Long term girlfriend broke up with me but still want to move to USA

[Egrio65 0]

My girlfriend of 3+ years recently broke up with me. I am from the UK and she is American - She says the distance between us has not helped the situation and could not see herself marrying me.

 

I had hoped to one day marry her and live in the USA. I am now at a crossroads where I do not have a university degree and no specialised profession, but it is my biggest dream to live in the USA.

 

I am still young however, and I would like to work towards one day being able to live and work in the country by my own doing. Is there any advice you can provide me to help towards my long term goal? I know this will not be achieved overnight.

 

Thanks in advance!

[Crazy Cat 39,183]

1.  Don't try to use marriage to a US citizen to gain immigration benefits.

2. Work on your education and career qualifications.

3.  Work related visas- Start researching businesses which would hire you and sponsor you to work here in the US.

 

just some ideas.

[Unlockable 7,306]

The only other options are student visa or work visa.

Or, perhaps one day you will meet another American girl that you want to marry.

 

For student visa - you have to be accepted into an accredited school and also show that you have the funds to pay for the tuition.

Work visa - you have to find an employee who is willing to sponsor you. Usually those that come on work visas are highly skilled and/or educated in STEM fields. STEM is for Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics. So menial jobs like bagging groceries will not cut it. 

 

There are other visa options, but unless you can sing so well you can sell out Madison Square Garden or hit a 100mph fast ball out of a Stadium, then there is no need to mention them.

[Egrio65 0]

5 minutes ago, missileman said:

1.  Don't try to use marriage to a US citizen to gain immigration benefits.

2. Work on your education and career qualifications.

3.  Work related visas- Start researching businesses which would hire you and sponsor you to work here in the US.

 

just some ideas.

I wasn’t using her for marriage option. I do love her but this isn’t a relationship forum...

[debbiedoo 2,339]

Student visa

 

work visa

 

neither of them particularly likely, based on what youve said.

 

those are your options.

 

 

 

 

[Dashinka 23,199]

20 minutes ago, Egrio65 said:

I wasn’t using her for marriage option. I do love her but this isn’t a relationship forum...

I think what he was trying to say, don't pursue either her, or anyone else purely for immigration benefits.  As others have said, employment or student visas are probably your best options.  If you do meet someone in the future fine, but for now pursue visas most open to you.

 

Good Luck!

[Crazy Cat 39,183]

19 minutes ago, Egrio65 said:

I wasn’t using her for marriage option. I do love her but this isn’t a relationship forum...

Sorry if I misinterpreted the "but it is my biggest dream to live in the USA" statement. Again, my advice for your long term goal is to concentrate on your career goals. You may find doors opening to unexpected destinations.  A wise man once said "What I am to be, I am now becoming".  Those words once inspired me to start work on my education toward a rewarding career. Good luck in your future endeavors.   

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

It makes almost no sense for a UK citizen to study in the US cost-wise, and it’s not a guaranteed path to living there either.

there are no quick fixes, as has been said you need some kind of in-demand skills to be sponsored for a work visa.  And even those are not always a guaranteed path to a green card.

Presumably you do not have the $500k - $1m required for an investment visa, or any other qualifying family  members to sponsor you. 

 

Your best option is go to uni, get qualified, get some decent experience, try for a work visa. Obviously that will take quite a few years and there are no guarantees even that will be enough. But I don’t see any other route absent the (small?) chance you meet another USC partner who is prepared to marry you.

[Egrio65 0]

9 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

It makes almost no sense for a UK citizen to study in the US cost-wise, and it’s not a guaranteed path to living there either.

there are no quick fixes, as has been said you need some kind of in-demand skills to be sponsored for a work visa.  And even those are not always a guaranteed path to a green card.

Presumably you do not have the $500k - $1m required for an investment visa, or any other qualifying family  members to sponsor you. 

 

Your best option is go to uni, get qualified, get some decent experience, try for a work visa. Obviously that will take quite a few years and there are no guarantees even that will be enough. But I don’t see any other route absent the (small?) chance you meet another USC partner who is prepared to marry you.

Yeah I will work towards the degree. I knew that was the only realistic way but was curious as to which gave me the best opportunity.

 

As for finding somebody else, I will be in the same position as before with the long distance causing the same issues.

[mcdull 474]

1 hour ago, Egrio65 said:

My girlfriend of 3+ years recently broke up with me. I am from the UK and she is American - She says the distance between us has not helped the situation and could not see herself marrying me.

 

I had hoped to one day marry her and live in the USA. I am now at a crossroads where I do not have a university degree and no specialised profession, but it is my biggest dream to live in the USA.

 

I am still young however, and I would like to work towards one day being able to live and work in the country by my own doing. Is there any advice you can provide me to help towards my long term goal? I know this will not be achieved overnight.

 

Thanks in advance!

your best option is to work on your degree and your abs.

 

Oxbridge degree+ 6 packs + British accent =killer combo for American girls. 

 

Just saying...

[Boiler 43,393]

Long shot but are you eligible to enter the DV?

[bakphx1 785]

A student visa is only good for being in school.  No ability to work.  I don’t think it’s helpful for what you want.  

 

The best way to put the odds in your favor is an employer sponsored visa.  Check the professions most needed here (civil engineering seems to be in high demand) and pursue those.  Or look to multi national companies.  

 

 

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

37 minutes ago, mcdull said:

your best option is to work on your degree and your abs.

 

Oxbridge degree+ 6 packs + British accent =killer combo for American girls. 

 

Just saying...

To half the US, Cambridge is just that place where Harvard is

more seriously, I hope American girls aren’t as superficial as you’ve just implied they are.

26 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Long shot but are you eligible to enter the DV?

Judging by UK flag I guessed not but possibility he was born in eligible country I suppose

Edited October 29, 2018 by SusieQQQ

[Boiler 43,393]

Northern Ireland would do.

[yuna628 9,527]

OP: I'd say put the dream aside for now and focus on life in the UK. If bettering yourself is something you're interested in, start in your own country. Get that degree, work on your transferable skills, and find employment if you haven't got it already. Maybe someday a work visa will be right for you. Maybe one day you'll meet an American girl that finds you worth the wait. There's plenty of us that wouldn't trade our British husband's for all the world, and were willing to wait as long as necessary.

 

40 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

To half the US, Cambridge is just that place where Harvard is

more seriously, I hope American girls aren’t as superficial as you’ve just implied they are.

Judging by UK flag I guessed not but possibility he was born in eligible country I suppose

I must admit a handsome strapping Englishman is keen for many American ladies. The various regional accents are enough to make some melt. (It is hilarious to watch sometimes, and hubby still doesn't understand it..)