Toxic masculinity could mean bad health, social life in old age: Study

[laylalex 7,293]

Let's pretend for a moment that there is no COVID19 and I'm just here posting another article about toxic masculinity.

 

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The concept is likely to harm older men because data shows that social isolation increases with age.

“The very premise of hegemonic masculinity in some ways is based on the idea of isolation because it’s about being autonomous and not showing a lot of emotion. It’s hard to develop friendships living this way,” Shuster added. “Having people with whom we can talk about personal matters is a form of social support. If people only have one person that they can share information with, or sometimes even no people, they don’t really have an opportunity to reflect and share.”

Men who were described to be toxic from their traditionally masculine ideals were said to be in poor health, lonely and financially challenged as a result of their isolationist tendencies, according to the study.

 

https://www.foxbusiness.com/lifestyle/macho-old-men-bad-health-social-life

 

Just trying to breathe some fresh air in here. But not breathe too close to you. I'm at least six feet away, trust me.  

 

Anyway, I think this part is actually really important right now: “Having people with whom we can talk about personal matters is a form of social support. If people only have one person that they can share information with, or sometimes even no people, they don’t really have an opportunity to reflect and share.” That's what we're doing on here, even when we're bickering with each other or needling each other or teasing each other. We're connecting. We're sharing. And right now we need these connections more than ever. ❤️ 

[Boiler 45,657]

I assume this is part of the ongoing fight against the Patriarchy, I notice the Guardian seems to have a regular column on the subject.

 

To be fair there is evidence that men have significantly shorter lives.

[laylalex 7,293]

49 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I assume this is part of the ongoing fight against the Patriarchy, I notice the Guardian seems to have a regular column on the subject.

 

To be fair there is evidence that men have significantly shorter lives.

I continue to fight the patriarchy even in these weird times.  For example, I'm getting up and getting moving right now because after reading the news in bed this morning I figure today and tomorrow are our last days to really get stuff done, if cities are imposing curfews and Puerto Rico is closing all businesses (bar a few). Better to be safe than sorry. Also we now have my dad's ancient but still well-maintained Mercedes biodiesel on loan for the time being at my mother's insistence that we have a vehicle immediately, so I can actually run larger errands. ANYWAY, that's all prologue. What I mean to say is that when I mentioned to Alex that finishing a stock up on things might not be a bad idea today, he said, "Terrific, couldn't agree more, Layla. Get me a few cases of that Golden Road session IPA I like while you're out."  I told him that if he wanted cases of beer he had to come along. 

 

He is in the shower now. Score one for the matriarchy!

[Steeleballz 7,550]

10 hours ago, laylalex said:

Let's pretend for a moment that there is no COVID19 and I'm just here posting another article about toxic masculinity.

 

https://www.foxbusiness.com/lifestyle/macho-old-men-bad-health-social-life

 

Just trying to breathe some fresh air in here. But not breathe too close to you. I'm at least six feet away, trust me.  

 

Anyway, I think this part is actually really important right now: “Having people with whom we can talk about personal matters is a form of social support. If people only have one person that they can share information with, or sometimes even no people, they don’t really have an opportunity to reflect and share.” That's what we're doing on here, even when we're bickering with each other or needling each other or teasing each other. We're connecting. We're sharing. And right now we need these connections more than ever. ❤️ 

 

   I've always been fine with no one around. I'm not sure I'm all that social anyway. I don't think it's due to being "toxic" though or anything. I do think there are people who get stressed more if they don't talk about things, and then there are other people who get more stressed because they don't want to talk about things.

 

  Independently of that though, I do think not having a social support system as we get older leads to a higher risk of not getting the medical care that we will certainly need as we get older. Whether we like to socialize a little or a lot, we need to rely on others more as we get older. People who have a hard time with that are probably at a higher risk of having medical issues.

 

   Back to the toxic part though, I'm not as sure how that applies. I think we all have an example of that angry, ornery person who dislikes everyone, but who we feel is going to live to be a 100. I always just thought those people were just happiest that way.