F2A in process but my spouse wants to separate

[R&OC 349]

I am not trying to get your hopes up high but some people are very visual people and struggle with long-distance relationships. Its not for everyone.

 

Having said that, your visit may actually help him to figure out whether he is just loosing "sight" of you or he no longer has any feelings for you. And I agree with an earlier post, be professional about this. Do not push, cling or block anything. You may get the opposite of what you are hoping for.

 

No matter what, I wish you all the best and keep my fingers crossed for your happiness.

[saladboye 166]

2 hours ago, Blessingsofgod said:

My husband hasn’t withdraw anything yet. He is frustrated by being alone. So I thought to make a trip so that he will feel better. And definitely he won’t send me out when he see me as I know him better. He chooses this due to frustration I am trying to make him to think we hav to go through this long wait. I knew it’s tough for both of us. Thanks all for your valuable inputs. Keep me in prayers. 

Honestly just visit, the slight monetary giccup is nothing.

 

My wife was adamant to not apply for visitor visa because its expensive, even after I offered to pay for it, now it is getting on our nerves cause of that one stupoidity we have not been able to see each other.

 

 

Not to mention other losses as a result:

1. Not able to get acclimated to US way of life

2. Not understanding US attitude.

3. Unable to network

4. Comments and snarks from family etc.. 

 

For what? some $400 in application fees?

[nastra30 1,980]

Op, I don't think you have an immigration problem. I think you have a relationship problem with immigration being a by-product of it. Nobody will be able to tell you how to convince him to change his feelings about the relationship. We really need have a heart-to-heart conversation as where is head and head is.

[portorusa 431]

I think this is the right decision to go see your husband and try to work things out. If it won’t be successful at least you tried everything you could. Chances are 50/50. I sincerely hope you will succeed. Good luck!

[Blessingsofgod 0]

Thanks a lot for your kind words and support. 

[usmsbow 795]

Maybe I missed it, but is he not even open to you visiting him? You have a tourist visa right? Seems like the logical thing to do right now is to go see him and talk things out (assuming you can do so). And if he doesn't want you to visit, then perhaps there is something else amiss besides your distance apart... 

 

 

 

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

Curious as to how long you knew each other before you married and how much time you have actually spent together.

[SalishSea 16,770]

Was it, by chance, an arranged marriage?

[Unidentified 2,930]

Have you even asked him if he wants you to visit?

[JFH 12,189]

3 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

Have you even asked him if he wants you to visit?

This!!!

 

It might make things worse to show up unannounced at his home. And if there's someone else on the scene and she's at the house when you arrive it could be very ugly and upsetting for you.  I would suggest to them something like 'How about I come to see you for a few weeks and we can spend some time together just the two of us and talk things through and listen to one another' rather than just buying a plane ticket and arriving at his door.

[shoowlaar 224]

18 hours ago, Blessingsofgod said:

Dear all, 

I am new to this. I married PR in USA and he filed for spouse visa for me. Got our NOA1 and long wait for NOA2. Now he is not interested to continue this relationship and wants to file divorce. I live in Mumbai India he lives in SA Texas. I love my husband so much. Please advise what I can do to stop him from doing this. Once I live with him we will be happy but now he telling he is not having any feelings for me. He is not ready to work out. All you help will help me. 

Hello,

if you can visit please do, however do so with an open mind. i pray it works out however you cannot force him. out of sight can be out of mind for some people. but i think it is worth visiting.

all the best....

[Blessingsofgod 0]

He is ready to visit but it takes two months to come. He didn’t stop me coming and yes it is arranged marriage. But we knew each other for 3 years and married for one year.