Are we too poor to be in love?

[CheshireKAY 0]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

[David-and-Mae 15]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

Someone correct me if I'm wrong... I think you can use your parents as co-sponsor if you will file for a K1 visa for your fiancee...

Sorry, I can't be of any help but I'm sure there will be people here who are knowledgeable enough to enlighten you and give you advices...

Mae

[CheshireKAY 0]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

Someone correct me if I'm wrong... I think you can use your parents as co-sponsor if you will file for a K1 visa for your fiancee...

Sorry, I can't be of any help but I'm sure there will be people here who are knowledgeable enough to enlighten you and give you advices...

Mae

Yeah, I thought of that, I really wish it were that simple and I guess I aught to have mentioned it above. I live in Michigan, and my Dad's been out of work for a year, he's been maintaining Mainframes since the dark ages but isn't educated on the Microsoft based mainframes, now that everyone's moving to Microsoft, he's having a pretty hard time finding work. My mom works for a non-profit, part time. Let's just say the money isn't exactly flying in from all directions and it looks like it's going down hill from here. Yeah, I really could sound more hopeless but I'll try not too.

Edited April 9, 2007 by CheshireKAY

[Niels Bohr 72]

Do not worry. Being poor has nothing to do with being in LOVE. However, if you are truly in love you will work for your future, and your future family. You do not want your kids, if you want one, to suffer the consequence of poor health conditions, or the inability for financial support. That would be very bad.

The above posts mention that you may have co-sponsors for your petition. It's highly recommended to have co-sponsors. Remember to review what the qualifications are by locating the Guides.

[yamilet 0]

well im prety much in your situation no income stil with mom and dad, but that dosent stop me because u can get someone to co-sponsor you , just like i am, i am working or w.e. but since i dont make enough or something. i got someone to sponsor my fiancee` and if your doing the K-1 , then yes just get someone that makes 125% above poverty level, have prrof or w.e. on having met and file the petition an have patience and good luck

[hanster 0]

basically, you need to have someone to joint sponsor your fiance. this joint sponsor does not have to be your parents or someone living with you, but it could be anyone (U.S. Citizens) as long as they make 125% over the poverty line and willing to sponsor your fiance.

for example you can ask any relatives that you have or any friends of the family.

good luck buddy

[CheshireKAY 0]

basically, you need to have someone to joint sponsor your fiance. this joint sponsor does not have to be your parents or someone living with you, but it could be anyone (U.S. Citizens) as long as they make 125% over the poverty line and willing to sponsor your fiance.

for example you can ask any relatives that you have or any friends of the family.

good luck buddy

Thanks Hanster, I've thought about it.

I'm mostly just stressing because we have to show when we are going to get married, and prove that she intends to come right? She doesn't want a traditional wedding, just a Justice of the Peace, and that's fine but, we can't really arrange when we can get married until we know when she can get here... and we can't know when she can get here until the visa is accepted, and then she has to sell her house...

[Bobbie 1]

basically, you need to have someone to joint sponsor your fiance. this joint sponsor does not have to be your parents or someone living with you, but it could be anyone (U.S. Citizens) as long as they make 125% over the poverty line and willing to sponsor your fiance.

for example you can ask any relatives that you have or any friends of the family.

good luck buddy

Thanks Hanster, I've thought about it.

I'm mostly just stressing because we have to show when we are going to get married, and prove that she intends to come right? She doesn't want a traditional wedding, just a Justice of the Peace, and that's fine but, we can't really arrange when we can get married until we know when she can get here... and we can't know when she can get here until the visa is accepted, and then she has to sell her house...

You know, I know this sounds hard, but you are young. Remember this is a life time. Even though we get anxious to have our loved ones with us, we all must wait. For you however, you must also say, how will I feed this woman, and clothe this woman and will she want to live in my parents basement too? You don't have that far to go before you will be able to afford everything and do just fine as a starting out couple. I know it sounds hard, but the time it takes to get a visa is ok, just that much closer you will be to your goals of working to take care of the woman you love. Is she going to sell the house her parents live in? That is really harsh. Maybe you can work some extra job so you can afford the plane ticket. The visa journey is not free, with all of the application fees and such. Don't give up hope, and don't be distracted. But do understand it is a committment to get married, and the same as this process, it is a committment. Like your marriage, it will be hard at times, and you make your mind up, you will get past the issues, and move forward. But don't be miserable so quickly, there is plenty of time for that. I met my fiance online in 2004. We have spoken daily since about march of 2005. I think we will be lucky if he gets here in 2007. If he cant? We will either wait, or I will move there. So.....smile, you have found the love of your life, but practice patience. It is a virtue. Virtues are important.

Bobbie

[doc_cute 0]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

love should not have barriers if u love your partner u should have a cosponsor need not necessarily be your parents any usc who makes above poverty line will do

good luck buddy i wish u best of luck for future n always

[Bobbie 1]

I'm a broke college student, I go to CC and live in my parents basement. I'm 20 years old 8-9k in debt and still going to school. I work one to two days a week because I can't work more with all the classes I have to take to maintain health insurance on my parent's bill. I met my Fiance in High School, and we dated for 3 years and during that time I managed to save up enough money to go visit her last summer, in Georgia (the country). I asked her to marry me in January of '07. I can barely afford car insurance each month to get to and from school, let alone gas, I'd be kaput if it weren't for my parents. She's living in Tbilisi, also under a roof her parents own, she'd have to sell it just to be able to afford the plane ticket here. We need to get together as soon as possible, and another 6-9 months minimum might be a death sentance to us. I'm just starting now because I had no idea how long it took and ~sighs~ I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Could someone who knows something tell me about these things direct me on where to start, tell me about someone who's had it harder to make me feel better, or just put us out of our misery and tell me to simply go there and give up hope on a safe place to raise our children and a chance to achieve our professional and personal goals?

love should not have barriers if u love your partner u should have a cosponsor need not necessarily be your parents any usc who makes above poverty line will do

good luck buddy i wish u best of luck for future n always

I don't think Love should have barriers, but I do think it should not be taken lightly. Love and marriage requires patience and understanding and a committment to keeping each other financially stable on some level. I think the writer is committed to this, or he wouldn't be goign to school. But to have a woman sell her parents house to afford a plane ticket? That seems to me to be...well, not right. Either way...it's ok to have love take some time. Yes I want my SO here and here now, but....as he says, Honey we are not kids, we can wait the time this will take. If your relationship can not endure a year or two wait, then...how will it endure other things that normally happen, or not normally happen. The same skill set is required to push past the hard times, the lonely times.

Bobbie

[CheshireKAY 0]

I don't think Love should have barriers, but I do think it should not be taken lightly. Love and marriage requires patience and understanding and a committment to keeping each other financially stable on some level. I think the writer is committed to this, or he wouldn't be goign to school. But to have a woman sell her parents house to afford a plane ticket? That seems to me to be...well, not right. Either way...it's ok to have love take some time. Yes I want my SO here and here now, but....as he says, Honey we are not kids, we can wait the time this will take. If your relationship can not endure a year or two wait, then...how will it endure other things that normally happen, or not normally happen. The same skill set is required to push past the hard times, the lonely times.

Bobbie

I guess I should clarify something. Her parents own a house they are living in in another city, she is living alone in Tbilisi. In a house her parents own. It doesn't mean they are wealthy, they just needed a place for her to go to school from. (her school doesn't have Dorms like a lot of American schools do)

Edited April 9, 2007 by CheshireKAY

[doc_cute 0]

I don't think Love should have barriers, but I do think it should not be taken lightly. Love and marriage requires patience and understanding and a committment to keeping each other financially stable on some level. I think the writer is committed to this, or he wouldn't be goign to school. But to have a woman sell her parents house to afford a plane ticket? That seems to me to be...well, not right. Either way...it's ok to have love take some time. Yes I want my SO here and here now, but....as he says, Honey we are not kids, we can wait the time this will take. If your relationship can not endure a year or two wait, then...how will it endure other things that normally happen, or not normally happen. The same skill set is required to push past the hard times, the lonely times.

Bobbie

I guess I should clarify something. Her parents own a house they are living in in another city, she is living alone in Tbilisi. In a house her parents own. It doesn't mean they are wealthy, they just needed a place for her to go to school from. (her school doesn't have Dorms like a lot of American schools do)

[Mephys 2]

the K-1 process takes many months, for us it was 8 months, so I guess you could start putting money aside maybe for her plane ticket to come and for the cost of the K-1 + AOS once she is here? The summer is here soon and if you can find another job while your classes are off maybe it could be enough ?

[doc_cute 0]

the K-1 process takes many months, for us it was 8 months, so I guess you could start putting money aside maybe for her plane ticket to come and for the cost of the K-1 + AOS once she is here? The summer is here soon and if you can find another job while your classes are off maybe it could be enough ?

good suggesstion mephys

nice family photo

[sophyie 0]

One thing I wanted to remind you of:

even if you manage to get the money together for the visa, flight and AOS- don't forget that once she's in the US, she will very likely not be able to work right away.

She will depend on you or your family until she's free to work.

How much longer do you have until you graduate?