I want to divorce and bring my mom

[laura2222 0]

I got my 10 year GC about 8 months ago and I want to get a divorce, this relationship is not working at all, after I arrived my husband changed and he thinks I am his slave, and acting like some kind of a controlling alpha male.

I do still love him but I will not stay with someone like that, if I say something to him that he doesn't like he keeps saying he will deport me because I am an immigrant and I worth nothing or won't talk to me for says and tends to go and not come back to the house for days and god knows where he is and what he is doing. 

I opened a business here so I want to stay and apply for citizenship in about 4 years.

My mom is alone in my home country and I want to bring her here as soon as I become a citizen, I just wonder if bringing her here right after getting my citizenship will cause suspicion when I try to sponsor her?

I just don't want them to think I used my husband to get a green card. honestly I don't even want to stay here if I divorce but since I already have a green card I don't want to lose it and also want to stay because my business is doing well.

 

Edited July 26, 2020 by laura2222

[portorusa 431]

What is your question?

[laura2222 0]

59 minutes ago, portorusa said:

What is your question?

What do you mean what is my question? will I have problems if sponsor my mom? 

[onek 306]

12 minutes ago, laura2222 said:

What do you mean what is my question? will I have problems if sponsor my mom? 

No issues if you sponsor your mother and / or siblings after becoming citizen.  

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

4 hours ago, laura2222 said:

I got my 10 year GC about 8 months ago and I want to get a divorce, this relationship is not working at all, after I arrived my husband changed and he thinks I am his slave, and acting like some kind of a controlling alpha male.

I do still love him but I will not stay with someone like that, if I say something to him that he doesn't like he keeps saying he will deport me because I am an immigrant and I worth nothing or won't talk to me for says and tends to go and not come back to the house for days and god knows where he is and what he is doing. 

I opened a business here so I want to stay and apply for citizenship in about 4 years.

My mom is alone in my home country and I want to bring her here as soon as I become a citizen, I just wonder if bringing her here right after getting my citizenship will cause suspicion when I try to sponsor her?

I just don't want them to think I used my husband to get a green card. honestly I don't even want to stay here if I divorce but since I already have a green card I don't want to lose it and also want to stay because my business is doing well.

 

No. As long as you and your mother meet the requirements in 4 years when you petition her- you shouldn’t have any issues. Don’t forget the green card is for your mother to LIVE in the US and not just use as a glorified travel visa.

[Boiler 43,381]

Many people on here do just that.

[bobjennyhitched 99]

On 7/25/2020 at 11:41 PM, laura2222 said:

I got my 10 year GC about 8 months ago and I want to get a divorce, this relationship is not working at all, after I arrived my husband changed and he thinks I am his slave, and acting like some kind of a controlling alpha male.

I do still love him but I will not stay with someone like that, if I say something to him that he doesn't like he keeps saying he will deport me because I am an immigrant and I worth nothing or won't talk to me for says and tends to go and not come back to the house for days and god knows where he is and what he is doing. 

I opened a business here so I want to stay and apply for citizenship in about 4 years.

My mom is alone in my home country and I want to bring her here as soon as I become a citizen, I just wonder if bringing her here right after getting my citizenship will cause suspicion when I try to sponsor her?

I just don't want them to think I used my husband to get a green card. honestly I don't even want to stay here if I divorce but since I already have a green card I don't want to lose it and also want to stay because my business is doing well.

 

Just an FYI, your husband can't deport you or have you deported, but he's on the hook financially for you he filed and signed the I-864 (I think that's right) during the process for the GC. Don't let him control you like that. Divorce him and you can sponsor your mother as an LPR (GC Holder) as long as you meet the financial requirements.

 

Grrrr, men like that annoy me! Like pretending just because they sponsored you that they own you in some way. Screw him and leave him. Find your own happiness.

Edited July 31, 2020 by jennywhite421
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[geowrian 22,335]

1 hour ago, jennywhite421 said:

Divorce him and you can sponsor your mother as an LPR (GC Holder) as long as you meet the financial requirements.

An LPR cannot petition a parent. They need to naturalize first (which terminates the I-864, since you mentioned that still in effect).

Edit: And if divorcing, they need to naturalize under the 5 year rule.

Edited July 31, 2020 by geowrian

[bobjennyhitched 99]

1 minute ago, geowrian said:

An LPR cannot petition a parent. They need to naturalize first (which terminates the I-864, since you mentioned that still in effect).

Edit: And if divorcing, they need to naturalize under the 5 year rule.

Ah ok thanks for clarifying.

[Just Paul 4,591]

On 7/26/2020 at 1:41 AM, laura2222 said:

will I have problems if sponsor my mom? 

You need to be a Citizen and make enough income to sponsor them or have a joint sponsor.  Be careful how you setup the business and do the taxes.  An accountant will show as little business (maximize the expenses) income to minimize.   This can be contrary to what immigration wants to see.   Make sure that you file for citizenship as soon as the window opens - 90 days prior to the 5th anniversary of the "residence since" date of the card.

 

On 7/25/2020 at 10:41 PM, laura2222 said:

I just wonder if bringing her here right after getting my citizenship will cause suspicion when I try to sponsor her?

Plenty of people literally file the same or next day after the oath.

[laura2222 0]

17 hours ago, Paul & Mary said:

You need to be a Citizen and make enough income to sponsor them or have a joint sponsor.  Be careful how you setup the business and do the taxes.  An accountant will show as little business (maximize the expenses) income to minimize.   This can be contrary to what immigration wants to see.   Make sure that you file for citizenship as soon as the window opens - 90 days prior to the 5th anniversary of the "residence since" date of the card.

 

Yes I know that, I had that problem when we wanted my husbands mother to sponsor me, after seeing her tax returns we realized that she had more expenses than income and she couldn't be my sponsor, but my husbands income was enough, because he also has a business he didn't report all the expenses to make his income seem larger.