LoveNigarmostyle

Yes I agree with the "few" that screw up, many must suffer and pay the high price of their mistakes. For those of us, who apply for immigration "legally" it is a joke to go through this whole situation to bring our loved ones here. When the US and Mexico border is letting thousands of illegal immigrants in everyday(and I am being conservative)without AP or this or that. I live in the Southern California and I know this for a fact.
To answer your question about his family, friends and neighbors, I say yes. Even the Embassy got to meet me in person when I was there for I paid them a visit too.
Thanks for your thoughts and comments. It is very much appreciated.

It would be most appropriate to respect the VJ members, who have more experience and knowledge in this visa journey even though you might think you have ALL the facts right which might not make sense to those who are more experienced. I have not heard of what you are saying either.
USCIS approves petitions doesn't give visas. Petitions then are sent to NVC for further processing. Once the petition is completed then it's forwarded to Nigeria or any country in question. The visa is ready to be issued but the CO has the final say if he does or doesn't give out the visa to the spouse or the fiance.
If you got a visa at the USCIS level? then why go through the interview process? I believe no one is trying to bring you down, it is just that this VJ can be difficult and confusing. We all have been there and done that. It is very important to keep your cool and open mind for we are here to help not make it more difficult or negative. But you have to understand that a valid point is being made here.
Best of luck to you and please keep in mind we are here to help and not judge. God bless you too! Good luck!

thank you! Yes, for some of us, the road was very long and hellish but what matters the most is the outcome. I hope you are well too! I continue to post my updates to encourage those who only hear the bad or the negative. Like any relationship a long distant relationship is work and it's even more work for there are many differences and changes. When two are in it with honestly and equal effort, the relationship has a greater chance to succeed. It is not all bed of roses, yet with patience one can get over the obstacles. Wishing you happiness and thanks again for your guidance when needed!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Absolutely correct! We got married in Nigeria and we did not need to get a marriage license in the US. The Nigerian marriage certificate is valid license.

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

You are welcome! Go with open mind and ready for a new experience! Be alert and cautious but open to the love and hospitality your new family will display.

You are welcome! Go with open mind and ready for a new experience! Be alert and cautious but open to the love and hospitality your new family will display.

Great advice is already shared in the posts. If you plan to stay a long time, it would be a good idea to immunize fully. Also when you arrive there, go to the U.S. Embassy and let them know where you will be staying. Make sure your fiancé meets you at the front of the exit door for people will overwhelm you with their presence. Do not pay anyone anything once you are at baggage claim. You will be asked for money but stay strong and say NO. Yes, take hundred dollar bills but ask your fiancé what year? For the black market prefers newer bills and lady time I went it was 2008 and newer. Eating stuff on the street is not something I advice for the hygiene is not in best conditions. I preferred eating at in laws and restuarants. I also went to the shop rite for veggies, fruits and so on. Don't take water with you for there is plenty there. Tooth brush is a must. Toilet paper too. Their paper there is like sand paper! Lol if you can find a battery operated little fan buy it! Take extra batteries too. When the electricity goes out, this will be very handy. Pack light clothes and be ready for a torally new experience! Good luck!

Absolutely correct! We got married in Nigeria and we did not need to get a marriage license in the US. The Nigerian marriage certificate is valid license.

Welcome to the site. You mentioned your husband is in Nigeria. Is this your first visit to Nigeria or have you been there before? If you have been there before, how many times and how long did you stay before getting married? Nigeria is a high fraud country, be advised the consulates there are very hesitant to issue a visa to couples, who met online, communicate few months, and then met and get married on the first visit, or even on the second one. Several visits and time together for few weeks or months at a time will be recommended with a petition involving Nigeria. This site is very helpful to prepare you for the journey ahead.

You seem to be confused not shocked. Most of us who have been on VJ or around the block more years have ALMOST heard it ALL. We have seen patterns used over the years which raises, or should I say, it should raise a flag for the US partner in the relationship that she/he should pay more attention to certain requests from anyone from abroad.
You posted and we are advising you out of concern and not hating on anyone. Should this be one incident, then don't take it to the heart. It has resolved itself. Our intentions are noble. We stand to gain nothing by trying to help you. Good luck and wishing you all the best.

Hello VJ friends,
Recently I posted about my husband and myself and about our relationship status since his arrival from Nigeria. For those of you who have knows about our story and visa journey then you know it took us a long time to be finally together.
Since his arrival, we have been happy and our married life has been a great one. I posted a little update to encourage those who are still in their VJ to let them know that not EVERY relationship or marriage with a Nigeria is doomed, for the wrong reasons, for scam, or destined to fail. I got over thousand readers of our post but a handful posted their comments.
Then a week or so later, another member came in and posted a very vindictive and generalized post about all Nigerians and most people on VJ jumped to the opportunity to say their peace and point a finger at the person as if saying "you should of known this would happen when you married a Nigerian!".
Often we hear only one side of the story when people come back and post their dissatisfaction with the outcome of the broken marriage/relationship. I am not saying there is no truth in their stories, but hearing one side of the story doesn't mean we are getting all the facts. I personally run a support group on FB and I have met many couples Nigerians or otherwise with most having a successful outcome once they are together.
PLEASE those who are with their mates finally, instead of forgetting to come back and share your experiences, come back and share so others can relate, learn and grow from your experiences. WE hold valuable lessons for others to learn from. It is not just the bad that needs to be share. The good and positive does too!
I might be a one voice who repeats myself......but I pray I make an impact somehow, someway to exonerate the Nigerians name and reputation. Also, to give those Nigerians who's intentions are not so noble an incentive to improve and better themselves to do right by others.
We are one race that being human. Please love, help and support each other to improve life for others as much as we do for ourselves. God bless!

Hi Brenda,
Congrats on the birth of your son. I would suggest reading the posts and information available here in VJ. The more you prepare yourself before filing the better your chances are to succeed with your petition. You have two options either file a K1 fiance visa or go get married and come back and file for CR1 for your husband. It is crucial that you learn the difference and pros and cons of each petition. If you take the info learned here you should not need a lawyer but it is your choice.
I personally think getting married and filing for your man is a more stable choice but it is your option. Be prepared that they will ask for a paternity test to proof that your son and husband are related regardless of him carrying your fiance's last name. You have a road ahead, take time to absorb the info needed prior to proceeding. Wishing you all the best in your VJ and life.

Hi Brenda,
Congrats on the birth of your son. I would suggest reading the posts and information available here in VJ. The more you prepare yourself before filing the better your chances are to succeed with your petition. You have two options either file a K1 fiance visa or go get married and come back and file for CR1 for your husband. It is crucial that you learn the difference and pros and cons of each petition. If you take the info learned here you should not need a lawyer but it is your choice.
I personally think getting married and filing for your man is a more stable choice but it is your option. Be prepared that they will ask for a paternity test to proof that your son and husband are related regardless of him carrying your fiance's last name. You have a road ahead, take time to absorb the info needed prior to proceeding. Wishing you all the best in your VJ and life.

A friend's husband arrived after their two year anniversary by few days and he was given a 10yrs green card. If you are unsure call USCIS and ask. Good luck and congrats on your upcoming anniversary!

It sure sounds like you are in AP. As indicated by Ebunoluwa all you can do is wait. I hope it doesn't take very long but no one can tell you how long they will take. Be patient this too shall pass. Good luck!

It means Administrative Processing.
It can involve varies background checks, security checks and home investigations in the country you live in or were born in.
It can last from a few weeks to a year and more. There is nothing you can do about it except ask for status updates every few weeks.

I don't think that our comments we're necessarily negative. You presented us with a typical red flag case and we responded accordingly. It's nice that your case was a typical.