Do I have to tell my Fiancee that I was married before?

[Lovelypeach 2]

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

[SalishSea 16,745]

1 minute ago, Lovelypeach said:

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

You cannot hide it.  And yes, the CO can and will discuss it with the fiancé at her interview.  Also:  dude, really?!

[Letspaintcookies 2,201]

8 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

You cannot hide it.  And yes, the CO can and will discuss it with the fiancé at her interview.  Also:  dude, really?!

Exactly my thoughts. This will come back and bite you if you try to hide it.

[Lemonslice 4,549]

Previous marriages, arrests, and criminal history should be discussed... Not only because you'll have to disclose them, but also to start your new relationship by being open and honest with each other.

[mytruelove18 607]

36 minutes ago, Lovelypeach said:

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

She needs to know details : when and why divorce

[bakphx1 785]

This is specifically asked for in the paperwork you file.  If you try and lie, you can be banned from ever getting a visa.  Get comfortable with the fact you’ll be telling her.

[Boiler 43,393]

You have good reason to be worried.

[geowrian 22,335]

She's going to find out, almost certainly before immigrating. It's on the paperwork and very often asked about in the interview. Not knowing about it will not end well...for the relationship or with immigration.

Time to stand and deliver if you want to proceed.

[laylalex 7,245]

I cannot imagine marrying someone and not knowing whether they had been married before. I don't need to know every person my fiance has ever slept with, but I DO know he was married before and has a daughter. They are part of what has made him the man I am choosing to marry. His first marriage obviously failed, but I should know not only why it failed but also that existed in the first place. If you cannot open up about this part of your life -- a part of your life which is likely a part of public record -- what else are you unable to open up about? Choosing to marry someone means opening up, warts and all. It means radical honesty. You and your spouse to be are a team, and that team needs to be built on trust. Can you believe that when she finds out about your first marriage from someone who isn't you that she will take that well?

 

Think on this, please.

[Unlockable 7,306]

1 hour ago, Lovelypeach said:

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

As others have stated you can't hide it. Now, it is not 100% certain that the officer will specifically ask about it during the interview, but it is highly likely and the info will become available to your fiance because she will see in the paperwork and evidence you submit (all previous marriages and children will be mentioned in your paperwork). You even  have to present your divorce decree to prove you are legally free to marry. So, no, there is no way to hide it.

 

Two particular cases I can remember here on VJ. One where a woman was divorced twice and did not mention one of the divorces because she says it was "too painful" for her to talk about. Her petition almost got denied and she had to turn around and provide the info to save her case. The other was actually a beneficiary who never told the US citizen petitioning for him he was previously married. And sure enough at the interview, the officer brought up his previous marriage to the shock of the petitioner.

 

There are very little secrets when it comes to immigration. The US government pretty much opens the book on both your lives. Best to break it to your fiance now and save yourself (and her) the embarassment later.

Edited October 25, 2019 by Unlockable

[Hank_ 9,171]

6 hours ago, Lovelypeach said:

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

     sorry.   But hiding that is impossible in this process, along with { leave out personal opinion here } ...      OK .. not a great way to start a relationship 

 

The I-129F requires you include copies of your divorce decree.

[JFH 12,189]

Secrets and lies are never a good foundation for a healthy relationship. I assume you expect this marriage to last where your previous one failed? Well, this is one way to make sure that won’t happen. 

 

Immigration requires that you are truthful. Your wife has the right to expect the truth from you. Even if it’s not mentioned at interview, do you want her to find out from a relative or friend of yours? 

[designguy 1,179]

I wonder what other surprises you have in store for her!

[Sarge2155 4,565]

6 hours ago, Lovelypeach said:

Hi Everyone, I am a newbie and please pardon me if I post this to the wrong forum. 

So my question is: do I have to tell my fiancee living oversea about my previous marriage? ( it was divorced legally a year ago ) . I plan to petition her to United States to live with me next year 2020 , I was worry if the interview officer will talk about my previous marriage and then my fiancee will be surprise but the fact is I really want to hide my previous marriage. Does anybody know if I can hide my previous marriage to my new wife ? 

Thanks for any advice

Jamie,

Sounds like you'll be doomed from the start. Of course you have to tell her, suppose it was her hiding that from you would you like it?

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

This isn’t an immigration question. Why are you trying to hide things from your soon to be spouse? That’s not the best way to start a marriage and in fact most likely a precursor for it to fail. 

 

Maybe you should think twice about bringing someone to the US if you don’t want them to know the whole you.. I can’t imagine dropping my entire life, leaving my family behind to move to a new place to live with someone who is deceiving me. I hope you think twice and realize regardless if you have to go through immigration you should be truthful to your soon to be spouse if you want an actual marriage.