Sharing funny story... comments?

[Harmonia 211]

I suggest you look at the Santo Domingo consulate reviews on this site. My husband and I did a CR1 marriage visa interview in Guatemala, and we were not asked any intimate questions like this. Nor were any other couples. At least there, the interviews are done in front of a teller like at a bank. You can hear everyone's interview. Again, its all Consular-specific. I believe Sto. Domingo has a similar setup where people can see you and hear your responses at the "ventanilla".

[MarkPerry 488]

I suggest to have sex before making a visa committment. Sex is part of the relationship, just lake education level, family history, etc.

I had one girl I was about to put in K1 visa for, and chatted with her for 4 months before I ever met her. I was so sure she was the right one for me and I did love her.

Once I spent time and we had intimate time, I knew I could never marry her.

[JenniferNangel 137]

I suggest you look at the Santo Domingo consulate reviews on this site. My husband and I did a CR1 marriage visa interview in Guatemala, and we were not asked any intimate questions like this. Nor were any other couples. At least there, the interviews are done in front of a teller like at a bank. You can hear everyone's interview. Again, its all Consular-specific. I believe Sto. Domingo has a similar setup where people can see you and hear your responses at the "ventanilla".

Yes it's the same way I was a nervous wreck when my husband had his interview but it was a lot easier than I thought

[Transborderwife 4,666]

I suggest to have sex before making a visa committment. Sex is part of the relationship, just lake education level, family history, etc.

I had one girl I was about to put in K1 visa for, and chatted with her for 4 months before I ever met her. I was so sure she was the right one for me and I did love her.

Once I spent time and we had intimate time, I knew I could never marry her.

fine and good for you, however I'd never suggest that for one who feels that it would be compromising their values or beliefs

[BethyWink 96]

fine and good for you, however I'd never suggest that for one who feels that it would be compromising their values or beliefs

I agree with you. Sex is all about boundaries and consent. I personally do not believe in abstinence, but I also believe that I have a choice as well as my partner on when and what we do. If you need to pressure someone into sleeping with you, or you feel pressured into sleeping with someone, they are not right for you.

You need a partner who is willing to talk about the boundaries, not push them.

And if those boundaries are to abstain from intimacy, then so be it! There are MANY couples globally who have successful and safe relationships without having sex until they are married.

[DrEllaNJ 288]

I suggest to have sex before making a visa committment. Sex is part of the relationship, just lake education level, family history, etc.

I had one girl I was about to put in K1 visa for, and chatted with her for 4 months before I ever met her. I was so sure she was the right one for me and I did love her.

Once I spent time and we had intimate time, I knew I could never marry her.

You based that solely on the "intimate time"? Would you have known she wasn't right for you if you hadn't had "intimate time"?

Hubby and I didn't "do the deed" until we were married. First times were awkward and all, but hey guess what, we love each other. It keeps getting better the better we know each other!

All I can say is this: if I had judged our relationship on the basis of our first "intimate" times together, I may have walked away from an excellent, loving, deep relationship with a wonderful, loving husband.

OP, don't let external (perceived) circumstances pressure you to sleep together. Keep doing what you feel is right.

[Catuela 16]

its like going to the bank. I did my K1 interview in August.

I did see stokes people called to the back.

it DOES happen

[hateadminforms 19]

Just tell them you are reading the book on the topic but the new "walking Dead" series has diverted your attention so have not got to the chapter where you "do it",

Then chastise the interviewer, stating "a lady never speaks to strangers about such topics" .... smiling at the same time to the interviewer of course !

Or ask, hmm so if I tell you my answer, will you tell me first when you first did it and if it was with your now wife? ..... this will show you understand US culture for sure!

[evapaula 230]

I suggest to have sex before making a visa committment. Sex is part of the relationship, just lake education level, family history, etc.

How can you make such a suggestion for another couple? Besides it being a sacred and very important decision for some couples, sex is such a subjective thing! It will be amazing one day and "meh" the next, depending on so many factors.

I have never heard of this question being asked in an interview, but even if it comes to it, i'm sure your decision to wait will be respected and considered valid.

[JenniferNangel 137]

I suggest to have sex before making a visa committment. Sex is part of the relationship, just lake education level, family history, etc.

I had one girl I was about to put in K1 visa for, and chatted with her for 4 months before I ever met her. I was so sure she was the right one for me and I did love her.

Once I spent time and we had intimate time, I knew I could never marry her.

My sister waited for marriage before having sex. She married her hs sweetheart and they are still married with 2 kids. People still do it granted I'm the opposite and married my husband while pregnant(my brother married his bm after she gave birth) everyone is different I give credit to anyone that can wait until after marriage. Yes sex is a big part of a relationship but it's not the main most important thing. If him and his fiancé want to wait you really don't have a right to judge them or tell them they should

[Catuela 16]

How can you make such a suggestion for another couple? Besides it being a sacred and very important decision for some couples, sex is such a subjective thing! It will be amazing one day and "meh" the next, depending on so many factors.

I have never heard of this question being asked in an interview, but even if it comes to it, i'm sure your decision to wait will be respected and considered valid.

in Dominican Republic

ALL is fair game please remember DR is HIGH fraud. Stokes interviews do happen some people even get approved then called back 2nd interview. DR is walk in a field of dandelions.

2nd I would be high suspect if the person not wanting a sexual relationship is the DR person...

I mean not everyone wants to be sexually active...but I would pounce on my fiancée when I saw him and he would be ready lol just saying...

BUT IT IS A PERSONAL decision.

I TOO would not do any formal (visa) relationship prior to sex

Edited December 15, 2016 by Catuela

[MarkPerry 488]

You based that solely on the "intimate time"? Would you have known she wasn't right for you if you hadn't had "intimate time"?

The intimate part was the game changer, I even packed a engagement ring I was so sure she was the one. Me and her chatted almost daily and it was great and we got along quite well. She had even seen in person from my previous trip to Philippines even though I didn't remember her face but she described where I was at the time and it was spot on.

She meet me at airport, I had a month vacation. I stayed with her in her room at her parents house, and after about 3 weeks of doing my best to make things work, I knew I couldn't be with her due my the sex. I had to leave and try to salvage my last week.

I just share this story with others, because you may think (and I was one of them) you are in love and it going to be real, until you spend time and really get to know each other then it is still a evolving relationship. Looking back now, it was best for me and her to move on.

[MarkPerry 488]

My sister waited for marriage before having sex. She married her hs sweetheart and they are still married with 2 kids. People still do it granted I'm the opposite and married my husband while pregnant(my brother married his bm after she gave birth) everyone is different I give credit to anyone that can wait until after marriage. Yes sex is a big part of a relationship but it's not the main most important thing. If him and his fiancé want to wait you really don't have a right to judge them or tell them they should

My wife now was virgin when I met her, but I wasn't going to roll the bones and wait after the experience I had before.

Marrying a virgin looks good on paper, but in reality it better to know your spouse inside and out.

[SMAlexander 7]

When dealing with DR.. you have to have your stuff together lol

[Limey 550]

I think that question only comes up when you do green card interview, to see if its a real marriage.

The correct answer of course to prove its a genuine marriage is "weeks ago"