algeria HELP!! Fiancé in Algeria Work Visa or K1 faster

[LoriJamsPatchett 5]

1 hour ago, debbiedoo said:

because now you need the legal part of it. it is a case (and happens ALL the time) of being too married for a k1 and not married enough for a CR1.

 

i dont know why youve been all over news and facebook with it, nor do i care, but you have done so so many things that are BAD BAD for a visa. You really need to research a LOT more, you will need to get legally married now, and file the CR1.

I was not trying to be all over the news BUT my ex’s family called the news on me because they were “so scared and worried for my life” I thought it better I do the interviews than let them spin the story in a worse way.  

 

 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

3 minutes ago, LoriJamsPatchett said:

I was not trying to be all over the news BUT my ex’s family called the news on me because they were “so scared and worried for my life” I thought it better I do the interviews than let them spin the story in a worse way.  

 

 

that definitely wont work in your favor.

 

more visits and a legal marriage are in order.

[LoriJamsPatchett 5]

3 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

that definitely wont work in your favor.

 

more visits and a legal marriage are in order.

Yeah I was actually worried about the fact that they also said they called Homeland and told them he’s a possible K1 scammer 😡 I’m so mad at them. They knew nothing but decided to screw with my life.

[debbiedoo 2,339]

2 minutes ago, LoriJamsPatchett said:

Yeah I was actually worried about the fact that they also said they called Homeland and told them he’s a possible K1 scammer 😡 I’m so mad at them. They knew nothing but decided to screw with my life.

Your fiance is from a high fraud country. You have 4 children and have only met once. I assume these children are a part of their father and his families lives.

 

I would also be concerned.

 

I have one child and no WAY would I bring someone here that i had met only once to live with us. And if my ex were alive and he tried to do so, you BET i'd be highly concerned and VERY involved.

 

I'm really not making any judgement but their concerns are very valid, even if they didn't go about it the right way, necessarily.

[LoriJamsPatchett 5]

2 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

Your fiance is from a high fraud country. You have 4 children and have only met once. I assume these children are a part of their father and his families lives.

 

I would also be concerned.

 

I have one child and no WAY would I bring someone here that i had met only once to live with us. And if my ex were alive and he tried to do so, you BET i'd be highly concerned and VERY involved.

 

I'm really not making any judgement but their concerns are very valid, even if they didn't go about it the right way, necessarily.

I understand completely the concern but the way they went about it was not ok. I’ve never brought men around my kids because I don’t want men in and out of their lives. But from day 1 The first month I have FaceTimed with him 4-6 hours a day straight. I really got to know him. We talked about deep things not favorite colors and stupid things like that. We never missed a day talking. Every day is FaceTime when not FaceTiming we text. I have joint custody with my older kids dad and the thing that makes me mad is he always rushes moving in with his GF’s but that’s ok.

[Crazy Cat 39,218]

Spending more time together is usually a very good thing for any relationship..

[debbiedoo 2,339]

8 minutes ago, LoriJamsPatchett said:

I understand completely the concern but the way they went about it was not ok. I’ve never brought men around my kids because I don’t want men in and out of their lives. But from day 1 The first month I have FaceTimed with him 4-6 hours a day straight. I really got to know him. We talked about deep things not favorite colors and stupid things like that. We never missed a day talking. Every day is FaceTime when not FaceTiming we text. I have joint custody with my older kids dad and the thing that makes me mad is he always rushes moving in with his GF’s but that’s ok.

facetiming is not the same as being together IN PERSON.

 

please be very very careful and do not rush into anything.

[Boiler 43,430]

The old adage of a marathon not a sprint, few more visits, marriage maybe, so going to be a couple of years.

[Ash.1101 1,755]

2 hours ago, LoriJamsPatchett said:

I understand completely the concern but the way they went about it was not ok. I’ve never brought men around my kids because I don’t want men in and out of their lives. But from day 1 The first month I have FaceTimed with him 4-6 hours a day straight. I really got to know him. We talked about deep things not favorite colors and stupid things like that. We never missed a day talking. Every day is FaceTime when not FaceTiming we text. I have joint custody with my older kids dad and the thing that makes me mad is he always rushes moving in with his GF’s but that’s ok.

By joint custody I'm assuming you mean you have the kids most the time and they visit their dad on the weekends and summer. The dad changing his life around when he realistically has less time and impact with the kids is just that, less impactful. My ex can do what he wants, my daughters with me 90% of the week. If he makes any life choices that will truly impact her then I'll say something, but if he moves in with a girlfriend, as long as the girlfriend is kind and allows my daughter to visit her house to see her dad then I'm fine.

My ex never once said anything about my husband, they actually have talked before and we didn't jump into marriage because we wanted to do what was right for my daughter, make a good transition.

My husband is from a low fraud country and I didn't even let him meet my daughter on his first visit in 2013 and we had been friends online and he had seen pictures of her and seen her on Skype since we had been friends in 2010.


Also as others have said, you are going to have to go get married officially now.


How long have you guys been talking because you made a 2 week trip to get engaged?


Note that immigration assumes if you don't have the time or money to visit and be together physically to build your relationship, then you don't have the time and money to immigrate or have a stable relationship.


I agree that this should be a couple of year process

Edited December 2, 2018 by Ash.1101

[LoriJamsPatchett 5]

7 minutes ago, Ash.1101 said:

By joint custody I'm assuming you mean you have the kids most the time and they visit their dad on the weekends and summer. The dad changing his life around when he realistically has less time and impact with the kids is just that, less impactful. My ex can do what he wants, my daughters with me 90% of the week. If he makes any life choices that will truly impact her then I'll say something, but if he moves in with a girlfriend, as long as the girlfriend is kind and allows my daughter to visit her house to see her dad then I'm fine.

My ex never once said anything about my husband, they actually have talked before and we didn't jump into marriage because we wanted to do what was right for my daughter, make a good transition.

My husband is from a low fraud country and I didn't even let him meet my daughter on his first visit in 2013 and we had been friends online and he had seen pictures of her and seen her on Skype since we had been friends in 2010.


Also as others have said, you are going to have to go get married officially now.


How long have you guys been talking because you made a 2 week trip to get engaged?


Note that immigration assumes if you don't have the time or money to visit and be together physically to build your relationship, then you don't have the time and money to immigrate or have a stable relationship.


I agree that this should be a couple of year process

No joint as in actually joint. Every other weekend and couple days during the week. Your situation was different though because he could actually come visit you. We started talking in July.  Once he arrive he has a good job waiting for him. It’s just the matter of him getting here. Some people like to wait years to marry and still relationships fail.

[Boiler 43,430]

Has he tried to get a visitor visa?

[Ash.1101 1,755]

11 minutes ago, LoriJamsPatchett said:

No joint as in actually joint. Every other weekend and couple days during the week. Your situation was different though because he could actually come visit you. We started talking in July.  Once he arrive he has a good job waiting for him. It’s just the matter of him getting here. Some people like to wait years to marry and still relationships fail.

This is true but we also still weren't ever rushing our relationship. Even when we first started talking, when we "established the rules of the relationship" per se, we agreed to date for at least 2-3 years.

A lot of the time when these LDR relationships fail, it's when they haven't actually spent enough time together,  they treated their time together as a vacation, they never actually got to visit the house they were moving into and/or never actually -lived- together and then living together and actually having to be around each other full time becomes an issue.

With the time line of starting to talk in July of this year, and becoming engaged 5 months later and only meeting during that time of engagement....

You will definitely need to see each other more in person and get married formally (due to the religious ceremony). 

Is there a reason he can't apply for a visitor visa and visit you?

Your process will easily be at least a couple of year process, not only for the CR-1 (spousal visa) processing time, but just to make the proof you need to prove your a real marriage.

Please remember that immigration is all about paper proof, physical proof, and they don't really care about feelings or tough situations.

Edited December 2, 2018 by Ash.1101

[RJandHamid 1,128]

Like everyone has already mentioned, CR1 is your only route forward now. This is actually better for your situation anyway, since it sounds like working right away is important to him. With the K1 visa, there would have been at least a 3-4 month wait before he could start working legally. The work visa is unlikely to happen. Has your friend met your fiancé? Why are they so willing to hire someone who they have never met, and they could easily find similar employees in the US, at a fraction of the cost?

 

Go for more visits, get legally married, and get to know him better while also building up relationship evidence. Nothing is quick or easy in the world of immigration, but with patience and a good understanding of the process, you'll be together eventually. Good luck on your CR1 journey. 

[Lemonslice 4,553]

The news story states that some plasma was sold to finance your trip. If this is true and not made up information, please read in details the financial requirements of the visa, who should be counted in the household, how to document income of you're an employee or self-employed, etc.

[Boiler 43,430]

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The couple met on an international dating website in July and within weeks proposed marriage.

xxxx put a ring on xxxxx finger two days into her two-week trip to Algeria.

 

Couple of more issues.