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    BSquared reacted to Harpa Timsah in I dont understand   
    He is using you and you are being a sucker. What he wants you to do can land you in jail, yes YOU, for fraud. You owe him nothing.
    I agree, curb.
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    BSquared reacted to VanessaTony in I dont understand   
    No. They cannot "file AOS in their home country". They can follow the CR-1 path though.
    The K1 is not able to adjust their status to anyone but their K1 petitioner. This is the law.
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    BSquared reacted to VanessaTony in I dont understand   
    No, he cannot adjust to anyone but you. I think he knows that and is trying to blackmail you. It would explain why he left and then came back.
    You do realise aside from the penalties of lying to the government, you would be on the hook for the I-864?
    Kick him out, file for divorce, and write a letter to USCIS and ICE advising them of his fraudulent intent.
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    BSquared reacted to Merrytooth in I dont understand   
    Remember to contact ICE via email about his fraudulent intentions at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423.
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    BSquared reacted to NigeriaorBust in I dont understand   
    Grab yourself a big load of self respect and throw this loser out with the trash. YOU owe him nothing, zero , nada. He used you to get there , he wants you to lie to the government to keep him here and tells you to your face that it is only for a greencard. Don't listen , change the locks, change your phone number and get an new email account. Don't look back.
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    BSquared reacted to Cathi in I dont understand   
    he walked out on you at the very beginning of the process, you had no idea where he was, what he was doing or if he was coming back. He obviously treats you like dirt and is guilting you into staying married until he gets his green card. And you feel guilty......seriously?????????? If you post something like this here and expect people to be sympathetic, I can't imagine many will. He obviously only married you to for a green card, he used you. WHY WHY WHY are you EVEN considering helping this man when he said he would just find another woman to marry to get a green card? Not to mention that you will be committing fraud because you know the second he gets his green card he is history. Have some self esteem, divorce him and let him figure it out by himself.
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    BSquared reacted to Brc in I dont understand   
    I read something once that has been immensely helpful to me. Maya Angelou said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
    And sometimes it's difficult the first time. But when we see it, then we know. And when we know who they are, then you'll know what to do. It will be clear when it's time.
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    BSquared reacted to LlamaInvasion in Asking for advice....Having a baby soon.   
    One Parent One Language is actually very effective, and I agree starting right away is the best. It will be easier for your child to learn both languages from early on, rather than having a second language taught later in life. Not to mention, a lot of children will actually actively fight against being taught a different language by a parent later. A Norwegian mother I know sometimes speaks English on accident to her 6-year old, and is immediately scolded by that child, because "Mommy doesn't talk like THAT!"
    My husband speaks barely more than a lick of Norwegian (my native tongue - he can understand "Hi," "Bye," and a few random words, like "Bread" or "Chicken"), but I still only speak Norwegian to my child. It took me a while to get used to speaking Norwegian in public, but honestly - it's nobody else's business what you're saying to your child. It's challenging sometimes, especially because there's... almost nothing Norwegian in the US. I'm his sole resource for the Norwegian language. I too speak so much English, and speak it so well, that I really have to focus on speaking Norwegian. But it's really important to me, and I think it'll be worth it.
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    BSquared reacted to narnia in Asking for advice....Having a baby soon.   
    it's a proven fact that a child's earliest years are possible the most important ones when i comes to learning. an infant's brain has around 2 times more synapses than an adult's brain and the years 0-3 are probably the most flourishing ones concerning learning and influences from the surrounding.
    also stimuli from the surroundings help the infants brain to organise. concerning language: in the first year of a child's life they learn with their entire brain, before centres are built and certain areas are responsible for certain tasks. so when exposed to a second language from birth on, the language centre in the brain gets formed and organised with 2 languages on file already. this makes it way easier for the child knowing 2 languages when growing up. whilst a later exposure to the second tongue makes it harder for the child to memorise it.
    since an infant's brain is not yet departed in areas, it reacts like a sponge to imformation and gladly soaks it all up.
    so if you want your child to be bilingual it is much easier to teach it from the very start. it's also recommended that each parent uses one language to talk to their child, so e.g. the mother uses her native tongue and the father his. this is proven to be the most flourishing way to have a child grow up bilingual.
    my mother is a pedagogue and and made all kinds of experiences with bilingual kids. she noticed that parents who don't teach their children their native tongue from the start, usually have a hard time teaching them later.
    from my personal experience i know this: my cousin's husband speaks czech, but he didn't teach his kids from start on, and now his son is 7 years old and doesn't know a single word and refuses to learn it even.
    so in my opinion, i'd start right away and not wait.
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    BSquared reacted to Artisan in 2nd Chances For A FIlipina   
    I think the real question here is why specifically are you targeting Filipinas? If you are physically attracted only to Asians is there something wrong with Indonesians, Malaysians, Japanese, Chinese, Koreans, Thai or Vietnamese? I would personally recommend taking a few years to reexamine just what you are looking for in a relationship and perhaps if it is truly a love of Filipino culture you may have better success looking for a single woman of Filipino decent in the US. Attending a Filipino church in your area will help.
    If you are relying on your status as a US citizen more than your own physical characteristics, personality, and demeanor to win you someone's heart you are always going to end up suffering for it in the end. One of the things I was told by the members of my local Fil-Am community when I started dating my wife is to make sure I was not dating 'out of my league' or I ran an even larger risk of being heartbroken in the end. The same rules apply overseas as they do in the US. If there is no way you'd be able to pick up a girl of the same intelligence, beauty, and personality in the US then your foreign girlfriend/boyfriend is weighing your wealth or citizenship as part of the deal.
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    BSquared reacted to LIFE'SJOURNEY in 16 years old immigrant teen from colombia.   
    Since that is so important to you, why don'y you get your facts straight about immigration. Since I was trying to assist you, but hey, I don't need to know how to stay since I am a USC,
    My spelling of Colombia isn't going to make your journey any easier. I could have been hash like most of those who will eventually respond to your post, and say Go home. But I will discontinue this discussion and move on to someone who deserves my assistance.
    as the saying goes, it's always the dumb ones who bites the hand that is trying to feed them.
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    BSquared reacted to AmyWrites in 16 years old immigrant teen from colombia.   
    *headdesk*
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    BSquared got a reaction from Lainie B in Cheating Husband   
    Thanks for the advice... and the winking face is completely unnecessary. Benjamin and I are not married yet, as much as I would love to be. Unfortunately, he is still in New Zealand. You may think what you want; I need not tell you my personal life. She does have a daughter, but I'm sure they can work something out as far as she is concerned. Again, thanks for your help... and I'll pretend like you weren't accusing me of lying. ;-)
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    BSquared got a reaction from Leatherneck in Cheating Husband   
    Thanks for the advice... and the winking face is completely unnecessary. Benjamin and I are not married yet, as much as I would love to be. Unfortunately, he is still in New Zealand. You may think what you want; I need not tell you my personal life. She does have a daughter, but I'm sure they can work something out as far as she is concerned. Again, thanks for your help... and I'll pretend like you weren't accusing me of lying. ;-)
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    BSquared got a reaction from TBoneTX in Cheating Husband   
    Thanks for the advice... and the winking face is completely unnecessary. Benjamin and I are not married yet, as much as I would love to be. Unfortunately, he is still in New Zealand. You may think what you want; I need not tell you my personal life. She does have a daughter, but I'm sure they can work something out as far as she is concerned. Again, thanks for your help... and I'll pretend like you weren't accusing me of lying. ;-)
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    BSquared reacted to VanessaTony in Marrying a us resident benfits   
    No the states aren't. That's what Jim was saying. If you can prove you're a resident of a state (i.e. LIVING there, not LPR) you get subsidised tuition for "in-state rates". If illegals want to study that's all well and good, but they shouldn't get subsidised. They should benefit from government assistance/leniency in any way.
    No he's not saying they shouldn't get an education, he's saying the government shouldn't assist them to pay lower fees. They should pay out-of-state rates or international rates.
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    BSquared reacted to Harpa Timsah in Marrying a us resident benfits   
    Overstay is not forgiven for brothers, or kids of residents, or spouses of residents. You are ineligible.
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    BSquared reacted to NigeriaorBust in Marrying a us resident benfits   
    Your biggest issue at the moment is you are out of status. You can't ASO unless you have valid status unless you marry a USC. You will have to go home and face the ban.
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    BSquared reacted to Ban Hammer in Question...   
    either know what you're talking about or don't post. the op doesn't need misdirection and the thread hijacked.
    charles
    vj moderation
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    BSquared reacted to JimVaPhuong in Question...   
    Everything depends on what it said on that document he signed. If it was an expedited removal then it comes with an automatic five year ban. If there was a P6C involved (misrepresentation) then a lifetime ban is applied. An I-212 waiver would be required in order to get a visa.
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    BSquared reacted to StraightShooter in Question...   
    Uhh... excuse me, but Oct 07 means October 2007 to me, not 7 October 2011, which means that the illegal entry was more than 4 years ago, not just a few months ago.
    OP - did the entry happen in October of 2007? This is important to our understanding of when things happened.
    I can't remember the process, but I thought it was a 3-year ban for first attempt at illegal entry, not a lifetime ban. If so, then the OP might be able to go forward with the K1 process if the entry was actually 4+ years before.
    Hopefully, the bashing will cease and some more knowledgeable members will chime in.
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    BSquared reacted to Deputy Purple in wife left before aos interview coming up, what to do?   
    To the OP,
    If she entered on a K-1 she will not be able to adjust status based on marriage to anyone else without a VAWA Claim.
    Stay far away from her...
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    BSquared reacted to JimVaPhuong in wife left before aos interview coming up, what to do?   
    You can have an immigration officer witness your signature at the infopass appointment.
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    BSquared reacted to Kathryn41 in wife left before aos interview coming up, what to do?   
    Please follow Vanessa and Tony's advice. It is the best thing you can do.
    While it is better that you find out before she receives her green card that she was not serious about the relationship than after, still it must hurt a lot. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. You can certainly make an Infopass appointment for the USCIS officer near you and present them with your information, but you won't be able to attend the interview at that office. You would only be able to do that in the scheduled USCIS office. Going in person is certainly one way to let USCIS know but I would also notify them in writing that you are officially withdrawing the Affidavit of Support based upon desertion of your wife from the marriage.
    The circumstances about the relationship are no one's business but your own and have no bearing on the best advice to offer here. You do not need to go into a discussion of them here even if people ask. Try not to be alone in her presence until after the AOS is denied for lack of a sponsor and you have had a chance to advise USCIS of her actions. She may not realize now that she needs you to remain in the US legally but she might very well learn that soon and try to come back long enough to get the green card or to set up circumstances where she could file for a VAWA claim.
    Again, I am so very sorry this has happened to you.
    Edited to add, yes, you can get a divorce. Talk with a family lawyer about the best means to do so, especially if you don't know where she is.
    Yes, you will be able to file for another fiancee or spouse in time. You will need to provide all of the information about this situation, so do keep all of the paperwork for now as you will need to refer to it if you do find someone else in the future.
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    BSquared reacted to VanessaTony in wife left before aos interview coming up, what to do?   
    You cannot withdraw the AOS application but you CAN and SHOULD withdraw your I-864 asap. This will cancel the AOS application (as it's not possible for the AOS to go through without it). Go to whatever office you can get to ASAP and withdraw your I-864 in WRITING. Also include a letter and any evidence you have of her affair and leaving you.
    If she attends alone she is denied. He HAS to attend in order for it to be approved.
    I would be VERY careful that she doesn't try and claim abuse and get a GC that way. For that reason I would report to ICE that she left you for someone else and that you believe you were being used for a GC. NEVER be alone with her.
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