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I'm a naturally super anxious person (clinically, generalized Anxiety Disorder); and this process has really gotten me so uptight. I have a lot of trouble sleeping at night and wake up frequently from turbulent nightmares. Does anyone have anything that they do as a distraction while not doing the paperwork that helps? My fiance of course is my go to stress relief but when he goes to sleep (he goes to sleep at 4pm my time) I have lot of empty space of time. What does everyone do for stress relief? 

 

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
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I too have Generalized Anxiety Disorder so I know where you are coming from.  I can remember thinking of some issue that might cause us denial and being up the whole night researching it.  So my advice is this - yes stay updated about what is going on with your case.  But don't dwell on it.  Don't spend all your time on VJ reading about other people's denials.  It will only make you crazy.  Find something to do in the evening that is relaxing for you.   I always had to be up at 4 to get ready for work so I would just put on the TV which was relaxing for me and just fall asleep early.  But you can take up a hobby you have always wanted to try.  Talk on the phone to your friends or family.  Go visit your friends and family.  Go out to dinner.  Read a book.  Volunteer.  These are just some ideas I had.  I was working two jobs so I had no time to do anything but work, talk to my husband and sleep.  And sometimes I did drive myself crazy with worry.  Don't do it.  You will only make yourself sick.  And remember - he WILL be here before your know it.  My husband is here now and all that waiting and worrying is a distant memory for me and it will be for you too.  And if you are having trouble sleeping please talk to your doctor.  

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Violent physical exercise.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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On 1/20/2020 at 1:24 AM, TBoneTX said:

Violent physical exercise.

This....and also I noticed my drinking has fallen 90% since AOS was approved))

Not a newbie but lost my old info years ago) I have been through this process before --all the way through naturalization-- This site has always been a great help to me. 

 

 

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  • 2 weeks later...

death metal

RoC sent 10/30/21

NOA 11/16/21

Check Cashed 11/18/21

Biometrics Waived 01/19/2022

 

 

Beware the fury of a patient man.- John Dryden

Political attempts to require that others share your personal truths are, in their limit, dictatorships.- Neil deGrasse Tyson

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@Donald120383 My job is very physical in nature and Ive been working a lot of 16 hours shifts and that's been helping a lot to keep my mind off of things. I sent my paperwork off so that part is over and a lot of the stress is alleviated. Still have a lot ahead though. 

 

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