Daniel&Theary

I am so sorry I guess I am wrong this must be something new we did not need this in 2011 for my wife or 2012 for her daughter. Most Government websites end with .gov
I do know that several websites try to get people to send in money my wife received a few even after moving to the states. Again I am very sorry I didnt mean to mislead you in anyway Thank you to the people who pointed out my mistake

I would say its gross since it did not say net income of 2500. With different taxes rates for single married with or without dependents I think a 2500 net income would be to hard to regulate.

I would like to say not all Americans are not that way, and I can say it happens every where. I treat people with respect but yet when I was in France a few years ago because I was and American and I was with some Hispanic people we were treated rudely and even spit at (little advice do not ever spit at some one who is 6'2 250 pounds and a former Army Ranger).
My wife has not been treated badly and I would not allow it to happen. Most the problem I have ever seen are people who move to American and expect America to change to the country you left. Now I am not saying America is better then any other country but you came here for a reason its you that must adjust not us. If you do not love America and do not want to live the American life then maybe America is not the place for you.
Again sorry your husband was treated so badly and I am not saying he is at fault I am just giving a little advice in general. It will be a much better world when all religions can put there superiority complex to the side and let everyone be happy.

I would like to say not all Americans are not that way, and I can say it happens every where. I treat people with respect but yet when I was in France a few years ago because I was and American and I was with some Hispanic people we were treated rudely and even spit at (little advice do not ever spit at some one who is 6'2 250 pounds and a former Army Ranger).
My wife has not been treated badly and I would not allow it to happen. Most the problem I have ever seen are people who move to American and expect America to change to the country you left. Now I am not saying America is better then any other country but you came here for a reason its you that must adjust not us. If you do not love America and do not want to live the American life then maybe America is not the place for you.
Again sorry your husband was treated so badly and I am not saying he is at fault I am just giving a little advice in general. It will be a much better world when all religions can put there superiority complex to the side and let everyone be happy.

I would like to say not all Americans are not that way, and I can say it happens every where. I treat people with respect but yet when I was in France a few years ago because I was and American and I was with some Hispanic people we were treated rudely and even spit at (little advice do not ever spit at some one who is 6'2 250 pounds and a former Army Ranger).
My wife has not been treated badly and I would not allow it to happen. Most the problem I have ever seen are people who move to American and expect America to change to the country you left. Now I am not saying America is better then any other country but you came here for a reason its you that must adjust not us. If you do not love America and do not want to live the American life then maybe America is not the place for you.
Again sorry your husband was treated so badly and I am not saying he is at fault I am just giving a little advice in general. It will be a much better world when all religions can put there superiority complex to the side and let everyone be happy.

I do not know anything about refugee based visa But i would say apply for it you dont know if you do not try. I wish you luck and hope you get it

She's never had any directed towards her in person. People say she's beautiful, so they cut her some slack. Especially the guys. But online it can be a convenient weapon for malicious people to use for an attack.
Before she came I had someone tell me I had "given up" by marrying my wife. I was baffled because he wouldn't say it directly and I didn't understand. I kept pressing him : what do you mean "giving up"? I traveled all over the world an married the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. He got me so frustrated by not saying what he meant that I got angy - and then it dawned on me. He was a racist! But too much of a coward to say it. I went from being angry to laughing my butt off at the guy for being such an idiot.
But he absolutely would not accept that I could love an Asian. I would only marry one because I "gave up". Until he met her. So he went to the Philippines himself now, just back from Cebu. I guess he gave up.

Alla now has an interpreting/Translating business here. She recently had a client, an old Russian man, in his 80s, who is hospitalized. Mostly his daughter (now a US citizen) interprets for him but she is not always available, so they have been using Alla when his daughter is not available
He asks Alla how is it she came to live in the US and she tells him she met her US husband when he was working in Ukraine. OMG! She is a traitor to the "Soviet Union" The Rodina (motherland) blah blah blah. OMG! So Alla asks him how is it HE is here? Oh, he was petitioned by his daughter, who is now a US citizen, who met her US citizen husband when he was working in Russia.

The ignorance we have run into has been of two types
1. people who clearly just do not like "immigrants" unless it was their grandparents. Example: Alla runs into a woman at Lowes looking at flowers and they start up a conversation. Second sentence the woman asks "Where are you from?" Alla says "Ukraine" The woman asks "How long are you visiting for?" Alla says "I live here with my husband" and kind of motions to me. "Oh is your husband also a refugee?" Alla says "No he is a US citizen" The woman turns and walks away. End of conversation. Who cares? Nothing important but it is disappointing, especially in a "liberal tolerant state" like Vermont where it is OK to marry your lesbian, transgender sheep, but I guess NOT OK to be a "refugee"
Alla applied for a job as soon as she was able to, a small job, part time as a clerk in a woman's clothing store. She was interviewed, showed all her documents and hired. Filled out the I-9, was given a schedule of work hours and came away very happy that she had her "first job in America" she did all this, by herself, in English. Interview, form filling out, etc. All without help, all in English. That night a woman called and asked me in English to speak to Alla. Alla got on the phone and never said another word in English, spoke entirely Russian for the entire conversation. The woman was a Russian speaking woman from another store that called to "welcome" Alla to working at the Mall (woo hoo!) and they just generally blabbed in Russian for a while. Alla thought it "was nice" and she would have a native Russian speaker to "have lunch breaks with" How sweet.
Next Day, the manager of the store that hired Alla called to say she could not work there because her "English skills were not sufficient" Alla has a Masters Degreee in English and worked as a Translator/interpretor for years in Ukraine. Alla could teach the manager of the store English. Turns out the woman that called was a set-up, someone that called to "determine Alla's English skills" By speaking nothing but Russian? The store was CJ Banks, in case anyone wonders. I called the corporate headquarters in Minnesota, a regional mgr. was assigned to the complaint and Alla went to work there as scheduled. And FWIW the woman that called was an ethnic Georgian and spoke "horrible Russian, like a dockworker"
Alla became very popular at the store and many women asked for "the Russian girl" when they came in. She left there after the Christmas season as her 2nd semester studies were much more time consuming and she really just wanted some exposure to "American culture" I would say she got some. You may say "Oh Big deal, just get another minimum wage clerk job" RUB women to not roll that way! Close the door in their face and they go around the side, kick in a window and come in anyway.
2. The other type is official ignorance. The SS clerk that tells our son who appears with a green card that he "needs a new visa to get an SSN" The clerk at DMV that tells our son he needs an SSN to take the test for a drivers license. NO HE DOES NOT (not in Vermont) The supervisor corrects her and moments later, literally, I overhear her tell another person from Colombia "You need an SSN to take the test to get a drivers license" That woman was going to leave until I informed her to talk to the supervisor. Same clerk, moments apart tells an immigrant the same story after being informed of the rule. The woman at the station where they actually issue the DL told our son he had to show "proof he got married within 90 days" He is a K-2 NOT a K-1. Another supervisor, another corrected clerk.
We can read here in these forums the endless stories of official ignorance. Most recently Alla was told by the clerk at the passport office (not the post office, we went to the passport office in St Albans and paid an extra $60 each for the privilege) That we needed a copy of her divorce decree with an order of sole custody for Pasha or Pasha (now a CITIZEN) could not get a passport! NO WE DO NOT! Again a supervisor cleared that up and the clerk when on to "help" someone else. and HOW doid the supervisor clear it up? By showing the clerk the directions and requirements listed in the passport office's OWN INSTRUCTIONS! We had already read the instructions (imagine that!) and were there with everything we needed according to the instructions and suddenly told out of thin air, that we needed something else. NO WE DO NOT!
Be advised that our government offices, federal, state and local are FULL of untrained staff assigned to "help" you and they WILL affect your life if you allow them to. Google is your friend. Inform yourself of each process you are going to proceed with...DMV, passports, whatever, even recently one where a person was declined credit because their SS card still said "not valid for employment without DHS authorization"
If the staff were simply untrained, that would not be their fault. But when they INVENT answers and excuses rather than ask what to do, THAT is wrong and THAT is their own decision. Be advised they will do it and unless YOU know the truth you will be hassled, inconvenienced, and denied what is yours.

You have to do what you feel is right in your heart no one can tell you to divorce or not. I would think very long and hard I wish I would have seen the signs when I first married my ex wife but I was blinded looks like you atleast have some sense of whats really going on.

suggest you take your husband to a gun range, get proficient with a pistol.

If he has not entered the US yet, he does not have a greencard and can be denied admission. I would email and/or call the embassy in Islamabad ASAP to see what your options are. Also, you do not need to divorce in Pakistan, you can do it here. I married overseas in the past and divorced through an attorney here. Call the embassy!!!!

In my dealings with Americans I don't thing I've ever been negatively targeted, but I have had some jabs taken at me.
Questions about my igloo or remarks on how I sound very different come up all the time. Thankfully, I'm able to laugh things off or play them down. When people are rude to you, you just kill them with kindness

What you are describing has a name: xenophobia; and it is not an exclusivity of US people. Happens everywhere and you are bound to run into it sooner or later (not just in the US but everywhere), even in your/his own country!! Wait a few years and you will witness how he would be treated in similar terms by his own con-nationals in his own country. Has happened to me (I'm USC by naturalization) and it happens every time I visit.

They do not need to order tax returns. They need a copy of the transcripts and that is free.

Why would you want to disclose a potential red flag? Why would you risk that USCIS would misinterpret the Thai ceremony as a real marriage? You can rely on other events to show a real bona fide relationship. You don't need to give USCIS information that may hurt you (even if you think a really good explanation can be given).

Thank you so much, nice to get help with out some one giving attitude with it I do appreciate it.

This is an example of why people in the US scream about immigration which is too bad since obviously immigrants are some of the most lovely people! (Not to mention clogging the system up for the rest of us who just happened to fall in love with someone or are immigrating the honest way...)

And I say right back to you. Using your logic. How is my post any of your business?
I have an idea. You post what you want. I post what I want. Everybody posts what they want. Let the mods sort it out.

Wow. I'm wondering how is this you business. I though VJ is for giving immigration related advices at the first hand.

Wow.. people JUDGE before even knowing the entire story.. I thought this forum was to help with immigration process/questions.. we are not psychologists and we are not here to give personal advise unless someone is asking for our opinions of course..
Anyway.. just needed to say that..
As for your situation, I think that it does not matter who the biological father of the child is, legally YOU are the father, PERIOD. I think that you should just keep going with the whole process. Good luck!

Unfortunately, you're in the worst part of the worst state for unemployment and cost of living. I live in Northern California, and make a decent living, but I've been at the same company for more than 8 years. In that time I've watched most of the other companies in the same industry leave the area and the state. In the meantime, home values have plummeted, the cost of living has continued to rise, unemployment remains at a record high rate, taxes keep going up while the state's revenues decline, public services are evaporating, and the schools are rapidly decaying. If I lost my job now I'd be screwed. There's a glut of qualified people looking for work, and a severe lack of businesses available to hire them. It's beyond depressing what's happened to this state, and it's going to get worse before it gets better.
But California is NOT the United States. There are many places in the US where life is substantially better than Southern California. If you can't stand where you're at then start looking for someplace better. The world doesn't consist only of L.A. and Cambodia. If you can stick it out until your wife has been in the US for three years then she can get her citizenship, and your step-daughter will automatically become a US citizen. After that, you can go anywhere you want. It's only three years out of your life in return for a lifetime of options you wouldn't otherwise have.
Give it some thought...

Sorry to be so blunt, but it sounds like you were thinking with the wrong part of your body when you entered this "relationship". And she knew it and took full advantage of it. You are being scammed, used,or whatever words you want to use. I suspect you knew this some time ago but your rose colored glasses prevented you from getting out sooner.
And this point you need to get out and get out now. No more trips. No more money. Nothing. Just one phone call to say goodbye, you are filing for a divorce and hang up. She will get upset because she is losing the money train so expect that to happen. But this is not a relationship and IT WILL NOT CHANGE. I feel sorry this happened to you, but you will be none the worse for wear in a short time.

I think in your heart you already know the answer to the question you are asking. How can you work out a marriage with someone who won't even talk to you? You should file for divorce in the USA and move on with your life. My ex-husband also became cold and distant after we got married. He made my life hell. It does seem as if she only married you to get a visa. Most people that run these scams will at least pretend they love you until they get over here but she can't even do that for you.
I can tell from your post that you are unhappy and in a lot of pain over this relationship. Once you move on with your life you will feel better and God willing you will find someone that really loves you.

As a man talking to another man... run fast and leave this marriage. I feel that this is only the beginning and there's alot more to this behavior that you probably had not yet found out...