forcing me to divorce my wife

[abhi_meli 150]

There is definitely missing something.I wouldn't be scared if I didn't do anything wrong.My wife can say whatever she wants.Op needs to come out with the whole story in order to get the best advice.Why did they fight? Why did she went for counselling?

[NikLR 13,220]

Actually it would be in his best interest if he didn't and saw a lawyer instead. 

 

People fight for different reasons. Most often in my life I notice that arguments, even screaming matches, are about nothing actually serious.   Immigrants are often scared when threatened with jail or deportation especially when they're unsure of their rights.  

[KierenHby 897]

While they wait to be interviewed, immigrant spouses are handed and asked review pamphlets precisely to make them aware of rights should they find themselves in an abusive situation. COs interviewing them verbally go over contents of the pamphlet once more at the interview window. 

[TBoneTX 43,040]

2 hours ago, KierenHby said:

While they wait to be interviewed, immigrant spouses are handed and asked review pamphlets precisely to make them aware of rights should they find themselves in an abusive situation. COs interviewing them verbally go over contents of the pamphlet once more at the interview window. 

Is this something new?

Why would they be handed something like that before the visa has even been granted?

Curious about it.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

6 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Is this something new?

Why would they be handed something like that before the visa has even been granted?

Curious about it.

I can confirm it. My wife was given that the day she received her K-1 in Frankfurt. They really stressed to her the importance of knowing that she has options besides feeling trapped in an abusive situation. Even during her POE, the customs people were like "and how long have you known this guy? You know he could be a killer or something right?"

[NikLR 13,220]

I also was given a pamphlet about abuse and what my rights would be before the interview. I dont know if in other countries it is written in the native language, or if the beneficiary can't read if someone can read it to them. 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

37 minutes ago, NikLR said:

I also was given a pamphlet about abuse and what my rights would be before the interview. I dont know if in other countries it is written in the native language, or if the beneficiary can't read if someone can read it to them. 

My then-fiancee's was in her native tongue.

[trudi 1,317]

3 hours ago, Marco&Bettina said:

I can confirm it. My wife was given that the day she received her K-1 in Frankfurt. They really stressed to her the importance of knowing that she has options besides feeling trapped in an abusive situation. Even during her POE, the customs people were like "and how long have you known this guy? You know he could be a killer or something right?"

 

It was not mentioned at any point during my interview or at POE, no pamphlets either 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

1 minute ago, trudi said:

 

It was not mentioned at any point during my interview or at POE, no pamphlets either 

Weird. Maybe it'####### or miss.

[KierenHby 897]

11 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Is this something new?

Why would they be handed something like that before the visa has even been granted?

As others have since noted, pamphlets aren't exactly new? May have to do with increasing numbers of immigrants.. unaware of their rights. 

Pamphlets are usually in English as well as the local language\dialect. 

[Boiler 43,423]

I was not warned.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

17 hours ago, Boiler said:

I was not warned.

Cuz they knew you were the troublemaker LOL.

[nepali29292 2]

On 1/18/2017 at 0:05 AM, milaroy said:

Going on what you have told us there is nothing you really have to worry about. going by what you have said it sounds like you wife is an emotionally disturb person (EDP) and she does need help. Now in Massachusetts she can divorce you without you signing anything. It will be a contested divorce it will take some time but if she really wanted she can do this. My suggesting to you is not worry about the what if's. There are many pro bono. There are many law students who take on these cases and do well. As for the possibility of anything with the domestic violence... well in Massachusetts if she makes a police report that you physically assualted her the police will arrest you but this will not effect you immigration status. 

Working in law enforcement in Massachusetts suggest that you have as little contact with them anymore and build and live your life here. Educate yourself seek some free legal advise there are many resources in Massachusetts  

thanks for your reply! I've been trying to deal with all of these alone and now i just signed divorce papers yesterday.  my green card expires by end of 2018. can i still stay here until then without removing the condition? they are threatening me to leave this country or else they will file a domestic violence against me but i don't know how they will because we already signed the divorce paper yesterday which said we did it mutually because of unmet expectation and finance. 

[NikLR 13,220]

1 hour ago, nepali29292 said:

thanks for your reply! I've been trying to deal with all of these alone and now i just signed divorce papers yesterday.  my green card expires by end of 2018. can i still stay here until then without removing the condition? they are threatening me to leave this country or else they will file a domestic violence against me but i don't know how they will because we already signed the divorce paper yesterday which said we did it mutually because of unmet expectation and finance. 

Yes you can legally stay.  I hope you collected anything that proved you entered the marriage in good faith. 

[nepali29292 2]

29 minutes ago, NikLR said:

Yes you can legally stay.  I hope you collected anything that proved you entered the marriage in good faith. 

so i don't have to do anything at least 3 months prior to expiry date right? I have lease for the apartment that we were staying at, some checks that she had deposited in my bank account time to time and photographs of us together for the whole time. it saddens me to core to even write this right now and realize that it's over.