Are we too poor to be in love?

[CountryBoy 0]

For poverty guidelines click HERE

The requirement for income would include all individuals that will be supported by it..

For example

You, your fiancee, your father, your mother, siblings that can still be claimed by the sponsor ..

I know there will be at least 4 in the family so the minimum to make 125% of poverty level will be $25,813 (this number will be more if there are more in the family)

It is my opinion that there are too many IF's in this situation .. Good Luck none the less

[CheshireKAY 0]

Thanks for all your oppinions guys, some of them were a lot of help. Truely, I know we will make it but I was just having an anxiety attack or something, I've never experienced that before. Anyways, since last night we;ve decided on a different route and I've spoken to a friend of mine about her sponsoring us. I have to get her more details but I've started the discussion. Anyways, we've decided on a simple visit this year, and then she'll finish school there next year. After she goes back we'll start the Fiance visa process and hopefully most of my families financial issues will have calmed down by the time much of it goes through. I'll graduate midway through the year after next. Usually I am nothing but optimistic, but I really appreciate the support guys. Thank you all.

[homesick_american 1]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

Well...OK. I have a cousin about your age, and I'm going to tell you what I would tell her if she was in a similar situation.

You are very young. You're in school, which means you barely have a pot to pee in. There's no shame in that; those of us who went to uni know what that's like and we're not judging you for it. You work part-time to bring in extra cash. That is good. However, you are in no position to support even yourself, let alone another person. If you brought her over on a fiancee visa, you (or most likely your parents) would be responsible for her expenses and well-being. What about her health insurance? What about her education? She wouldn't be able to work on that fiancee visa until you married and her status was adjusted, and that could take a while. How would your parents feel about an extra mouth to feed? How is she going to get around...entertain herself...meet people? You sound like you're fairly busy as it is; how much time will you have for her? Will your education suffer? Also...you must consider this...what if she gets pregnant? Have you thought about how you'd support a wife AND a child?

Basically I would tell you to finish school, try to see her as often as you can, keep the faith, and wait to do this until you are in a better position financially.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Forgive me if this sounds harsh, because I certainly don't intend it to....but just a couple of things. (Also forgive me if it's been mentioned as I didn't read the thread in it's entirety.)

If you get a joint sponsor and so forth...and can get this visa,etc...how do you hope to live after that in the conditions you described? (Neither of you with any money to speak of, etc.) You may have addressed this later, so I guess I should really have read the whole thread, but I only read your first post and a few respnses after. I don't wish to be too discouraging because I know how it feels to be in love....any obstacles can be overcome, etc.etc...I GET how you're feeling ...but what about the practicalities too?

If, as you said in your first post, six to nine months of being apart could be a death sentence for your relationship...were you really meant to be together? Look at all the people that are forced to be aaprt for that long due to military commitments and the like? Also, people on this very site who have a glitch or just go thru consulates that take much longer than others...they hate being apart, but they come through it just fine.

Again, not trying to discourage you, but wondering about some of the practicalities....?

In retrospect, this MUST have been addressed by some already...I would think so. I do realize it's none of my business as well... but how do you plan to live if this all goes to plan and she gets here in several months. It may seem as though being together is just the be all end all right now...but what then? Ya know?

All that said, I wish you the best for your future.....good luck. M.

[natronic 0]

It definantly sounds like your thinking with a clearer head. As the saying goes Calmer heads usually prevail. I started this process as quickly as possible but i'm already making a very very nice salary. If your love can last through this then it can last through anything. It's nice to live for the present but the future is important also.

[Mahmad 0]

One thing I wanted to remind you of:

even if you manage to get the money together for the visa, flight and AOS- don't forget that once she's in the US, she will very likely not be able to work right away.

She will depend on you or your family until she's free to work.

How much longer do you have until you graduate?

Dear friend,

Have you heard about au pair? She can be one in US, i was one for 1 year and 7 months, and i met my fiance and we stayed together 11 months, good times. Now we are in K1 process since i came back home.

Most families even pay the fly ticket, she can look for a family near you, later she can be a student or whatever. A friend of mine got married while in usa and applied just for AOS.

You guys are very young and has plenty of time to have fun together. You can finish College and get a better job.

Think about that!