Refiling for k1 visa denied by uscis

[John & Rose 7,237]

49 minutes ago, NikLR said:

Agreed. Everything should be taken into consideration.  Immigration is a big deal. Its unfortunate, but love doesnt conquer all.  There are a lot of things people should think about when making the decision to move elsewhere to be with a loved one.  I've made sacrifices that others wouldn't consider doing.  My mental health has suffered in ways I didnt consider. But in the long run if I didn't believe, I wouldn't have started, so I put in the work it takes. 

Marriage is never easy peasy.  

This is one thing that concerns me so bad.  I realize the sacrifice Rose will make.  She has previously lived in Ireland with her ex husband and left her kids in the Philippines.  I know she is strong but it will be tough.  I also worry about the kids.  They are 15 and 18 and they are leaving the only home they have ever known.  They are leaving all of their friends and their family.  I love them so much that I don't want them to feel that pain.  We have spoken about it and they have decided that they want a new life with a new family.  That humbles and scares me a bit.  There is a lot of talk of the beneficiaries feelings and that is very understandable.  They are moving halfway around the earth to a strange land with no friends.  I don't think I am the only petitioner who is humbled by that commitment and I want so badly to make it as easy on them as possible.  

[NikLR 13,220]

5 minutes ago, John & Rose said:

This is one thing that concerns me so bad.  I realize the sacrifice Rose will make.  She has previously lived in Ireland with her ex husband and left her kids in the Philippines.  I know she is strong but it will be tough.  I also worry about the kids.  They are 15 and 18 and they are leaving the only home they have ever known.  They are leaving all of their friends and their family.  I love them so much that I don't want them to feel that pain.  We have spoken about it and they have decided that they want a new life with a new family.  That humbles and scares me a bit.  There is a lot of talk of the beneficiaries feelings and that is very understandable.  They are moving halfway around the earth to a strange land with no friends.  I don't think I am the only petitioner who is humbled by that commitment and I want so badly to make it as easy on them as possible.  

It's awesome that you can appreciate this.  

[Marieke H 2,303]

6 hours ago, N-o-l-a said:

 

 

  Some of the most trying times of our marriage where the first several months and within the first year and a half.  It is so hard getting used to sharing a life with another person, dealing with the stresses of immigration, etc.  If I based my thoughts on trying it out for the first 3 months, I'd probably have returned my husband to the immigration store.  I hate to see people making decisions to not marry on a K1 (unless it is an obvious scam/abuse situation), just because things seem rockier when they are living together.  

 

You are definitely right in that my marriage at 6 years is absolutely nothing like our marriage at 2 months living together.  😂  We know each other too well now, it is unnerving. 

 

 

Exactly. If my husband had viewed those first 90 days as a trial period, I would probably have been returned to the immigration store... 🤣

 

Those first months are tough, and do not give you any idea of what your normal life together is going to be like. I struggled a lot, and we discussed the option of me moving back, but we were confident that things would get much better when I would start working, building a social network, finding things to do, etc. And they did. After about a year here, I started to feel like my normal self again.

[Umka36 781]

People should not treat the K1 as a try it before you buy it mentality, but it happens. We took the K1 route after discussing it together and it was the better choice for us. It was awhile ago, but the AOS process was not as long as it is now. Our state also allowed her to get an ID card right away. 

 

My wife has not worked since she's been to the US (over 7 years now), but that was intentional as we wanted to start a family right away. It's not easy living on a single income, but we are able to manage. These are discussion you have to make before the immigrant arrives in my opinion. It's for the benefit of the US citizen and immigrant. Sorry OP for getting off topic.

[TM92 527]

2 hours ago, ThomasNC1988 said:

As someone mentioned above it isn't just the extra month or 2 as well because you do have to allot the time to actually get married and that can be more of a process in some countries than others.

Good point. When the marriage process in a country (i.e. Philippines, Morocco, etc.) is cumbersome, marriage in a visa-free country (i.e. Hong Kong, Macao, etc.) is an alternate option, https://www.passportindex.org/comparebyPassport.php?p1=us&p2=ph&fl=&s=yes

 

[Ryan H 3,790]

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