MatthewNCarolina

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

I suggest meeting in person first...
Matt

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

From someone who took 4 folders full of all kinds of chat history, 1 folder with at least 60+ photos printed on glossy photo paper plus all the documents and forms requested I would say take as many photos as you want, use the glossy paper because it does look better and if you want, later you can put the pictures on a frame or album like I did. Take as much evidence as you can, the more the better and on a high fraud country I would recommend it.
On my interview day, when my fiance (now husband) and I entered the CO's room for the interview, as soon as he told us we could sit down, we just put all those folders on the table which probably scared him lol In the end it worked out perfect because he didn't ask for pictures, any chat history or any evidence at all but he knew we were prepared if he did. People got amazed on how much stuff we had but I am pretty sure if I did not have all that evidence with me that day, he would've asked for something I wouldn't have in hands. Good luck!

From someone who took 4 folders full of all kinds of chat history, 1 folder with at least 60+ photos printed on glossy photo paper plus all the documents and forms requested I would say take as many photos as you want, use the glossy paper because it does look better and if you want, later you can put the pictures on a frame or album like I did. Take as much evidence as you can, the more the better and on a high fraud country I would recommend it.
On my interview day, when my fiance (now husband) and I entered the CO's room for the interview, as soon as he told us we could sit down, we just put all those folders on the table which probably scared him lol In the end it worked out perfect because he didn't ask for pictures, any chat history or any evidence at all but he knew we were prepared if he did. People got amazed on how much stuff we had but I am pretty sure if I did not have all that evidence with me that day, he would've asked for something I wouldn't have in hands. Good luck!

From someone who took 4 folders full of all kinds of chat history, 1 folder with at least 60+ photos printed on glossy photo paper plus all the documents and forms requested I would say take as many photos as you want, use the glossy paper because it does look better and if you want, later you can put the pictures on a frame or album like I did. Take as much evidence as you can, the more the better and on a high fraud country I would recommend it.
On my interview day, when my fiance (now husband) and I entered the CO's room for the interview, as soon as he told us we could sit down, we just put all those folders on the table which probably scared him lol In the end it worked out perfect because he didn't ask for pictures, any chat history or any evidence at all but he knew we were prepared if he did. People got amazed on how much stuff we had but I am pretty sure if I did not have all that evidence with me that day, he would've asked for something I wouldn't have in hands. Good luck!

Okay, has been a while and we have been so busy with vacation, back to work, puppy, etc etc...So last week I hit the 7 months mark and since July 30th my service request have been with USCIS and nothing yet, not even a touch which made me try to turn tables today! I sent a request along with paperwork to the Ombudsman's office and also contacted my senator and am still tempted to contact senator #2 to see who works faster LOL
I called USCIS before all that and asked to speak with a Tier 2 Person and personally don't think that the first representative I spoke with was really happy once I asked to be transferred, oh well... The Tier 2 lady told that at this point my application is still with CSC and only on August 20th they got my file for review and if everything goes well I shouldn't take too long to hear something back from them (Yeah right). You know, like everybody else here, I just want a break from USCIS and am tired of looking at USCIS' website and seeing Initial Review. I am glad for the ones who got theirs approved and good luck to the ones waiting with me.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

Sarcasm mode on, eh? There's tons of visas that allow you to the the RIGHT way but the last thing you should do is go around the system unless you are on the same boat with the OP. If ain't unfair to you, I'm not even sorry but yes it is for me.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

Sarcasm mode on, eh? There's tons of visas that allow you to the the RIGHT way but the last thing you should do is go around the system unless you are on the same boat with the OP. If ain't unfair to you, I'm not even sorry but yes it is for me.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

Do you all know what is the biggest problem I see here with her story???? Come to a freaking forum that preaches everywhere to do the LEGAL WAY, go through all the process and paperwork, wait and wait and wait and wait because we have to dance WITH the system and never go around it. That if we do the wrong thing later it will eventually bite us in the rear but then some happy "play-it-up-major-red-flag-go-around-the-system" girl comes to this forum to post that if you JUST look pretty to the CO you WILL get away with it, even if you freaking did something illegal???
Does she even realize that people who haven't started the process yet come in here to learn how to file for their petitions/applications, and we are all trying over and over again to tell them to do the right thing, to wait that USCIS will look at their petition if they have everything necessary and make the right move??? And then she post this topic saying that you shouldn't bother to gather documents, its ALRIGHT to work illegally with a made-up SSN, that is also fine to pretend that you have good chemistry in front of the CO, that overstay your tourist visa and marry is also OK and gosh, I don't know what else... While the rest of us is waiting MONTHS AND MORE MONTHS to see one freaking "touch" on your petitions??? How UNFAIR IS THAT???
SHAME ON NYC OFFICE, SHAME ON THE CO.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

My fiance, now husband, at the time of the interview wore his engagement ring and all of our pictures we separated for the the interview showed it aswell. I know its not common in the U.S for a male to wear an engagement ring but for me it was and he loved the idea and at the interview nothing was questioned about it and neither we had to show any pictures.
The only difference for us was, engagement rings in my country for both, male and female, stays in the right hand. Once you marry it goes to the left hand, I believe that if they ever noticed that at the embassy stage they would know the country's culture and even if questioned we would've told the CO what was meant for, I think you should be fine. If the CO ever ask about it just tell him honestly that it is an engagement ring, no big deal.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

I think there are many issues here the OP is facing: the hard part is she is trying to be nice, but also trying to adjust her status. If she leaves to visit family at home, she can never come back for 10 years, plus he has her stuck in limbo regarding marriage and divorce. She is trying to be a good wife. Trying to be patient, but I think it is time he be a man. Russian men are more of a man then this military man is.
1) a husband treating her like a maid and nanny.
2)a good for nothin lawyer who gave her bad advice and needs his A$$ whoopped behind the barn by a potemkin land missle
3) A husband who is royally taking advantage of the situation because he is tired of trying to adapt to the cultural differences.
4) Her trying to learn English, but is tied down by not being able to drive or have money.
5) A husband saying she is not important and cheating on her, and getting away with it.
6) the military Officers not knowing what exactly he is doing regarding his family.
7) she needs to contact the military USCIS visa helpline at USCIS has established a toll-free military help line, 1-877-CIS-4MIL (1-877-247-4645), exclusively for members of the military and their families.
8) contact His immediate superior officer (or the former officer if she does not feel comfortable regarding the current officer.) Time to call his "scamming lies" after 2 years. After 2 years, I definitely would not want to be him answering to his superior officer or a member of his unit when the superior officer found out.
9) if all else fails, contact the local media to her plight and issue.

The OP has come asking for specific advice about filing to adjust her status. She has shared some of the extenuating circumstances that relate to questions she has filling out the forms. Thank you to those who have taken the time to respond to Murysa's questions. For those of you who wish to challenge her veracity, please keep your comments to yourself. Visa Journey is supposed to be a forum to provide assistance and support, not to make judgmental personal attacks because you don't like the circumstances that have been presented. If there is a problem with the truth, USCIS is the appropriate one to determine this. I have read over this thread and I have no difficulty in believing the truth of Murysa's situation. Some of us would perhaps manage things differently if we were in her situation, but that's the thing, none of us are and the best assistance you can offer is to help her with her questions - or not post in this thread at all.
Any further negative, critical or judgmental comments will result in a thread ban for the poster. I am leaving this thread open as Murysa still appears to have some questions with which she needs assistance. So, either provide the requested assistance, or do not participate.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.