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Or wait to the last minute to send?
When it comes to these kind of matters I leave plenty of time. DO understand that sometimes circumstances force to send paperwork very close to a deadline; but again, I don't play with fate, USPS, Fedex, DHL or anyone.
All it takes a storm, or a fire in a Fedex truck like last week to mess the best plans, when one is cutting it too close.

Or wait to the last minute to send?
When it comes to these kind of matters I leave plenty of time. DO understand that sometimes circumstances force to send paperwork very close to a deadline; but again, I don't play with fate, USPS, Fedex, DHL or anyone.
All it takes a storm, or a fire in a Fedex truck like last week to mess the best plans, when one is cutting it too close.

And the police here does not have a sense of humor.....first hand experience

To be on the safe side, I'd suggest checking with the Embassy/Consulate that will actually do the work, as they all seem to have their own procedures. The Warszawa Embassy are super nice to work with. Don't have experience with London though.

That is one of the reasons of asking for any other name used; so if there is inquiry with the "wrong' document, all other names would come up and it all would resolve

Exactly.
OP: I believe that is the root of the denial. Student visa applicants have in the vast majority of cases already been accepted into a college/program, then that college provides paperwork as to the acceptance and this paperwork plus documentation supporting the financial aspects is what leads into the visa.
In your original posts, you noted that he would study "aviation or accounting", which seems to be saying he is not accepted into a college yet and he would only later decide and apply. There is no guarantee of admission into a college, except for private ones that will take you as long as you pay their tuition. Aviation is very expensive, and there are very constraining rules for foreigners (thanks to 9-11), which esentially have closed the field for all but rich foreigners. Accounting means a 4-year college, and an admission process.
Admissions don't happen overnight, even if he is inthe US it would be a 6-7 month process. What would he do for that pereiod of time. The student visa is granted to start studies within a short period of time, couple of months usually.
I believe that is the problem here. You don't just go asking for a student visa, to come into the country and then figure out what would you study. Even for non-college type of studies, inclusive to aviation. The prospective student has to be accepted first. Otherwise is kind of asking for a fiance/e visa without having a fiance/e and then come to the country to 'find' one.
SO, for specific advice: your brother has to go to an admission process to a school/college, then be accepted, then can he ask for a student visa. With the financial supporting documentation; and here is where your aid might kick in: if the college is in the area you live, you can offer a housing support for example, which reduces his overall financial liability.
The college/school will provide him, during the admission process, the estimate costs of living, tuition, insurance, etc; such that it is clearly spelled out how much money -minimum- per year he must have to support his studies. Then he provides strong documentation that he has those financial resources, then the possibility of a visa is strong.
I don't believe, like others have noted that the fact that you are a citizen would count as much at that point -a lot of first hand experience here-; but it does when there is no specific admission to a program.
Good luck

A new immigrant is always very very very overwhelmed and stressed, even if she speaks English well. It takes time to adjust and a support network; add to that this problem you noted with daughter and the easy way out is go back. I'd first look into whether the 'problem' with daughter is solvable. I have direct experience in Peru and I just don't buy the no one wants to take her, unless she is a problem teenager/child, this kid needs some discipline that no one has provided and essentially your wife is the only one who would put up with that behavior. Before anything, I'd see about solving the daughter problem. If it was a marry your wallet, you would have been supporting her since long ago, before she came here. Since she is leaning to call it quits, I doubt is a GC what she was/is after. It seems to me that is stress.
The advice about connecting with other con-nationals is sound; that is the very first thing I did for my wife. Luckily I had friends from her country and they hit it off. She now can speak her own language any time; can visit. Then out of her English class, 2 other friends also foreigner. The only one who truly understands how your wife feels and is going through is someone else going thru same. Them Skype and backup phone cards so she can talk to family at will.
Good luck
Just my 2 pennies

Exactly.
OP: I believe that is the root of the denial. Student visa applicants have in the vast majority of cases already been accepted into a college/program, then that college provides paperwork as to the acceptance and this paperwork plus documentation supporting the financial aspects is what leads into the visa.
In your original posts, you noted that he would study "aviation or accounting", which seems to be saying he is not accepted into a college yet and he would only later decide and apply. There is no guarantee of admission into a college, except for private ones that will take you as long as you pay their tuition. Aviation is very expensive, and there are very constraining rules for foreigners (thanks to 9-11), which esentially have closed the field for all but rich foreigners. Accounting means a 4-year college, and an admission process.
Admissions don't happen overnight, even if he is inthe US it would be a 6-7 month process. What would he do for that pereiod of time. The student visa is granted to start studies within a short period of time, couple of months usually.
I believe that is the problem here. You don't just go asking for a student visa, to come into the country and then figure out what would you study. Even for non-college type of studies, inclusive to aviation. The prospective student has to be accepted first. Otherwise is kind of asking for a fiance/e visa without having a fiance/e and then come to the country to 'find' one.
SO, for specific advice: your brother has to go to an admission process to a school/college, then be accepted, then can he ask for a student visa. With the financial supporting documentation; and here is where your aid might kick in: if the college is in the area you live, you can offer a housing support for example, which reduces his overall financial liability.
The college/school will provide him, during the admission process, the estimate costs of living, tuition, insurance, etc; such that it is clearly spelled out how much money -minimum- per year he must have to support his studies. Then he provides strong documentation that he has those financial resources, then the possibility of a visa is strong.
I don't believe, like others have noted that the fact that you are a citizen would count as much at that point -a lot of first hand experience here-; but it does when there is no specific admission to a program.
Good luck

Exactly.
OP: I believe that is the root of the denial. Student visa applicants have in the vast majority of cases already been accepted into a college/program, then that college provides paperwork as to the acceptance and this paperwork plus documentation supporting the financial aspects is what leads into the visa.
In your original posts, you noted that he would study "aviation or accounting", which seems to be saying he is not accepted into a college yet and he would only later decide and apply. There is no guarantee of admission into a college, except for private ones that will take you as long as you pay their tuition. Aviation is very expensive, and there are very constraining rules for foreigners (thanks to 9-11), which esentially have closed the field for all but rich foreigners. Accounting means a 4-year college, and an admission process.
Admissions don't happen overnight, even if he is inthe US it would be a 6-7 month process. What would he do for that pereiod of time. The student visa is granted to start studies within a short period of time, couple of months usually.
I believe that is the problem here. You don't just go asking for a student visa, to come into the country and then figure out what would you study. Even for non-college type of studies, inclusive to aviation. The prospective student has to be accepted first. Otherwise is kind of asking for a fiance/e visa without having a fiance/e and then come to the country to 'find' one.
SO, for specific advice: your brother has to go to an admission process to a school/college, then be accepted, then can he ask for a student visa. With the financial supporting documentation; and here is where your aid might kick in: if the college is in the area you live, you can offer a housing support for example, which reduces his overall financial liability.
The college/school will provide him, during the admission process, the estimate costs of living, tuition, insurance, etc; such that it is clearly spelled out how much money -minimum- per year he must have to support his studies. Then he provides strong documentation that he has those financial resources, then the possibility of a visa is strong.
I don't believe, like others have noted that the fact that you are a citizen would count as much at that point -a lot of first hand experience here-; but it does when there is no specific admission to a program.
Good luck

Exactly.
OP: I believe that is the root of the denial. Student visa applicants have in the vast majority of cases already been accepted into a college/program, then that college provides paperwork as to the acceptance and this paperwork plus documentation supporting the financial aspects is what leads into the visa.
In your original posts, you noted that he would study "aviation or accounting", which seems to be saying he is not accepted into a college yet and he would only later decide and apply. There is no guarantee of admission into a college, except for private ones that will take you as long as you pay their tuition. Aviation is very expensive, and there are very constraining rules for foreigners (thanks to 9-11), which esentially have closed the field for all but rich foreigners. Accounting means a 4-year college, and an admission process.
Admissions don't happen overnight, even if he is inthe US it would be a 6-7 month process. What would he do for that pereiod of time. The student visa is granted to start studies within a short period of time, couple of months usually.
I believe that is the problem here. You don't just go asking for a student visa, to come into the country and then figure out what would you study. Even for non-college type of studies, inclusive to aviation. The prospective student has to be accepted first. Otherwise is kind of asking for a fiance/e visa without having a fiance/e and then come to the country to 'find' one.
SO, for specific advice: your brother has to go to an admission process to a school/college, then be accepted, then can he ask for a student visa. With the financial supporting documentation; and here is where your aid might kick in: if the college is in the area you live, you can offer a housing support for example, which reduces his overall financial liability.
The college/school will provide him, during the admission process, the estimate costs of living, tuition, insurance, etc; such that it is clearly spelled out how much money -minimum- per year he must have to support his studies. Then he provides strong documentation that he has those financial resources, then the possibility of a visa is strong.
I don't believe, like others have noted that the fact that you are a citizen would count as much at that point -a lot of first hand experience here-; but it does when there is no specific admission to a program.
Good luck

Gaining citizenship in a EU country can be relatively simple or grueling, depending on the country and your specific situation. As for residency, given the EU affiliation of your wife, it would be a little earier, but I recall there were some specific rules for Polish people in some countries.
Also, residency does not always automatically means right to work, those are two separate (can be done in parallel) processes in some countries.
I'd suggest a trial run of a few months in the chosen destination, and not on vacation; not the same thing. Just the same as foreign spouses have adjustment issues when coming to the US, same applies to Americans abroad. Language is the least of the issues IMHO, having lived in 12+ countries in Europe and LatinAmerica (and speaking 5 1/2 languages, Polish is really difficult I'm finding. ..)

Several of the vaccines are not needed if you were vaccinated as a child, you would need to prove that with vaccination records. Yes, the last thing one usually keeps around; but if you can get a copy if would help; otherwise, a new vaccine will be needed.
The link provided in a prior post gets you to the details.

I know of people who catch running chainsaws thrown up in the air. They are taking a lower risk....

I know of people who catch running chainsaws thrown up in the air. They are taking a lower risk....

WIth all due respect, letters do nothingl I've done my share and gotten zilch; I would still do it again though. The only real force in this country is a political or economical intrest who has deep enough pockets to support lobbying, IMHO; alternatively you can always show your opinion with your vote. ANd yes, voting might not get that far either and then we will move to talk about the Electoral college vs direct vote and son on.
A company I used to work for had a director who's main and specific job was to lobby (together with other like companies in the industry) for favorable conditions and legislation. It was a company that made cheese for pizzas. It was unreal to see how the price of milk was determined not by supply/demand or market forces but by political and economical interests.

Change locks (car, home, etc); remove spouse from every joint account, credit card, etc. Any loan in both names, you will still be on the hook. File a separation agreement asap (which might be not so easy, depending on the state) so you can protect yourself of future loans incurred.
Protect your security and assets first.
Once all that is in place, then move on to a divorce and an Islamic divorce.
He might call or contact back once he realizes that a removal of conditions might be difficult without you an dsome proof of bonafide marriage. You decide what to do there, but I'd not be meeting him, at least not alone.

SS card/number alone is not sufficient. Must have EAD.
When starting work, he will have to complete an I-9 form with employer that estipulates providing proof of being allowed to work. SSN alone is not sufficient.

You guys do know there is a 'delete' key for posts, e-mail, voice-mail, etc; shredders for unwanted junk mail and there is caller id, right??
And that you have the right to ignore people, right?

You will not have much of a problem; but, your actions in allowing the opportunity to travel into the US even when you know well you will not marry this person is what causes APs and long waits for others. If he does travel, knowing that you are not marrying him, he is lying at the POE, if that is not fraud....and you are an accomplice in that.
Up to you and your conscience.

You will not have much of a problem; but, your actions in allowing the opportunity to travel into the US even when you know well you will not marry this person is what causes APs and long waits for others. If he does travel, knowing that you are not marrying him, he is lying at the POE, if that is not fraud....and you are an accomplice in that.
Up to you and your conscience.

You will not have much of a problem; but, your actions in allowing the opportunity to travel into the US even when you know well you will not marry this person is what causes APs and long waits for others. If he does travel, knowing that you are not marrying him, he is lying at the POE, if that is not fraud....and you are an accomplice in that.
Up to you and your conscience.

Might be extreme, but I wouldn't be taking the chance in a remote inspection post. As I noted in a prior post; I've been around NM, TX border towns quite often and never givern more than a glance and wave. First time I drove around with wife, we get stopped followed by a very detailed inspection of my wife papers.
I happen to have first hand experience of both, never had a problem to being thoroughly inspected when I had my wife with me.
Exactly, a CBP on a bad hair day is someone you don't want to mess with.

I suspect that it would have a higher level of scrutiny and questioning; but if what you say about same-sex relationships in Philippines is a correct reflection of the culture, the CO and embassy personnel will certainly know and would be understanding; what might not get past them is that you didn't know about her preferences and thus might have known and willingly participated in 'a deceptive' application. Not saying you were or are; but how the CO would act and assume, until proven different.
Thus, I'd document everything since how you met you ex, interactions, trips, etc; all the way to the present situation.
Something key: you noted that 'after a year' it was discovered (does not say who, appears to be her) what her preferences were, does not say if she told you or you knew; yet you were married for 3 and thus "allowing" her permanent GC. It does sound like you knew and didn't do anything, moreover, it looks like you helped in the ROC. Those are the kind of things that will cross the CO and you need to have very good answers.

It's rarer than snow, ice or sleet coming down in Houston that I disagree with your posts Darnell -just happened couple of days ago, but I disagree on the disagree.
A fiance/e can be told repeatedly and in explicit terms what to expect; fiance/e might have been visiting in the US for some time, and it still can be a culture shock.
Some recover quick and adjust promptly without much of a problem; others take time -short, long, and eventually make the transition; some others never do but make it bearable; others will eventually return to their homeland with or without spouse. Seen at least one case of each and often the USC spouse has a great deal of impact (but not 100% in my anecdotal experience) in the final outcome.

It seems you are trying to rationalize and justify your actions. It seems you are smart, intelligent and hard worker; and expecting your partner to be likewise. Nothing wrong with that, but what you described on his actions thru thru the process shows that he was not; yet you continued the process to finally -when he shows up- come to the inevitable conclusion that you were not compatible.
A lot of what you write is the view from an American perspective; nothing wrong there, but in the kind of relationships we in this forum are, it is imperative that one thinks from a multi-cultural perspective. There will be culture shock, no matter how much you prepare your partner, even if the partner had spent some time in the US.
Some actions could've been taken along the way but it's irrelevant at this point.
He might have left a life behind, or not; we don't know that, only he would know.
In terms of legal or financial responsibilities, you are in the clear as others have noted. Now, ethically or morally, only you can judge that and decide what to do about it.