I agree with you. I would love to have children but what's more exciting is starting our new lives together. We've been together for almost 6 years now, but now that we're finally married and moving, I cannot wait to spend time with him and only him. We have so much fun, just the both of us.
We talked about having children and in NO WAY he wanted me to be pregnant away from him. He wants to be by my side for the process. It's his child as well!
I am waiting 3-4 years until we both settle down. Who knows if he will even like living in the States yet.
Am I the only person who believes that getting pregnant during either the fiance visa process or spouse visa process is ridiculous??
So many people write 'we accidently got pregnant' no you didn't, you were having unprotected sex and you got the obvious result of that - I fully understand that accidents can happen occasionally, but I would bet that, that didn't happen for the majority of people - it's the 21st century, so for the majority of people there really is no excuse. If you truly want a child very early on in the relationship then that really is your decision but my advise from the bottom of my heart would be to wait till the process is over - for the sake of the innocent child.
What happened to spending time together - why introduce a poor child in the mix of an already complicated situation?? My husband and I don't want to even consider children for at least 5 years because we absolutely love being with each other, we love being selfish and spending money on expensive shoes or bags, we love eating at adult restaurant, we love just being able to take off somewhere at the drop of a hat and we love waking up gone 12 in the afternoon on weekends - surely this is what new couples need? to spend each and every possible second devoted to each other and enjoying each other, and then when they're ready to share their love, decide to have a child.
How many time have I read stories of people wanting to expedite their case because of pregnancy; so many times people have written that they've been married 6 months and have a one year old child and things have gone wrong, I wonder why - you knew each other for a few weeks fell deeply in love, got pregnant, married then actually lived together and things have gone wrong because you didn't know each other - all I can say is poor child.
This is just my opinion and I'm sure I'll get met with lots of abuse, but like you I'm entitled to my opinion and I think more marriages, in and out side of the visa process would last a hell of a lot longer if people waited till they were ready as a couple to have a child.
It seems like USCIS and NVC are playing tag to keep those statistics down. They take turns at how fast they approve cases. Meaning that when USCIS works fast and gets a lot of approvals out, NVC is backlogged. Once NVC is backlogged USCIS slows down so NVC can catch up. That way they can keep the average processing time to 5 months.
I was one of the lucky May filers that was out of USCIS in 85 days ( including RFE) and now i am one of the unlucky ones that is sitting at NVC for 19 days with no case #
On a normal process NVC assigns a case number in 7 business days.
So bottom line is it does not matter in what stage of the process you are, we all end up having our patience tested. Some of you that are waiting at USCIS might get out of NVC in the same time as the ones that are still waiting for a case #
Good Luck to all
PS. All Nickky can think of is vacation ))
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