OP my heart goes out to you in this situation but I urge you to think of yourself and your son. A marriage vow is a serious commitment, and though you say your husband is not physically or verbally abusive to you - what he is doing to you is effectively holding you and your child hostage and compelling you to break the law. It is a form of abuse. I know right now you have a lot to think about and get through, but you need to protect yourself. Your husband does not take his marriage vows and obligations or sacrifices you made to arrive here to be with him seriously. If he will not sign the form, then the best thing you can do for yourself and your child is to get out of this situation, divorce and go home. This is not love. It is not even respect.

The issues will start before college ... most states do not allow one to obtain a driver's license without legal residence. He won't have a SSN which allows work, so forget about the summer job. Without a legal, state-issued ID the boy won't even be able to sit for the SAT in many locales. Travel internationally won't be possible and travelling anywhere near the border could be trouble too.
I agree ... whilst the I864 language may seem harsh, it's really not much to worry about. If a couple were to stay married for, for example, five years or more, then there's far more to worry about a judge granting spousal support based on the marriage and other factors rather than the I864. And if the husband is concerned about the government coming after him for reimbursement of means-tested benefits, then he should provide what he needs to keep his wife and step-son fed, housed, healthy and educated.

If he refuses to sign even after speaking to an immigration lawyer your best bet is to file for divorce and go on with your life. He is not the husband you would want for yourself nor the father figure you should wish for your child.

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to force him to complete the I-864 and he needst to complete one for you to get your GC. He should man up and sign the form as he was willing to sponsor you and brought you here to the US to live. You will not have much of a life since you cannot legally work and the moment you leave the US you cannot return unless he files a spousal visa and the I-864 is part of that process also. He is only on the hook should you receive means tested benefits from the US government--unlikily as he will be paying spousal support should the two of you get divorced. The sooner you are able to work and qualify for citizenship his responsibility for you under the I-864 ends--you must work 40 quaters (10 years minimum) or become a USC which can ahhpen 3 three years after you become a LPR. There is no time limit to file the AOS, but it will cost more if you need a new medical. Also, if you happen to get into an internal CBP check point, they may detain you and force you to appear before an immigration judge (IJ) and the IJ will give you a deadline to file the AOS or be deported.
It amazes me how people can sponsor someone, pay all the fees, spend all that time waiting, pay for airfare, and then freak out about the I-864. He is sponsoring someone he wants to spent the rest of his life with. He is uprooting you and your son from your lives in your country to come to the US and live with him, but he cannot sign a simple form that MIGHT be enforcable. It has a higher risk of enforcability if the marriage fails, so maybe he should work on making sure the marriage does not fail and get you your GC ASAP so the I-864 no longer is an issue.
I hope he does want to spend the rest of his life with you and will submit the I-864.
Good luck,
Dave

You stole a Scando from the tribe and now you are reaping the consequences. This is fairly typical and luckily you haven't seen the worst of it yet. My sister in law went on the warpath against me for us deciding to move to America.
I think for them, versus families from some other areas, they really really just can not comprehend why their son/daughter/brother/sister would want to live in America and why they'd want to leave their close family unit. You are sort of up against a national mentality of "But Sweden/Denmark is the best country in the world and America is such a disgusting backwater where people shoot at each other and children starve." To them, even though they won't say it, you are the responsible person for making their precious relative move to a place where they will be exposed to all these ills and in the case of women, seemingly have less social and government support and rights. Obviously this is a huge generalization, but I think it is important to understanding the context because my British relatives are like "Please take me with you to America, don't move back here...." and comparing that to the typical Scandinavian mentality is just not going to work.
My husband is thankfully brutally honest with his family and tells them how long a visit they can come for and that for example, we wouldn't be able to go back and visit this year with everything else going on in our lives. His parents are understanding to a point. They don't really get get that Americans don't have the same vacation time and flexibility or that we tend not to visit our own families very often when it requires a plane trip. When you live in a smaller country, no matter where you move, you are never far enough away to really miss holidays and frequent visits.
As to the car thing, your wife might just have to get a driver's license. We all drive, but I sensed my in-law's hesitation at driving in America, which is understandable to a point but the road rules are really not different. They won't rent a car again when they come and visit this year, but like my mother when she visited us in DK, I suspect we will also have to rent a car when we go (Danish cars are tiny and will not fit our luggage + us), which will of course be prohibitively expensive.
Advice is - your wife needs to be pretty clear with her mother about what is acceptable and is going to work. Keep yourself out of it, lest you become a target.

Does your MIL not have a driver's license? She can come over, rent a car and the two of them (if your wife doesn't work yet) can do day trips and you can all have some together time in the evening. Or if your wife isn't working yet and her mother is willing to cover the ticket costs, why doesn't your wife take a week - 10 day trip by herself giving you time to work on your new project at work without feeling bad about doing long hours and giving her a chance to visit with family. Assuming your wife is wanting to go.
I understand how important it is for your wife and for you as a couple to have her integrate into her new social surroundings, but that doesn't change the fact, that her home country is her home country and that she has family there and as they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder" so the two of you will enjoy being together even more after her short absence

You shouldn't. You're nought but a number and a file to them. Take a breath and relax. If you believe in God then learn to trust He has a plan and as long as you are helping yourself, He will provide the rest. Since you seem to find faith important, use it.

You can get married by the expiration date that is listed in the I-94. You only need to have your marriage license signed and dated by the 90th day or the expiration date in the I-94. You do not need to have it recorded at the county recorder's office by that date. You will need to have your marriage recorded officially, but this can be done after the 90 days. You will also need to wait to get a certified copy of your marriage certificate, and the wait time will vary depending on the recorder's office. In Iowa in my county, I was able to record my marriage and get the marriage certificate within 30 minutes. You will need to send this marriage certificate in with your AOS application.
Technically yes, you are correct. She will be accruing days of illegal presence in the US from the date that the I-94 expires and the receipt of the AOS application. Once the AOS application is received (and you have the NOA1) she will no longer be accruing days of illegal presence, but she will still maintain the days of illegal presence she already accrued to that point.
She will be out of status from the date of expiration of the I-94 until receipt of the green card. When she has a pending AOS application, she will be neither illegal nor legal, but she will be in a period of authorized stay by the attorney general pending approval of the AOS application. Because she isn't "illegal" or "legal" she is considered out of status.
It can take 6 months to a year or more to get approval of the AOS and green card in hand. We've been waiting since September.
This is not required for the AOS application. The only thing you need to include with the AOS is EXACTLY what the instructions require. For proof of the marriage, all you need is the marriage certificate.

Ah... a photocopy! I keep photocopies in my file cabinet, and copies on my computer, but never considered that a copy would be ok to carry around til the 10-year green card arrives. That would be much better than wrecking the original. Thanks!

Yep. If you were married before 12/31/14 you should be included in his taxes, or rather file jointly. Even if you were to file separately you'd have to file as 'married'.

I can't answer a lot of your questions, but I can speak to your final point. I suppose it might depend on what country the beneficiary is from (ie, if it's a high fraud country, you could have more trouble), but for me, coming from Canada, it was no problem, My ex and I separated in 2007. I didn't file for divorce until after I met my USC fiance in 2010. My divorce was finalized, and we filed the application for the K1 visa the next month. We had only known each other for a year at that time, and I had only been officially divorced for a month, and I got the visa. As far as I'm aware, there is no minimum time you and your fiance need to have been together -- only that you have physically been together at least one time in the previous 2 years.
Hope that helps.

Unless otherwise, the California Service Center is usually faster at approving petitions compared to Vermont! How long is your wife intending to be away? It's best to travel after receiving her extension letter (that you should receive in the mail shortly) and probably after her biometrics are completed! you have been added to the January filers list here! Good luck.

Yep, my stepson got a lame plain piece of paper, with a stamp signature, saying that he was included on the mother's ROC petition and that his GC was extended for one year.

I've had to contact the Embassy directly twice. Once for my wife because of the 2010 Volcano. And for my stepson about an aging out question. I received a complete answer within 24 hours on both.
Try emailing kyivniv@state.gov. Make sure you have the KEV number and her name. Don't go on about harassment and discrimination. Just ask about the disposition of the case. Be nice :-) It always helps...
Take Care,
Barry

OP: Don't worry about the secret "detectives" here. There are other people willing to help.
That being said, have you actually TALKED to your fiance since her interview? It seems like all you know is some text message. You need to talk with her and get her to relate the entire interview to you. Then you need to ask her exactly what she was told to do next.
As far as people outside the embassy, I have heard that in some locations there are sharks and other hustlers trying to trick people into giving them whatever, money, or information. Have her relay to you, who said what, where this person was when they said it who said it. I hope she wasn't talking advice from some random person on the street.
She seems confused and cannot relate to you what happened to her. Is she giving up? She seems not to care too much if she only texts you afterward.

Someone is being a fed a line of BS. Most likely YOU. Possibly US.
If the visa was denied she cannot interview again. The petition will be sent back to USCIS and you will be notified of the official reason for denial. It will NOT be because you are ugly.
some possibilities...
1. You are making this up for fun
2. She is making it up because she does no twant to marry you, did not go to the interview and is feeding you BS
If you are not making this up, then you may want to check with the consulate and see if she even showed up for her interview