tuandanh

I wrote a post back in July or August 2011 on the VN forum. It had most of my questions on there. Some of the harder ones were...
What color are the walls in your fiancée house?
What color are the bed sheets?
Who sleeps closest to the door?
Describe items in her room?
What did you guys eat last night?
Who ordered what?
How did you guys get here this morning?
Who paid for the taxi?
How much was it?
Did you do a dam hoi?
Where did your wife go to high school?
What is your wife's favorite color?
What is your husbands favorite movie?
Where did your husband go to college?

You need an action plan that gets you out of your current situation.
Biggest issues it seems:
1) you are not mobile
2) you live in a bad neighborhood
3) you're not working or going to school
Regarding item 1, may I suggest going online to study the written driving test? This will help you on the path of being mobile. When you're ready, your husband should take the time off or if you guys have family or friends to take you to test. You should consider signing up for private driving lessons. This is something you can work on while your husband is at work. Then you'll probably want to investigate where you can buy a used car.
Regarding item 2 and 3, that unfortunately is something you'll have to work on. In a few months, you'll be able to work. Having the dual income will help in your chances of being able to afford a new place. Not sure where you are educationally but going to school can never hurt.
Regarding food, there has to be some local farmers markets in Atlanta. That will be your key to real food.
Also, does he have family or friends in the area with a car? That could be your out. I'm sure if they heard your situation they would drive you to the DMV or to get real groceries.
Your husband sounds overworked and exhausted but he needs to prioritze the things that will get you to be an active contributing member of the relationship. It's going to make things so much better for both of you once both parties can equally partipate in your mural success. Be patient and most of all, be proactive.

Boy, it's been a journey to say the least. I've got to thank everyone on this forum for all the great feedback and info during the process. Priceless to say the least. I hope this post will be helpful for all future hopefuls who want to see their truthful relationships achieve success.
So without further adieu, here is our experience at the consulate.
We arrived at 715am only to be herded inside a holding pen separated into two groups: non-immigrant visas and immigrant visas. Surprised how many people their were at the early time. One observation that I found interesting: their were three times as many non-immigrant visas as their was immigrant visas.
After this, we were placed outside in a shorter line (pretty silly). After security and phone check, we moved to the check-in line where we get our number. We let them know that both of us were there—however they did not take my passport when we tried to give it to them.
We then waited about 30 minutes or so to do the paperwork check in. The area is one long hall with many seats on the right side. The seats don't face the interview windows, but are close enough to hear some of the action if you sit on the edge closest to the windows (I didn’t).
There are 15 interview windows. At least two  of them are placed inside private rooms. I don't know about the first two windows and how they are situated. Not all the windows were in operation. In fact, I think it was a maximum of 6-8 being used.
The main windows are at a slant with a small divider to give some room to separate interviews and a little privacy (not much). The window was like a bank teller with a CO and translator manning it. The translator speaks into a mic. Behind the duo, you can see their offices. Looks like your standard cubicle farm at any office USA. The hall was not packed as I thought it was going to be. There is a TV inside that plays an instructional video on what to expect in the coming moments. Plenty of montages of American landscapes weaved at commercial break.
After about 30 minutes or so, we turned in the main paperwork. I decided to not frontload anything (even though I prepared and notarized all the typical blue slip docs in advance). Advice I got from a Viet prep service was to address red flags as they come up rather than drawing attention to them. Definitely a different school of thought. My paperwork was in very good order. Lots of solid evidence I felt, solid work history, clean past, etc..
The person who took the forms (who also doubled as an interpreter) began to fill out our pink sheet as she collected the forms. We've done nothing at this point. So basically they were basing pink off the initial 129-F and maybe because I was there? The Vietnamese consulate worker checked off all of our main papers on the pink sheet.
I understand that pink is not pink until it's officially signed by the CO. At this point I'm starting to feel pretty confident. But I wasn't fully prepared for what was about to happen later.
After the paper check, we began playing the waiting game. From where we were sitting, we could see one window really well but couldn't really hear any of the interviews except at this station.
We waited a few hours, maybe 2 or so. During this time, we got a chance to see a little action. Lots of blues were being handed out with some pinks. Maybe 60-70% blue and the rest pink. Many girls were getting all dressed up. They looked more like they were going to a wedding or a party than an interview.
Another cheesy trend. Lots of people were wearing pink including, ahem, myself. I’m sure the CO are so sick of seeing that or laugh about it afterhours.
So after some waiting, our number is finally called. My adrenaline is rushing at this point. We both go up and are sworn in. The CO officer asks my SO to have a seat while the CO wanted to ask me some questions. Question one, do you speak Vietnamese? Well, I do, but only so so. I said yes. That was a big mistake. The next 3-5 minutes I get asked questions in Vietnamese and I struggle through answering them (I do decent, but make plenty of mistakes throughout). I was pretty mortified at how this was turning out. Bad start, but the CO stops the interrupter and begins to switch to English. This was a turning point I felt and I started to get my balance again. However the SO then began to ask Stokes style questions about my current trip. I was prepared for this but still got stumped a few times. Our interrupter said very little in English which makes me believe my CO could understand a little Vietnamese. I even heard the CO say one thing in Vietnamese to my SO. The following are questions I remember from the interview:
When is the last time you saw your SO?
How many times have you visited your SO?
What are the dates?
Do you have family in the USA?
How did your parents immigrate to the states?
When did I immigrate?
Do I have family in Vietnam?
Does your SO have family in the states?
Where? Who?
Did you do a Dam Hoi?
How did you meet?
Why were you there?
When was the first time you kissed?
When did you propose to your SO?
What are your plans for a wedding?
What are your plans for honeymoon?
Do you guys want kids?
How are you going to get there?
What are your interests?
What’s your favorite music artist?
What’s your favorite movie?
What’s your favorite color?
What is your SO’s favorite color?
What is the highest level of education did your SO complete?
What is the name of the school?
What is the highest level of education did you complete?
What is the name of the school?
Where do you work?
What’s your title there?
What did the two of you eat last night?
What’s the name of it?
What supermarket was it situated in?
Where are you staying?
What’s the address?
Describe the home.
What color are the walls there?
Who slept closer to the door?
What color are the sheets?
Is there an air conditioner there?
How did the two of you get here this morning?
How many minutes did it take you?
When did you enter here this trip?
When are you leaving?
What are your SO’s plans when coming to the states?
Then after this, the CO brought in my SO and asked her pretty much the same exact questions (with me standing there watching). Right off the bat, my SO answers questions in English (which surprised me as we were planning for her to do it Vietnamese). After my abysmal performance in Vietnamese, the spoken English from my SO pleases the CO. She did great! Questions that differed from mine that I can remember:
Do you have family in the US?
What are their names?
Have either of you been married before?
Describe the city where your SO lives in?
What’s your SO’s address in the states?
How much did you pay for the taxi this morning?
Who paid it?
When was the first time you knew you were boyfriend and girlfriend?
They ask to look at photos and refuse to look at any other evidence. So all in all, we each got interviewed for about 15 mins a piece (30 min total). And the SO in the end, finally gives us the glorious pink at about 11:15am. We thanked them and got out of there pronto. We were happy but both so beat up from the experience. Felt like we were in a fight and won, but still got our #### kicked.
Overall, they do the best job they can at the consulate to weed out fraud and to let honest folks get their visas. It’s a tough job and the process isn’t perfect. My hat’s off as there is no way I could ever do it. For those in AP, take comfort that 95% of K-1 visas are ultimately approved (according to the 2009 statistics from wikipedia).
After our victory, we then celebrated with an awesome couple massage with hot stones. It was so needed after that experience.
And now, the journey in America begins.

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