Dante & Geor

Insanity is making the same mistake over and over again but continuing to expect a different result.
Married too quick. Manipulated into it against your better judgement. You didn't talk about things beforehand. You didn't talk about things on your last visit either. Lecturing us about him needing to be mature & face the music - wow hon, look in the mirror. We just "enjoyed our time together". Yeah, I get it. Flowers and candy, kissy kissy - right on. Teen love. Totally irresponsible. When I read the part about him losing his job over seeing you while you were in India I thought wow - can it get any worse?
Exceptionally talented people are not exempt from stupid decisions. God I have made some real whoppers. But you have a naiive approach to love. Communication turns out to be vastly more important than the superficial lovey-dovey stuff you are getting an emotional high from in the short run before the train wreck of having to deal with it.
So all of this is going to hit the fan when he comes here. Oh well. I just hope that after it happens you see it all of your own doing. Sure, he's been manipulative since the day he met you but you are the one who right now says you have to keep running in front of the bus and not expecting it to hit you. Althouth the stuff you say to us sounds good sometimes, it is being said to us, as a sounding board, which I understand - but it isn't being said to him. Or agreed to. Both of you are pretending the last event didn't even happen. Just like before - push things off without resolving them. The important thing is to get him here quick, quick, quick!

You risk yourself to a life-time ban to enter the USA... Never ever lie to a CO

EAD is not a temporary green card. It is just what it says, employment authorization. It does not grant or change your immigration status.

Laws are written in an outline format so that sections, paragraphs, and clauses can be referenced and located relatively easily. The basic rules of outlining usually apply, one of which is that you don't use the same type of enumerator for two sequential levels of nesting. This means you might use (number)(letter)(number)(letter), but you wouldn't use (number)(number)(letter)(letter). I suspect the "P" in this case refers to "paragraph". In other words, INA 212a, paragraph (5)(a).
A denial under 212a(5)(a) is often used when they don't believe there's a bonafide relationship. I've always thought this was particularly odd because paragraph (5)(a) is related to labor certifications for work visas. I've heard various explanations for why they cite this particular paragraph of the INA. The explanation that seems to make the most sense is that the consulate has determined that the applicant isn't eligible for a visa based on a petitionable relationship, so the only remaining basis for eligibility would be a work visa. They don't have a labor certification, so they're determined to be inadmissible on that basis. In other words, they end up here because it's the default trigger at the end of the list. I realize that this is twisted logic, but there is no paragraph in 212a that covers a CO's discretionary determination whether a bonafide relationship exists.
Anyway, the INA section cited by the CO doesn't change the real reason they denied the visa - they think the relationship is a sham.

Check with Tricare and the VA. Honestly, it changes so quickly I can't keep up with it. I gave birth in May and my g/f gave birth in August but between the time I had my first ultrasounds etc, the rules had changed for her.
So it's best to go straight to the source if in doubt especially with Tricare ...

asked her if this is what she was doing
oh my - you shouldn't have done that.
Now she knows that you know her plans.
So, for the state you live in, there's a standard template for filing a divorce. Get one, today, from your fav online doc source, fill it, file it tomorrow.
Based on this one post - I must say - she has had a plan - and it included you for a small portion of it. She's done with you now - you need to file for divorce on Monday.

Few questions..
Are you employed?
Do you have a place to stay besides his house?
Do you have friends that can help you with a place to stay or support?
If you have, then press charges. There is a price for actions such as violence. He choose to Assault you. NO MAN SHOULD PUT THERE HANDS ON A WOMEN AND NEITHER SHOULD A WOMEN HIT A MAN. There are consequence to be paid. Here in the United States Domestic Violence is take serious. File for VAWA immediately!!
If he loses his job due to the chooses he made by Assaulting you.. So be it!! Hard lesson learned not to put his hands on women.
Love in nurturing and caring. Arguments can be worked out. Misunderstandings can be figured out to be understood. Cheating and Violence only leads to the door and the end. You gave him chances and he has returned the favor by continuing to cheat and then beat on you.
Take it from a man telling you this. Leave and leave fast.. People like that need therapy, jail and losses to learn and become a upstanding representative of himself. Right now he needs a hard lesson.
I pray for you and pray that you are blessed. GOD is watch over you. Help yourself by getting out now..
GOD Bless You!!!

Sorry to here that the marriage may not work out. Why do you want to punish him by sending him back home? Once he received his 2-yr GC he was on his way to becoming a USC as long as he entered the marriage in good faith. He can file ROC with or without you and once approved, he can file to become a USC after 5-years if you divorce. Nothing you can do to prevent this. I would decide if you want to remain in this marriage. NO ONE WILL EVER CHANGE!!! I hope you did not marry him and hope you could change him. You need to accept him as is or move on without the need to send his behind back to the country he came from.
Good luck,
Dave

It is clearly marriage fraud when you intend to help him here on F1 then AOS.

First I am so very sorry for your loss.
In relation to your status. Had he passed prior to filing you would have filed with a waiver. As you have already filed I would make an INFOPASS appointment and let them know he has passed and that you need to change it to a waiver filing. You should be RFE'd for the death certificate and have 86 days to supply it. The reason for letting them know is as with divorce if you are divorced while the ROC is processing then you have to change it to a waiver filing and if you don't and the card gets approved on a joint filing when it should have been waiver you can encounter problems later (like with USC).
I would book and INFOPASS and try and speak with the people who produce the death certificates to get it sped up for immigration purposes. Hopefully they understand.
Again I am so very sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you.

Gentle correction: She has no option but to leave the U.S. before her I-94 expires. She's free to return to her country or to go to any other country that would accept her.

She has no options. She is working ILLEGALLY because she isn't married so couldn't have filed AOS (and thus work permission). She needs to STOP working illegally 'cause she's just getting herself into more trouble.
She can't stay. K1 is to marry the K1 petitioner only and apply for AOS based on that marriage. Again, she has no options and she needs to return to her country.

If she wanted and appreciated you then you would never have to chase her... She would be available to you always. Give up and go home. Take all your papers with you.

Tickets bought for the 20th Carolina! We're finally going home!! And now, I'm searching for all my appliances at Amazon, lol. Things are getting better and better for us, I just can't wait to be with him!!! :dance:

I don't think that's the point. Almost all of the evidence you mentioned in your first response was evidence that a married couple would be expected to have, but NOT evidence that an engaged couple would be expected to have. A consular officer might be highly suspicious of an engaged couple who provided evidence of financial co-mingling, or beneficiary of bank or brokerage accounts or life insurance. People simply do not do these things before they marry, and in some cases it's impossible to do them before you marry. It's not because of a lack of a Social Security number. It's because they don't yet have a family relationship.
Your circumstances were different because you applied for a spousal visa.
For the OP's case, I agree with pushbrk. It wasn't the quantity of evidence that was their problem, but the quality of their evidence. One thing is certain, and that is that the CO did not sit and read those 1000's of chat transcripts. They probably selected a few, read them, and found them lacking in any strong indication of a couple with an emotional attachment to each other. In my opinion, it's better to cherry pick the evidence you give to the consular officer. Don't give them transcripts of conversations that were mundane or might be typical of two friends or acquaintances rather than two people in love, and definitely don't give them transcripts of conversations where you're discussing potential answers to visa interview questions. If you initially give them only the very best stuff then anything they select at random is more likely to make a good impression. If you overwhelm them with paper then you may be burying your best evidence in the haystack.

Aside from you, no one here is getting hostile. As you have quoted (and yet again misread) we did not JUST send chat logs. We send a plethora of proof (pictures, phone logs, etc.). What my fiance was ASKING was whether video can be sent to the embassy as further proof of our encounter. Instead of continuing to suggest things we have already done, perhaps you can be more productive by answering his original question. Or rather, don't if you can't answer the question adequately.

Well as far as showing where the money comes from it totally can be done, I've sold my apartment so I can move to the States, and have all the paperwork with me...
And I know the Airport is in Callao, but it's not that I'm walking around with a sign over me saying "look I have money" lol I was just trying to bring some cash with me, 'cause bank transfer for the amount I want to transfer is significant higher than expected...

I won't make any comments regarding there abuse that you have stated.
However, my only advice would be pack your bags and go home. Is staying the US, more important than your life itself? If his abuse is as bad as you say, forgot living in the US, its not worth more than your life! Go home, be with your family and friends, and forget about the possibility of a relationship with this human being.

Perhaps the same department, but different visa sections at the consulate. Visit visas are granted by the non-immigrant section and a K-1 is granted by the immigrant section. The rules are very different.
Once again I find myself wishing the -1 button was available.

I think you should be nicer to people... Not everyone knows EVERYTHING, that's why we're here...

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Serpost, has also a certified type of delivery, so you can track it. I used this in the past with no problemas!

Look dude...
If you're a 3 and she's a 10 odds are not in your favor of things working out.
If your 60 and she's 20, well you do the math. How many times does 60 go into 20? Not many.
The problem with some guys is that they go to a foreign country and hunt for the hottest "A++++++" woman, instead of finding and building a real relationship with an "A++" woman. You spend a week or two with the hottie and you're convinced "she's the one"...
Seriously man, get a grip. Don't you think if she is truly the most beautiful woman in the world she might know a thing or two about men?
I'll bet when you were with her in Columbia, the Pesos flowed freely out of your pockets. Daily trips to the mall to buy your "true love" gifts to show your undying affection. Hmmm, did you ever wonder why she picked YOU out of all the other men in the world?
You don't put up with "her lack of love" because she's hot. You meet a truly good woman who really loves you and guess what? A 7 1/2 becomes a 10...
You chose a woman to marry strictly because she is hot. What about her intergity, ethics, values, morals and scruples? Even the most beautiful woman will lose her looks over time and all you have left is her heart and soul.
You were destined to fail right from the very beginning because your relationship was based on B.S. There was no mutual respect, no honest communication and no real compatibility. What did you really think would happen?
Sigh...
3 petitions and STILL you haven't learned anything about women (American or otherwise).

Wow. This is a horribly rude thing to say to someone. Do you know why OP's petition was denied? You must, if you know they didn't "do it right"...
OP, without knowing why you were denied, it's hard to determine what the next step should be. What was the reason for denial?

Sir, if you do anything BUT file notifications with USCIS, ICE, the consulate, and your local police department, you'll be suckered.Your ex (and that's what she is) has moved out and broken off all contact with you. The relationship, and any chance thereof, is over. The only remaining possibilities are that she will hijack your finances (now) or return with a sob-story and plead to get back together with you (later). In the latter instance, she'll milk you until she gets her conditional green card, and then she'll be gone so fast that she'll resemble Speedy Gonzalez on a caffeine high. Avoid being an idiot.
If you haven't taken steps to protect your finances, credit, and residence yet, you're halfway toward being an idiot. If you accept ANY communication from her, you'll be a full idiot.
1. Notify the authorities and your financial institutions as highest priority.
2. Take her leftover possessions, put them into storage (keeping an itemized list, and ideally photographs of everything), and notify her family where to collect it (keeping a copy of the e-mail or written message of your having notified them).
3. Accept no direct communication from her under any circumstances.
4. Quit looking back; look ahead; and move on. Si, man?