I Hate to sound so pathetic

[neonmikey 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

[New Yorker 0]

MY LOVED FIANCE FEELS THE SAME WAY..! WE HAVE TO BE STRONG MY FRIEND.. WAITING SO LONG WHEN U REALLY LOVE SOMEONE IS NOT EASY.. WE NEED TO FIND A SUPERIOR SOMETHING, TO KEEP OUR RELATIONSHIPS ALIVE..

GOOD LUCK, U LL SEE ALL THIS PASS, AS EVERYTHING DOES

[den_y2005 0]

be strong and you will be together soon

[Ta Ta 1]

Yes, many of us feel that way. Try to force yourself to focus on other things in life......it takes a lot of

effort to do this because you don't feel like doing anything else but think of her, but if you can shift some energy into helping others you will feel better.

Look up organizations dealing with your SO's country and culture and voluneer to help less fortunate children and adults.

It is normal to grieve the separation.

This too shall pass.

[treed44812 0]

Can relate completely..... almost the same symptoms.... I am trying to learn Mandarin to pass the time. Not going as well as I had planned. I keep thinking it would be easier with Ann as my tutor instead of the blasted computer.

[rizthomson 3]

same experience my friend.....but the only difference is that we are married after knowing each other for eight months and had the most wonderful 64 days with her..........she had taken that much long leave from the job as we planned to have DCF after 60 days..........so i was devastated when she catched the flight back to usa..........but slowly i am recovering... just passing the time and talks thr webcam and phone daily in the morng and before going to sleep.......that way a ltl comforted at this time of loneliness............so just be strong........and by the way yours case will be approved fast.........amen

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

[Jenn! 918]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

hmmmm, another alter ego???

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...st&p=435165

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

hmmmm, another alter ego???

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...st&p=435165

Small and narrow minds think alike, what else can I say....

[JenT 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

I hope the OP was just being dramatic to emphasize his point.

If David were reduced to being on his knees when I wasn't with him, I would be wondering what sort of married life I was agreeing to....

Sorry.... I understand missing someone, trust me. David's best friend just died and this has been a very difficult weekend to be apart, but life goes on and we will have be stronger for having been through all of this...

Jen

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

I hope the OP was just being dramatic to emphasize his point.

Yes, I hope so too.

[Asha+Joy=Love 0]

…. does anyone else feel this way?

Shheee yeah! To the Nth degree!

I was just going post a “hello we’re new here” when I came across your thread. This is a big issue in my mind to. The long distance relationship thing is mindnumbingly hard in and of itself. We want to be together so much, a little thing like being able to hold hands means the world when you are apart for so long.

Add to that being “processed” by a suspicious and slow-moving government office like we are criminals or something, and the manic-depressive pendulum really begins to swing. I sometimes feel just the way you describe and Joy does too. I think we have an entire forum of people who have all felt this it to one degree or another.

Well, maybe not those who find that being in love isn't dramatic. Best of luck to them in their incredibly composed marriages.

Anyway, the only thing for it is relentless hope. If today you cry, remember that you did laugh and that tomorrow you will again. If this hour is unbearable then hold tight to your love and the next hour will be easier to bear. Don’t give up, and try as hard as you can to capture every bit of happiness you can in the meantime. Be well friend. ~Asha

[JenT 0]

…. does anyone else feel this way?

Shheee yeah! To the Nth degree!

I was just going post a “hello we’re new here” when I came across your thread. This is a big issue in my mind to. The long distance relationship thing is mindnumbingly hard in and of itself. We want to be together so much, a little thing like being able to hold hands means the world when you are apart for so long.

Add to that being “processed” by a suspicious and slow-moving government office like we are criminals or something, and the manic-depressive pendulum really begins to swing. I sometimes feel just the way you describe and Joy does too. I think we have an entire forum of people who have all felt this it to one degree or another.

Well, maybe not those who find that being in love isn't dramatic. Best of luck to them in their incredibly composed marriages.

Anyway, the only thing for it is relentless hope. If today you cry, remember that you did laugh and that tomorrow you will again. If this hour is unbearable then hold tight to your love and the next hour will be easier to bear. Don’t give up, and try as hard as you can to capture every bit of happiness you can in the meantime. Be well friend. ~Asha

Nicely expressed. Welcome to VJ!

Jen

[Peggy 1]

Hang in there. Just remember its all worth it in the end.

[iceyspots 0]

Just remember that when all this is over and you two are all old and sitting next to eachother you are going to laugh about how small of a time it was to get the visa compared to the time you will spend with the rest of your lives together. I can only wish you the best and hope that you find more hope, and find some hobbies and things to help you pass time. Take care