Dumb/Dumber

I see so many posts on here about prior marriages and large age gaps especially between older women and younger men being a BIG RED FLAG!!
My question is why does the United States let us apply and pay fees if this is a reason to deny?
I am thinking because it can not be the reason to deny. They have to just say you are lying about having a bona fide marriage after you pay all these fees and go through all the stress and waiting time.
Something is just not right with this process. CO's need to be retrained. This is not 1955. This is 2012. People get divorces. Young men marry older women. Blacks marry whites. Men marry men. People meet online and marry quickly.
Yes there are a lot of fraud cases out there. But take out the above factors and train these CO's to find the real fraud cases instead of bogging down the system with couples who have to be reaffirmed and interviewed two and three times because they are not the same age, same religion, same color.
Real fraud reasons folks: Do we know what those are?

My husband went to his second interview after being reaffirmed and he was APPROVED!!! Our three year anniversary will be October 16, 2013. We are over the moon.

My husband went to his second interview after being reaffirmed and he was APPROVED!!! Our three year anniversary will be October 16, 2013. We are over the moon.

My husband and I just got approved for his visa. We received a Notice of Intent to Revoke and we were reaffirmed. I know that it is heartbreaking, but take it one day at time. Answer the Notice of Intent to Revoke. Wait for the Reaffirmation. Wait for the new interview. Prepare for the worst and hope for best as we did and your husband will get his visa. I am so sad you have to go through this, but God is good and if you do not give up, your husband will get his visa.

My husband went to his second interview after being reaffirmed and he was APPROVED!!! Our three year anniversary will be October 16, 2013. We are over the moon.

My husband went to his second interview after being reaffirmed and he was APPROVED!!! Our three year anniversary will be October 16, 2013. We are over the moon.

I am so sad to hear that this happened to you.
It happened to me and my husband too. He had his interview on January 12, 2012 and gave him the same reason for denying the visa at that time. I tried to call the embassy and sent all kinds of e-mails. I did not find out anything until September of 2012. We are still waiting on a second interview. I am so sad to tell you our story, but it is possible you are going to face the same process. They will send you a letter telling exactly why the visa was denied and then you have to send them proof that the embassy was wrong. Then you wait for another approval and interview date. My husband and I will be married 3 years this coming October and he still is not here.
I am truly so very sad for you and your wife. This is a hard and painful process, but I can tell you that my husband and I are closer and more in love now than we ever have been. True love can hold onto HOPE.

Super News!!! Congrats!!!

For everyone who has been waiting to hear if we have been reaffirmed. We received a phone call from Memphis this morning that our petition has been reaffirmed and Umit will be getting a second interview.
We are so happy.

Thank you for letting people know that info passes do not give you much information. I do not understand if they are so far behind, why they think scheduling info passes in person are better than just answering the questions on the phone. Either way, we do not get any information because they are not going to confirm or deny stuff we hear on vj. They are not going to guarantee us anything. They are only going to put us off two, three or even six months to keep us from contacting them again. They need some guidance and good leadership to get this immigration process to work properly.

Nope, no reason to be concerned. They do random visits. They came to my house. The more contact and attention your case gets, the better.

Why would visa petitions be kept anywhere that they could be destroyed by water? It makes absolutely no sense to me. There is not one file in my office building that could be destroyed by water from a plumbing issue. Ridiculous.

I understand your frustations. I have been married over 29 months now and still waiting for my husband to come to America. But you are not respecting others beliefs when you make a post like this.
God loves you and created you and I pray that you will always know this in your heart. I do not mean any offense to you by telling you this.

I understand your frustations. I have been married over 29 months now and still waiting for my husband to come to America. But you are not respecting others beliefs when you make a post like this.
God loves you and created you and I pray that you will always know this in your heart. I do not mean any offense to you by telling you this.

I understand your frustations. I have been married over 29 months now and still waiting for my husband to come to America. But you are not respecting others beliefs when you make a post like this.
God loves you and created you and I pray that you will always know this in your heart. I do not mean any offense to you by telling you this.

I understand your frustations. I have been married over 29 months now and still waiting for my husband to come to America. But you are not respecting others beliefs when you make a post like this.
God loves you and created you and I pray that you will always know this in your heart. I do not mean any offense to you by telling you this.

I understand your frustations. I have been married over 29 months now and still waiting for my husband to come to America. But you are not respecting others beliefs when you make a post like this.
God loves you and created you and I pray that you will always know this in your heart. I do not mean any offense to you by telling you this.

I am so happy that you posted this. I too went through a home visit. My husband and I were married October 16, 2010. We did not have an interview until January 12, 2011. Our case was returned to USCIS. We received a notice of intent to revoke the petition on September 7, 2012. I then received a home visit on October 26, 2012. The officer was very nice. Asked me about 10 questions and then told me good luck. Then on December 7, 2012, I got notice that my case was transferred to Memphis for further processing. To date I have heard nothing else.
The officer told me that the visit was normal. Not all cases get the home visit, but not to worry. I am much older than my husband and this is probably our big red flag. But it does not matter about the red flags if you can prove that your marriage is real. I do not know why these officers were so rude to you, but maybe they were trying to help you overcome a red flag with their line of questioning. Anytime the USCIS is showing attention to your case, it is better than a denial. We just have to wait and deal with the next step when it comes.
I wish you the best and keep me up-to-date as will I.

I am so happy that you posted this. I too went through a home visit. My husband and I were married October 16, 2010. We did not have an interview until January 12, 2011. Our case was returned to USCIS. We received a notice of intent to revoke the petition on September 7, 2012. I then received a home visit on October 26, 2012. The officer was very nice. Asked me about 10 questions and then told me good luck. Then on December 7, 2012, I got notice that my case was transferred to Memphis for further processing. To date I have heard nothing else.
The officer told me that the visit was normal. Not all cases get the home visit, but not to worry. I am much older than my husband and this is probably our big red flag. But it does not matter about the red flags if you can prove that your marriage is real. I do not know why these officers were so rude to you, but maybe they were trying to help you overcome a red flag with their line of questioning. Anytime the USCIS is showing attention to your case, it is better than a denial. We just have to wait and deal with the next step when it comes.
I wish you the best and keep me up-to-date as will I.

I understand Sarah. We have been waiting for a new interview in Ankara if we ever get reaffirmed on the NOIR. We have been waiting for 6 months on that now. Then to have to wait on Ankara to accept new interview files. OMG!!!! This is truly torture and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it. Married 10/16/10 and still waiting to be together. And yes it is physically and metally taking us down. My family and his family are all in so much pain because of the uncertainty of all this.

Darling, if you love him and you trust that he loves you, his past or your past should not be an issue. Trust me, maybe he has finally found the right person for him. Check your heart. Check your trust in him.

Darling, if you love him and you trust that he loves you, his past or your past should not be an issue. Trust me, maybe he has finally found the right person for him. Check your heart. Check your trust in him.

Darling, if you love him and you trust that he loves you, his past or your past should not be an issue. Trust me, maybe he has finally found the right person for him. Check your heart. Check your trust in him.

They asked for my husband's facebook user name and password at the interview and looked at his facebook while he was watching.

First of all, do not define yourself by the way this man is treating you. It is not your fault that he turned out to be such a terrible person. As you said, he is killing you, but you have to dig deep and bring back the person you were before you married him. Leave him now if at all possible. I understand many cultures do not accept divorce, but surely your family would not want you to stay with this terrible person. If they will not help you, there are places that will. You must report him for the way he is treating you. He has a history of going to jail so that will definitely help validate your story. You are a wonderful great person and God loves you. Please be brave. I know you are afraid, but seek help, not suicide. Please keep me posted goldforhope@aol.com May God Bless You.