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1 hour ago, Alabamak1 said:

is this even possible for VAWA after not even filed for AOS? just asking.

Yes. You can file for AOS under VAWA.

https://family.findlaw.com/domestic-violence/the-domestic-violence-green-card-immigrant-visa-petitions-for-vi.html

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@LostInUSA

 

Your family, friends, and life are in your home country. How is you returning home not an option? Even if it is the most embarrassing thing you have to do at least you will be with those that will love, support, and help you.

 

You stated yourself that there is NOTHING here for you. At least back home you will have a safety net. It will give you the ability to dust yourself off and rebuild emotionally and financially.

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“When starting an immigration journey, the best advice is to understand that sacrifices have to be made... whether it is time, money, or separation; or a combination of all.” - Unlockable

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ukraine
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9 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

i was not aware of this. thank you for letting us know. 

8/7/2017                    NOA-1

3/1/2018                    NOA-2

3/15/2018                  NVC case received

3/22/2018                  NVC case assigned

3/23/2018                  Consulate ready

4/11/2018                  Medical

4/17/2018                  Visa Approved

4/24/2018                  Visa on hand

5/23/2018                  Point of Entry ATL

5/24/2018                  Marriage license, officiant and certificate / applied for SS#

5/31/2018                  AOS/AP/EAD

6/7/2018                    email notification of NOA-1

6/11/2018                  NOA-1 hard copies for AOS/EAD/AP

6/27/2018                  Biometrics for AOS/EAD

7/7/2018                    ready to be scheduled for interview

7/11/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (email from USCIS)

8/22/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (same email again)

9/5/2018                     We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (this is getting boring!!!)

10/3/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (this is insanity, 4th time while some got GC)

10/17/2018                After 136 days of wait in HELL, finally EAD in production

10/21/2018                Card was mailed to me, and yes it said so on a Sunday night, while Vj-ing

10/22/2018                Card was picked up by the USPS

10/24/2018                EAD in hand. F%^&& finally

12/28/2018                Interview has been scheduled. Waiting for notification with date by snail mail

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ukraine
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9 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

@LostInUSA

 

Your family, friends, and life are in your home country. How is you returning home not an option? Even if it is the most embarrassing thing you have to do at least you will be with those that will love, support, and help you.

 

You stated yourself that there is NOTHING here for you. At least back home you will have a safety net. It will give you the ability to dust yourself off and rebuild emotionally and financially.

i second this. i just mentioned this to my wife. and this is a key reason to have a back up plan. The UK is not like my wifes and my native country. There is no such thing as helping yourself up from zero. Very hard to just even have a chance to immigrate from there. 

8/7/2017                    NOA-1

3/1/2018                    NOA-2

3/15/2018                  NVC case received

3/22/2018                  NVC case assigned

3/23/2018                  Consulate ready

4/11/2018                  Medical

4/17/2018                  Visa Approved

4/24/2018                  Visa on hand

5/23/2018                  Point of Entry ATL

5/24/2018                  Marriage license, officiant and certificate / applied for SS#

5/31/2018                  AOS/AP/EAD

6/7/2018                    email notification of NOA-1

6/11/2018                  NOA-1 hard copies for AOS/EAD/AP

6/27/2018                  Biometrics for AOS/EAD

7/7/2018                    ready to be scheduled for interview

7/11/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (email from USCIS)

8/22/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (same email again)

9/5/2018                     We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (this is getting boring!!!)

10/3/2018                  We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time (this is insanity, 4th time while some got GC)

10/17/2018                After 136 days of wait in HELL, finally EAD in production

10/21/2018                Card was mailed to me, and yes it said so on a Sunday night, while Vj-ing

10/22/2018                Card was picked up by the USPS

10/24/2018                EAD in hand. F%^&& finally

12/28/2018                Interview has been scheduled. Waiting for notification with date by snail mail

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Nigeria
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  There is a VAWA thread on this board with a very qualified attorney that you can ask if what you are going through is "enough"  

 

   Please if you even suspect that any of the very young females you have seen are underage, report him.  I was sexually abused as a child and hope you take the lead in stopping this man. 

This will not be over quickly. You will not enjoy this.

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wait I just went back and checked dates. Youve been here for 6 months? So the K gave you 90 days-  so you are only 3 month overstay. You will not have a ban if you leave before being out of status for 6 months. Theres one ban for 6 months over and a different ban if you are 1yr over. Again you are only at 3 months overstay. Check the date on your k visa to see exactly where you fall.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ecuador
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A noncontributory post & reply have been removed.  Post constructively, or don't post.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Haiti
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I’m so sorry you are going through this. This IS abuse and it does not seem like things will change. You need to get yourself out of this situation. I know you said you want to be in the US but to stay you have to do AOS. It really doesn’t seem in your best interest to stay here with him. You don’t deserve this. He is a monster who preys on women.

 

Please, I know you may feel embarrassed or ashamed, but you shouldn’t, tell someone back home what is happening I’m sure they can come up with funds to get you and your cat back home. You can pay them in the future once you reestablish yourself. Please, it’s not worth it to stay in this relationship. You don’t have to stay in the US during the divorce. See if you can connect with an attorney on here as others have suggested. 

 

You as a human being and your life are not worth this abuse. Please put your well-being first. Staying in the US (legal or not) does not appear to be the best option.

Our K1 Journey    I-129f

Service Center : Texas Service Center   Transferred? California Service Center on 8/11/14

Consulate : Port au Prince, Haiti             I-129F Sent : 4/14/2014

I-129F NOA1 : 4/24/14                            I-129F NOA2 : 9/10/14

NVC Received : 9/24/14                          NVC Left : 9/26/14

Consulate Received : 10/6/14 CEAC status changed to ready

Packet 3 Received : 10/27/14 packet received by petitioner in USA ( beneficiary never received packet 3)

Medical: 10/30/14 Dr. Buteau                  Medical picked up: 11/3/14

Packet 3 Sent : 11/10/13.. Had to schedule interview appointment and attach confirmation receipt to packet

Interview Date : 12/1/14                           Interview Result : Approved !

Visa Received : 12/10/14 picked up at Jacmel location

US Entry : 12/15/14 Fort Lauderdale, Florida

Apply for Social Security Card: 12/30/14 Connecticut

Marriage: 1/26/15

 

Adjustment of Status

CIS Office : Hartford                                  Filed : 3/18/15

NOA : 3/25/15                                            Biometrics : 4/15/15

Approved: 8/31/15                                     Received: 9/8/15

 

EAD

CIS Office : Hartford                                  Filed : 3/18/15

NOA : 3/25/15                                            Approved: 6/12/15

Received: 6/20/15

 

Removal of Conditions I-751

Filed: 8/14/17 at VSC                                 NOA: 8/15/17 Received 8/21 by mail

Biometrics: Dated: 8/25/17   Received 9/2/17   Appointment 9/11/17 

Approved: 10/23/18 -no interview

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Hungary
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11 hours ago, Shiran said:

It seems you have been intentionally manipulated and gaslighted, and by refusing to file for AoS, he keeps you trapped. Regardless of how much you love this country it is not worth it. Your number one concern should be your own well being, both mental and physical, you contact your local crisis centre and see if they have any addiiotnal input, but if there is no legal path for you stay (I don't think you can file Violence against Women claim without AoS) it is best to go back, and then rebuild, and maybe find another path back either via work, or via partners who actually cares for you as a person, instead of toy.

Most definitely CAN file VAWA. The only requirements for filing VAWA are: being married to a USC or LPR & having been abused by said USC or LPR spouse. Now you do have to prove bona fide marriage, that may be tricky. Definitely speak to a lawyer. Really, get out of there. Call the police, tell them you're afraid he'll hurt you if you leave him, ask them to take you to a women's shelter. You can figure out the rest later.

Entry on VWP to visit then-boyfriend 06/13/2011

Married 06/24/2011

Our first son was born 10/31/2012, our daughter was born 06/30/2014, our second son was born 06/20/2017

AOS Timeline

AOS package mailed 09/06/2011 (Chicago Lockbox)

AOS package signed for by R Mercado 09/07/2011

Priority date for I-485&I-130 09/08/2011

Biometrics done 10/03/2011

Interview letter received 11/18/2011

INTERVIEW DATE!!!! 12/20/2011

Approval e-mail 12/21/2011

Card production e-mail 12/27/2011

GREEN CARD ARRIVED 12/31/2011

Resident since 12/21/2011

ROC Timeline

ROC package mailed to VSC 11/22/2013

NOA1 date 11/26/2013

Biometrics date 12/26/2013

Transfer notice to CSC 03/14/2014

Change of address 03/27/2014

Card production ordered 04/30/2014

10-YEAR GREEN CARD ARRIVED 05/06/2014

N-400 Timeline

N-400 package mailed 09/30/2014

N-400 package delivered 10/01/2014

NOA1 date 10/20/2014

Biometrics date 11/14/2014

Early walk-in biometrics 11/12/2014

In-line for interview 11/23/2014

Interview letter 03/18/2015

Interview date 04/17/2015 ("Decision cannot yet be made.")

In-line for oath scheduling 05/04/2015

Oath ceremony letter dated 05/11/2015

Oath ceremony 06/02/2015

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If child pornography is involved then the U visa is definitely an option. It would require the OP to work with the authorities to convict him.

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Divorce him, go back home, and anonymously call the cops about the potential child porn on his computer (I believe cartoon child porn is still considered child porn if the cartoons are depicted as being someone under 18)


If you truly want to stay, go the VAWA route, but I can gguarantee you even if you feel embarrassed, if you told those what happened to you back at your home country, they would empathize with you and understand. They wouldn't shame you or anything like that.

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*More detailed timeline in profile!*
 
Relationship:     Friends since 2010, Together since 2013

 K-1:   2015 Done in 208 days - 212g for Second Cosponsor    

Spoiler

04/27/15- NOA1 Recieved                                                    
06/02/15 - NOA2 Recieved
09/22/15 - Interview       (221g for more documents (a SECOND cosponsor), see profile for more details!)                                            
11/09/15 -  ISSUED!!                                                              
11/10/15 - Passport received                                                
02/20/16 - Wedding!              

                                         
 AOS:   2016 Done in 77 days - No RFE, No Interview                                                                    

Spoiler

04/08/16 - I-485, I-765, I-131 AOS Application recieved by USCIS
04/12/16 - 3 NOA1's received in mail
05/14/16 - Biometrics for AOS and EAD
06/27/16 - I-485 Case to changed to "New Card being produced"  (Day 77)
06/27/16 - I-485 Case changed to Approved! (Day 77)
06/30/16 - I-485 Case changed to "My Card has been mailed to me!"
07/05/16 - Green Card received in mail! 

 


ROC:   2018 - 2019 Done in 326 days - No RFE, No Interview

Spoiler

 

05/09/18 - Mailed out ROC to CSC

05/10/18 - CSC Signed and received ROC package
06/07/28 - NOA1 

06/11/18 - Check cashed

06/15/18 - NOA received in the mail
08/27/18 - 18 month extension received (Courtesy Copy)

09/18/18 - Request for official 18 month extension
10/22/18 - Official 18 month extension received 

02/27/19 - Biometrics waived 

04/29/19 - New card being produced!
05/09/19 - USPS delivered green card! In hand now!

 

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