Divorce vs annulment

[Boiler 43,361]

You need a Lawyer, assume you will be screwed without one.

[Unlockable 7,306]

If she takes you to court it will be up to the judge to decide what you will pay in child support. You will have a chance to plead your case if you attend.

 

Child support payment will make NO difference if you are divorced or annulled.

[Dantrolene 15]

With that being said, the judge can change the percentage of what I should pay if she demands more or something ? 

[NikLR 13,220]

9 hours ago, Dantrolene said:

With that being said, the judge can change the percentage of what I should pay if she demands more or something ? 

Really we're an immigration forum, not a divorce forum but we do have some knowledgeable people here.  I really suggest you get a lawyer that can help you out. 

[belinda63 2,981]

Usually there is a chart upon which child support is based. http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/washington I didn't try the link but it seems on the surface about right. Unless there are very unusual circumstances the court will follow the guidelines. 

[Mollie09 1,543]

From an immigration perspective, you mentioned you have no joint assets or financial entanglements, so I'm hoping you weren't thinking about ROC on your own

[Dantrolene 15]

I am thinking of ROC first as I am very close and then proceed to divorce if she wants to. She mentioned it like everyday now.. But I put up with her at this moment.

[javadown2 308]

15 hours ago, Dantrolene said:

That's true that my issues are obviously child support and custody. I don't know what to do with that. She's great with the baby. I am not. Never dealt with kids before. She has one before from previous marriage.   

 

I won't ask for alimony because I told her in the beginning that I don't want any support from her and that her assets are her belongings no matter what happens.  

 

So I don't know what to do regarding child support ? I want to pay the least I can especially her income is far higher than mine. It won't be an issue for me if she wants the custody because she's really good with the baby.  

 

Thanks for your informative answers. 

Well..if your good with babies or not..you had one with her and will have to pay child support until the baby is at least 18, more then likely it will be a % of your income, probable around $400 a month. There is no getting out of child support, especially in the state of WA. 99% of the time the mother gets custody of the baby, this is another WA thing, so you don't need to worry about joint custody if you don't want that. It's unfortunate for the child to have a broken family but not all relationships work out. Good luck and be mentally ready for paying money to her for a long time, besides it's your obligation as a father.

Edited January 14, 2017 by javadown2

[Dantrolene 15]

10 minutes ago, javadown2 said:

Well..if your good with babies or not..you had one with her and will have to pay child support until the baby is at least 18, more then likely it will be a % of your income, probable around $400 a month. There is no getting out of child support, especially in the state of WA. 99% of the time the mother gets custody of the baby, this is another WA thing, so you don't need to worry about joint custody if you don't want that. It's unfortunate for the child to have a broken family but not all relationships work out. Good luck and be mentally ready for paying money to her for a long time, besides it's your obligation as a father.

If I moved to another state to live e.g. Chicago and my wife is in WA state...which state law will apply to me in terms of child support ?  

 

And what if she took a full custody, would it be more for me to pay as a child support than if she took just a partial custody or there is no difference ? 

[Transborderwife 4,666]

1 minute ago, Dantrolene said:

If I moved to another state to live e.g. Chicago and my wife is in WA state...which state law will apply to me in terms of child support ?  

 

And what if she took a full custody, would it be more for me to pay as a child support than if she took just a partial custody or there is no difference ? 

These are all questions for a qualified family lawyer.  But it usually goes by the guidelines of where the child lives.  

[javadown2 308]

3 minutes ago, Dantrolene said:

If I moved to another state to live e.g. Chicago and my wife is in WA state...which state law will apply to me in terms of child support ?  

 

And what if she took a full custody, would it be more for me to pay as a child support than if she took just a partial custody or there is no difference ? 

Just get a lawyer, because each case is different. It will be governed by the state of WA since this is where she resides. If you had 50/50 custody I believe you would pay less in child support, but honestly you need to see a lawyer, it's just what I've known from past friends who are living in WA and are paying child support. If you don't pay the state of WA gives her the money anyways and then will come after you for back payments of child support, so it's in your best interest to get a lawyer and stay current on your side of the agreement.

[Dantrolene 15]

I don't have enough money to get a lawyer honestly. There is nothing here but the child between us. I am going to pay child support but I am trying to protect myself and pay the least amount possible especially she makes higher income than me and she has her whole family here while I don't.  Wondering if she can play games to drain me so I pay her more than usual. That's why my thoughts I should finalize divorce before me working full time and make more money so won't be any taken advantage of me.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

It is best to consult a divorce lawyer as each case and state is different and there are many variables involved.
There is no one size fits all answer. Make a well informed decision by going to a competent lawyer who will point things

out you have not even thought about and make your decision easier.
 

[Transborderwife 4,666]

11 minutes ago, Dantrolene said:

I don't have enough money to get a lawyer honestly. There is nothing here but the child between us. I am going to pay child support but I am trying to protect myself and pay the least amount possible especially she makes higher income than me and she has her whole family here while I don't.  Wondering if she can play games to drain me so I pay her more than usual. That's why my thoughts I should finalize divorce before me working full time and make more money so won't be any taken advantage of me.

Sorry, but that's a horrible attitude.  Your concern should be about providing adequate support for your child.  Not what the child's mother can and can't support on her income.  It's about the child, not her

[geowrian 22,335]

59 minutes ago, Dantrolene said:

I am thinking of ROC first as I am very close and then proceed to divorce if she wants to. She mentioned it like everyday now.. But I put up with her at this moment.

This may be a challenge. You repeatedly noted not having any ties with her except one child...no commingling of finances, no commingling of accounts, a very strained relationship, etc. It's certainly possible to prove a bona fide relationship for the 2 years without that, but generally they want to see that type of evidence.