Potential fraudelent marriage- do I post here ?

[Elmarko19 3]

My wife and stepdaughter recently got their conditional green cards a few months ago. I married her December 2019. She now suddenly gets super angry (she is bipolar )  so somewhat normal, but shes moved everything over to other side of apartment, and is telling me shes amazingly tired of being with me. She conveniently wants either me to leave permanently, but not a divorce of course, or she wants me to just move out and never return and leave the lease in her name. This is after 4 years of supporting her and her disabled daughter who I spend a fortune on regarding medical bills, insurance, etc etc. Im going to talk to an attorney of course- I just want some honest advice because im both of their legal sponsors and financially liable for them. And they are Russian and love to spend spend spend and not worry about what anything costs. They dont even drive ive driven them everywhere and Im positive they are either going to wreck the car I bought them or leave me owing thousands if they do leave my place. Can I have marriage annuled and are they stuck in USA for good no  matter if I do divorce or have marriage annuled ? Clearly thats all they wanted was free green cards. Let me know please your thoughts thanks.

[Scandi 3,970]

Divorce if you want to, that's probably the best way to go for you.

 

Immigration wise there's nothing you can do, you signed the affidavit of support knowing what that meant. Once It's time for her to remove the conditions on the greencards she can do so with a divorce waiver. 

[Elmarko19 3]

Even if I file for annulment and the judge grants the request? An attorney said I would not be financially responsible for them if the marriage was successfully anulled.

 

[StrawberryKiss 170]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. At this point it’s merely a marriage issue, but not an immigration issue anymore. You had proof and convinced USCIS and the consular officer that it was a bona fide relationship/marriage. Therefore, and in general, it’s hard to get an annulment. 
Does your wife get proper medication for being bipolar? Maybe her issues have to do with that. I can’t judge it, nobody can, but if you feel like it’s not worth fighting anymore, get a good divorce lawyer, protect yourself from any false accusations (e.g. domestic violence) and move on with your life. I wish you all the best. 

[aznhouston 124]

Protect yourself financially. You need to talk to a divorce lawyer. I don't think you can stop supporting her because you already signed the I864 and they have conditional GC.

 

 

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When do the financial obligations end for I-864?

• beneficiary becomes a U.S. citizen;
• beneficiary spouse has worked 40-quarters (10 years);
• beneficary spouse leaves the U.S. and abandons residency;
• beneficiary spouse is deported and gets new sponsor; or
• beneficiary spouse dies.

 

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[mindthegap 2,521]

58 minutes ago, Elmarko19 said:

Even if I file for annulment and the judge grants the request? An attorney said I would not be financially responsible for them if the marriage was successfully anulled.

 

Financially responsible generally is not the same as the specific I-864 you signed, relating specifically to prevent them becoming a public charge. 

That is in effect until they become citizens, work (iirc) forty quarters of work, or have their status terminated by an immigration judge. Nothing you can do about that.  
 

Other support - rent, car, alimony - is up to the divorce. 

[Boiler 43,430]

You need to discuss the issues with a Divorce Lawyer, I can see multiple issues and that you are likely to be hosed.

 

The I 864 has been used as part of a divorce settlement, you may well be at risk there.

 

Annulment, well that varies by State and is often mentioned but I can think of only 2 cases on here and neither match your situation.

[Chancy 6,233]

*** Moved from ROC Discussion to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits, where similar topics are discussed ***

 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

Is she taking her medication? If she is not, I would not take anything she is saying as being of 'sound mind'

 

I will let my husband know about this post. His ex is bi polar and an ... interesting character, to put it very mildly. He has FAR more experience in dealing with these situations (the immigration aspect aside) and may have some advice.

 

I seriously doubt you can have the marriage annulled in any state, at this point in.

[Elmarko19 3]

Please yes I’m dying for any advice you can give me . She’s not on any medication at all and refuses therapy. She doesn’t leave the house , doesn’t shave and doesn’t want anyone around her . It’s hard to figure how seriously I should take her comments - but she’s like almost all the time now as she has no friends and works from home . 

[annab864 55]

To say that ‘they are Russian’ and that’s why ‘they spend spend spend and not worry what anything costs’ is absurd. It has nothing to do with where they are from, it’s a personality trait lol. This is coming from another Russian obviously 

[Elmarko19 3]

Sorry no offense meant . But both devushkas have said repeatedly Russian women love high fashion and only want to go out in high attire clothing . Their russian friends seem to always agree with them . 

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

See a lawyer. I have seen this up close with my former Russian wife's friends. You are in for a rough ride. Never be alone with her from now on. It is highly doubtful that you will be able to get an annulment. Chances are she has been coached up and you will have to provide support. I am sorry to sound harsh but I have seen this too many times not to comment. Good Luck.

[debbiedoo 2,339]

1 hour ago, Elmarko19 said:

Please yes I’m dying for any advice you can give me . She’s not on any medication at all and refuses therapy. She doesn’t leave the house , doesn’t shave and doesn’t want anyone around her . It’s hard to figure how seriously I should take her comments - but she’s like almost all the time now as she has no friends and works from home . 

My husband basically says that if she is unwilling to seek (and stay in) treatment AND work on the marriage (as in counseling), that truly, it will be better and spare you more heartbreak, time, and money, to find a GOOD attorney now, and plan your departure. For your OWN protection and self interest, I would not be alone with her EVER, going forward, especially once she thinks you are talking to an attorney or getting ready to leave.

 

If my husband had not had children with his ex, he would have left long LONG before he did.

 

Assuming you have already gone through AOS (and it seems as though you have, looking back at your original post), you can not 'undo' that. Unless you have PROOF of a fraudulent marriage (which is pretty hard to do), you will be bound by that affidavit of support. NOW, that does not mean that you have to buy her groceries and pay her rent and give her spending money. You have not been married long, she should not be due any alimony (not if your attorney is worth his salt). It does mean that if she uses any social services type benefits (federal only i think, but am not positive on that) that the government can CHOOSE to have you repay them for those services or benefits rendered. I do not know that I have ever heard of it actually being enforced, but that doesn't mean it hasn't or couldnt happen. It is certainly their right to and in the contract you agreed to with them.

 

Good luck to you. I do not envy the journey you are about to embark on. It will be a hard one.

[Crazy Cat 39,218]

7 hours ago, Elmarko19 said:

An attorney said I would not be financially responsible for them if the marriage was successfully anulled.

Did your attorney read this part of the I-864 YOU signed ?

https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/document/forms/i-864.pdf

 

Edited September 3, 2021 by Crazy Cat