Right, I have had a cup of tea, and some chocolate (proper english dairy milk, natch, not that horrid hershey rubbish you get over here), so here is some potentially useful info for you.  I suggest you also get a cup of tea, as this is a long one......     As one of the few on here who has unfortunately experienced a denial, and is still going through this hell in some form, I can offer the following advice, with the caveat that I am not an immigration attorney.