AmyWrites

I might regret posting this, but I know someone who was a CO at Lagos (and at other consulates too, high fraud and lower fraud), and since I considered going that career route, I had lunch with her, discussing what it's like to be a CO.

She confirms Lagos is the worst in terms of scammers, and denials.

But relevant to VJ people, YES, please front load, especially K-1's, as the odds are not in your favor for K-1's.

100% fact, Really? So you were there? This is indeed ridiculous. As for VAWA, sorry to break that to you but VAWA is NOT the only path a victim of violence can take in America.

Then, the words you pick, talk for themselves. This is NOT about "boxing and battling" dude! You are missing the point by a 100 miles. Since when "defend the US from the invaders" had become your motto? I quite don't get WHAT difference it will make to you all British, Polish, Russian, Papuan or whatever nationality, if this lady stays here or goes? She is not taking your pudding, zrazi, borscht or whatever food it is out of you mouth does she? Have you recently been hired to patrol the border? This attitude is just ridiculous and narrow minded. You have all immigrated here, right? ( this includes USC who tend to forget that without immigration, they would not be here either) You already forgot that? Let's be real here, there are gazillions of undocumented immigrants in this country who are REALLY breaking the laws and when ONE who has family here tries to find a LEGAL way to stay, it is what they are being met with? This goes beyond the worst level of hatred and absurdity possibly imaginable.

Next WHY on earth would this person HAVE to adjust status with her K1 visa? The OP has never said that, I have never said that so take reading lessons, go get checked for ADHD or take attention classes, then take a deep breath as this poor lady is not going to steal your food. You all are SO angry and obsessed by "she should get the f*** out of here" that it clouds your already poor judgement . IF he option K1 is over ( and ONLY an attorney can say that) there could be other pathways, work visa, family sponsoring, etc, etc And NO, planning to hire a family member is NOT illegal in America...

Now if you all need to assuage your anger management issues or wanabe-border-patrol-officer frustration, no need to bother typing anything on here, go to the closest hardware store. There should be a spot, close-by, where illegals search for "off the books" work, they need your help to find their way home.... Among the various intellectual atrophies I have encountered, xenophobia from immigrants towards other immigrants is undoubtedly the most repugnant thing.

OP, do not listen to this person, lest Auntie will ruin her chances of future immigration.

First of all I'm sorry you're going through this.

Second, can you get married (perhaps in a third country even) and apply for a CR1?

I'm filing late May, so I'll add myself to the list soon.

I'm putting a mailing address that has a different state than the physical one. Anyone know to which service center I'm supposed to send it in this case?

Can you move on from this? I don't know why you care or keep pursuing the matter at this point. You did what you have to do. If some woman falls for it that's her problem.

Pretty self explanatory. As we live in different states, it'll be quite costly to FedEx the documents between us.

haha yess in ap at embassy yeah i was just trying to see the opinion of others.

And you think if my husband has it hell be able to leave to the us ? God forbid that happening

I think and hope not.

We lived with them when we first moved to the US, but now husband works in another state (I'll be moving with him soon). We're not sure if we're going to rent an apartment or something where he is so I'm thinking of using my parents' address in the forms, is this ok? I already filed a change of address for him.

Amy, Amy, Amy, looks like their hands are tied. The USEMB gives them no other choice in having their mother/MIL visit them. I agree the dumping of largesse (thank you RhettVoe for this term) into her bank account was corny and does not look good at all, but it seems as though they are desperate to have the lady come and visit. If they this is all they truly wish to happen, why say, "Don't waste everyone's time applying for a green card if she has no intention of actually living in the US. And yes, they can deny the application." It's not that easy for the USEMB to deny an I5 as it is for the B2. I think you and RhettVoe know this. They appear to rather have the mom visit on a B2, but are now being pushed to go the I5 route which has a higher chance of being approved.

True, but if her intention truly is to just "visit" the US using said green card, she'll lose it eventually.

The embassy/consul is not stupid, and that's exactly why they denied an applicant whose bank account jumped from 3k to 30k. Job well done on their part, this looks very bad.

And no, there are no "different rules" for different embassies. There are high fraud places where most tourist visa applications will be denied, and such, but no actual "different rules".

Green cards are NOT for unlimited travel, and she'll lose her green card if she spends most of her time abroad. Don't waste everyone's time applying for a green card if she has no intention of actually living in the US. And yes, they can deny the application.

Applications are often looked at before the person comes in for the interview. Hence why they may or may not ask many questions at the actual interview.

And your comparison to the Tel Aviv airport, that's what they do, kind of. They see your application and deny or approve accordingly. In my very humble opinion, the denial rates for certain kinds of visas should be higher, but whatever.

Putting a possible carrier on two or more plans all the way to the US is, at the very least, very irresponsible.

Regardless of that, you can't really do much about AP other than wait it out.

There are ways to word things to other people on forums, especially when it's dealing with loved ones.

People come here for a human response, not a robotic one you'd expect from a USCIS agent that is likely to make the OP feel like her fiance is a criminal.

Lay down the hard facts - fine. But do it like you would to a human being in real life. Ya know, with a bit of warmth. That's not sugar-coating.

OP will never see her fiance like a criminal. The issue is she should know what lies ahead so she can prepare for it, telling her things "will work themselves out" or whatever is just a waste of time. Honesty gives her the power to prepare.

Call the cruise line, some lines are flexible about cancelling within 90 days pre-cruise.

I don't know how much of a high fraud consulate the UAE are, but I wouldn't even think of doing this in low fraud consuls... just massive red flag.

Whew, good.

Called "Notice of Requirement to File Joint Petition to Remove the Conditional Basis of an Alien's Permanent Resident Status". Does this mean I have to file NOW? I thought I just needed to file within the 90 day window... he entered the US on 8/04/2012. We're living in different states and I wanted to file later in that window, since by then I'll be living with him. Would that be okay? Or should he file now regardless of living in different states?

You people are being extremly harsh I admit in hindsight the fault was mine in submitting early but the USCIS should have not start processing it and sent it back to us with the fee, my covering letter states I am sending a head of time....DUH!!!!!! so they are as just to much to blame, end of story

Your cover letter is worthless to them. You HAVE to send the docs AFTER the wedding. You are NOT an exception to the rule and you'll be very disappointed if you think you can do things your way regarding immigration. Therefore, they don't have to refund you.

Thank you what happened to a humane response all my documentation was correct they even admitted that and put the blame on the non-diligence of the NBC so there maybe grounds for a fee waiver as they advise that it should have not been processed beyond that point and they should have sent all documentation and fee back to us.

Don't bet on that. Usually when it's your mistake, you don't get your money back.

I won't be PC but...

This is why it's so important to have a very thorough understanding of the culture of the person you are marrying. Simply put, our ideas of "respect" and "how to treat men/women" differ greatly from some countries. People in high fraud countries get more scrutiny, I am sure, also because COs are aware that marriages between USCs and people of certain cultures have a higher likelihood of failing. I am in no way blaming OP.

I am glad you are safe now. I am glad you kicked this man out to the curb and didn't give him more chances. Please let us know how this hearing goes.

I think your husband is the one who wants you to abort, and your lawyer never said that.

Something's wrong with your husband if he wants you to abort over a visa.

And yeah,I"m very pro-choice.

We met June 30th 2012 through his cousin

This is likely your red flag, besides that you're older than him.

We never received the card either. So we had to go there, and they told us to wait another 30 days so he wouldn't have two SSNs. Later on we went again and he finally got it.

Given Ukraine's current situation, getting a visa from there to visit the US is likely very hard.... can you meet in a third country?

Its not her residency she had to do it was just an observership which is working in a hospital and observing what the doctor shes shadowing does. She couldnt get it done here so she had it done in Pakistan. Now when she comes it would be her residency she needs to do after taking her licencing exams which takes up to a year to study for and pass.

And about this 'since you are capable of working and school you are capable to visit her'... with all due respect, till u guys live my life and see how i manage my condition since birth, u cannot assume its simple to pick things up and go because im capable of working and schooling. I dont go to school in canada and work in mexico... I work at home and take classes on a campus about 15 minutes away, and try to do online classes when I can. Just because people dont see me as walking death, doesnt mean I am not suffering through issues. Also since i grew up with the issue its not like I am not used to how the condition affects me or how to live with it. A person doesnt go through life wanting to be different then their peers, and knowing i had this condition, I did the best i could to assimilate w/ society considering my issues to where it looks like im perfectly ok. No one knows what I go through the other 12 hours of the day during dialysis besides my close family members and Amna

I have a chronic condition as well that is horrible. In fact it came up during hubby's interview process.

You're not getting that it's not us who don't sympathize, it's that USCIS/CO's are trained to essentially not sympathize, and doubt that the relationship is valid. That's their job, and with your girl being from Pakistan, it's even more difficult. Thus, it's your job to make sure there's no space for them to plant any doubt about your relationship. Because all the questions that you've been asked here, a CO will ask your partner, only that they have the power to make your life hell.

So, essentially, prove that you can't even go to Canada/Mexico/etc, that she's been denied a tourist visa (more than once), that you are incapable of leaving your area for more than a few hours. Above that, you need to prove the relationship itself is real.

And yeah, make sure you can actually marry your cousin in Florida.

Go to Canada. Have her take a course at a local university. You haven't exhausted all options. If you want the waiver approved, then, you need to show that you have.

Meeting is a requirement for the K-1.

Even if you get this waiver approved (which, seeing now that you can work and study, I don't see it happening, it's not as bad as everyone here thought it was), you're going through a very difficult consulate.