Long distance relationships during Covid

[Ellie__ 8]

Hi guys! How are you dealing with your long distance with covid? Me and my boyfriend have been apart for a year already and I am feeling so drained, he's also in the military so I guess it gets a little more complicated. 😢  Hopefully we'll be able to reunite soon and all of this mess will come to an end.

[Crazy Cat 39,214]

My wife and I were apart for 13 months in pre-Covid times.  Separation is the norm for the immigration process.  It isn't fun, but it won't kill you.  Keep busy, and continue to stay in contact.

Edited April 13, 2021 by Lucky Cat

[Ellie__ 8]

9 minutes ago, Lucky Cat said:

My wife and I were apart for 13 months in pre-Covid times.  Separation is the norm for the immigration process.  It isn't fun, but it won't kill you.  Keep busy, and continue to stay in contact.

Thank you, that's so true. 

[YecaCruz 374]

32 minutes ago, Lucky Cat said:

 Keep busy, and continue to stay in contact.

This. The longest we went without seeing each other face to face was 2 years, also pre-covid. Don't put your life on pause. Use the physical separation as time to dig deep and really get to know each other and hone your communication skills!

 

We video chatted and texted when we could but our lives went on. Worked through a lot of cultural differences and misunderstandings during our 6 year relationship before we actually were able to tie the knot

[JeanneAdil 6,191]

we married in 2010 and visa received 2015 but prior to covid  i was able to make trips there

but think this way / here in the US we haven't been able to see family face to face/  most of the family is up in NY and the state was closed for visitors from the south

and i have an aunt in a assisted care and she has been quarantined since all this started even though they all had shots in January

my sister is only 10 hours away and i have not seen her all of last year

and it still goes on

its not just people in here that are isolated from loved ones /  its all over the world

 

[Bug&Bug 143]

It sucked. We were super lucky to be able to visit regularly pre-covid so being apart for a year was rubbish and we missed eachother a lot.

 

But then, everything was rubbish, 2020 just utterly sucked.

[Babu Frik 1,162]

7 months was the longest during covid and it was really nerve wracking on the 1st trip, you have to find hobbies to keep yourself busy.

[OlgaA 67]

We have been apart since October 2019 and online chatting and messaging is one option, so it really helps. We both work and keep busy. I think it's a good advice to keep yourself busy, time passes quickly when you are busy with something. Don't focuse on how long you have been waiting focus on how little it's left to wait and how happy you will be in the end after reunion!🌺💖

Stay strong, be calm!

[Diane and Chris 651]

10 hours ago, Ellie__ said:

Hi guys! How are you dealing with your long distance with covid? Me and my boyfriend have been apart for a year already and I am feeling so drained, he's also in the military so I guess it gets a little more complicated. 😢  Hopefully we'll be able to reunite soon and all of this mess will come to an end.

Will you two apply for the K-1 Visa when you meet up again?  That’s when the real wait begins. Best of luck to the two of you. 

[Ellie__ 8]

3 hours ago, Diane and Chris said:

Will you two apply for the K-1 Visa when you meet up again?  That’s when the real wait begins. Best of luck to the two of you. 

We don't know yet. He'll be in Europe for a while so I think we'll start doing it once he's back to the US.

[DP2018 12]

2 hours ago, Ellie__ said:

We don't know yet. He'll be in Europe for a while so I think we'll start doing it once he's back to the US.

I am also in a same situation waiting to get married to my fiance in India. Waiting from more than one year since Dec 2019. When your fiance will return to USA ? 

[MarryMe987654 241]

I was physically separated from my then-fiancé for 13 months. We chatted everyday before work, texted each other a lot, called each other during our lunch break and catch up at night. It's a plus, that despite the time zone, we have the same work schedule.

Time flew faster as we were busy with other things but when I only have 2 weeks left before leaving for the U.S., it seems like I didn't have enough time to do everything that I needed to do in my home country.

So use your downtimes to settle things that you want taken care of; get bus with projects; come up with a list of to-do's. Before you know it, you're back in each other's arms again

 

[sam112 1]

I have been away from him since last 2 + years already 😔.

[Ellie__ 8]

5 hours ago, Yogi Yogi said:

I am also in a same situation waiting to get married to my fiance in India. Waiting from more than one year since Dec 2019. When your fiance will return to USA ? 

Around April 2021  

[flicks1998 1,044]

I was living with my fiance for several years so the distance was a nice break 🤣  That is a joke, but actually having spent so much time together did help the time go faster.  We were physically apart for 11 months before I was able to get a visa to go back to the country based on my son living there.

 

The hardest part in those 11 months was with my son and the feeling of abandonment he had.  In the age group of 6-7 years old, they understand some things, but not others.  He understood I left him which was supposed to only be for a few months, but he didnt understand what the pandemic is.  Having lost his mother at a very early age, the toughest part in those 11 months was convincing him that his Dad didnt leave him.  Luckily, once the country changed its visa rules and allowed parents to come back, I immediately booked my return trip until my fiance finished her interview.  Plus having an understanding employer allowing me to work remotely.