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  1. One week isn't enough. Honestly, I can't believe the US government allows and approves petitions for people who've spent so little time together, but alas, how's it different from meeting a random guy and getting married in Vegas? I was lucky... I lived in Russia, so I lived with my husband before marriage and immigration stuff, but had I not lived in Russia, I would've waited a lot longer to get married and stuff, because you simply don't know a person well until you've lived with them and seen them at their best and worst (a week is merely a honeymoon, almost).

    I don't know if you've dated internationally before, but it's HARD. If he's not from a fellow Anglo-Saxon culture, you WILL have culture shock. There will be fights that were actually miscommunication, misunderstandings, expectations will have to be adjusted, compromises have to be made, etc. It's like any other relationship, except this guy, being from another culture, might have some different views on family, work, etc, that might be a big deal.

    I'd be careful. Not to mention lonely, older American women are wonderful targets for scams.

  2. OP, at this point I don't think you need a lawyer. Most people here did this all by themselves.

    I would, if I were you, withdraw the app and re-file for a CR1. You can wait for the interview and try to explain it, but I don't recommend that since;
    a. consular officers usually have already decided before the interview

    b. a more suspicious consular officer might think you're doing something fishy, slap you with misrepresentation or AP or something.

  3. I think this assumption that white people do not experience racism is plainly false and yet again another tactic. I don't get this whole "white people don't get it thing." I tried to go and enroll for community college classes and I asked several African American young ladies if I was in the right office quite loudly and to their faces, they looked up at me and ignored me. Is that racism? When the head of financial aid at my college got in trouble for telling me that I didn't qualify for financial aid because I was from a specific almost completely white town was that racism? Maybe yes, maybe no, but he did get fired a short time afterwards after I had the VP intervene. Is every time I drive through New Haven and people stare at me or I get out at a gas station there and everyone stares, is that racism? What about every time I've had a door slammed in my face there or been intentionally knocked into into in the hallway? Or what about the elevator in which someone asked right in front of me as though I wasn't a person, whether his girlfriend would get an abortion if she got knocked up like that?

    In what world do you think this is not a two way street? That white people never are on the receiving end or that we don't know what it is like? Do you know how many times I've been ignored, treated rudely, and just plain disrespected and yet I have always treated people equally and with equality?

    Yes, that is racism. But no, it's not the same racism minorities face, and the racism you get at best is just a slight inconvenience/rudeness, nothing systematic.

    OP, racism is everywhere. In the US, it's actually not so bad. Try Russia....

    Anyway, the best thing you can do is make sure you prove that whatever stereotypes about your culture exist are just BS. People will slowly learn.

    Worst come to worst, bluntness works wonders too.

    But, also remember, you can fix ignorance, but you can't fix stupid.

  4. I smile.

    The complexity of racial/ethnic things is always lost on Americans who think they have "race issues". We also think OUR government is corrupt.

    Hitler killed 22 milion "slavs" because they were "less than human" while they seem to be a much more refined version of any example of "white" or "caucasion" race than anything referred to as "Aryan" yet they, themselves, do not want to be called "causcasion" because to them it means "from the caucasus" region which most of them are not. They also consider Jewsih people as a race, not a religion, and even have various degrees of Jewish races. "Black Jewish" or "Red Jewish" for example. Dare we even mention "Gypsies" ?

    It is interesting actually. In Odessa there is a great Anthropological Museum if anyone ever gets the chance to see it.

    I have trouble keeping up myself. In the USA Alla refers to herself as "Ukrainian" but in Ukraine she would say she is "Russian". Not sure where the change occurs, probably somwhere over Greenland during the flight from JFK.

    I like the Eastern European way better. I'm Hispanic, and Caucasian Americans (hah) think that it's a race... it was simpler when I lived in Russia to explain these things to them, because they don't have the force-fed PC thing to worry about.

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