My pets

[QueenComley 295]

My husband knows if I had to pick between him and the cat....... well I shall say no more!

I work in a veterinary clinic, Our cat is a rescue, we saved her life at 7 weeks, she is 2 now. She is my heart and soul, my anxiety and stress buster, she amuses us all the time.... and my husband is dotty over her. Im heartbroken that your husband has done this to you. I am particularly shocked that he has announced that you can not bring your 2 small dogs here but plans to get a large dog. That makes absolutely no sense at all and sounds like a form of control.... something I urge you to keep a close eye one.

Edited December 10, 2016 by QueenComley

[David & Diana R 1,005]

My husband doesn't want me to bring my two little lovely dogs with me from Africa. I don't know what you do

Before I get attacked please know that I am a dog and cat lover. I guess if I were in the same situation I would choose my spouse. Humans to me always take precedence over animals. (Well there are exceptions I suppose) Did you not discuss this with your husband before you were married? Could the reason be because of the cost of bringing two dogs to the US? I imagine it would be in the hundreds of dollars? My vote is for you to take the human. But in any event I wish you well. Good luck and GOD Bless.

Melekalimaka, (Merry Christmas)

Aloha, David

[toxicatta 10]

Before I get attacked please know that I am a dog and cat lover. I guess if I were in the same situation I would choose my spouse. Humans to me always take precedence over animals. (Well there are exceptions I suppose) Did you not discuss this with your husband before you were married? Could the reason be because of the cost of bringing two dogs to the US? I imagine it would be in the hundreds of dollars? My vote is for you to take the human. But in any event I wish you well. Good luck and GOD Bless.

Melekalimaka, (Merry Christmas)

Aloha, David

It shouldn't be like this though. Animals are not toys that you can throw away when they become inconvenient and expensive. And if humans are more important than animals, then they are certainly more important than money or dog-free houses. Which means the husband also needs to make a choice.

Besides... I know it's wrong to judge without knowing both sides of the story, but it does seem unfair. When someone is already about to give up their home and old life it is unkind to also ask them to give up their pets.

Perhaps a compromise is possible? Maybe you could build a climate controlled dog house outside in the yard?

[kareelina 42]

Go read up OP's past threads of how their visa problems have been dragging on for 2 years, you will probably understand why I stated that. I did see many red flags.

Yes, I know that Islam considers dog haram.

But that does not mean that all Muslim people are that close-minded when come to getting dogs as pet

And it certainly not an issue for OP since she is muslim and has her dogs for sometimes already.

Another poster stated that they got another Labrador as a Ramadan present.

According to our religion dogs are not haram it is mentioned in the holy book many times , My husband doesn't mind a big dog Pull dog in particular , when he was here many times he used to feed her and he did the same talking to her and try to discipline her by not coming under the dinning table while we are eating , He himself like a lot of Muslims knows that having a dog is not haram.

Concerning the delay in submitting our application and that led to that delay it was his mistake and he admitted .

[kareelina 42]

My husband knows if I had to pick between him and the cat....... well I shall say no more!

I work in a veterinary clinic, Our cat is a rescue, we saved her life at 7 weeks, she is 2 now. She is my heart and soul, my anxiety and stress buster, she amuses us all the time.... and my husband is dotty over her. Im heartbroken that your husband has done this to you. I am particularly shocked that he has announced that you can not bring your 2 small dogs here but plans to get a large dog. That makes absolutely no sense at all and sounds like a form of control.... something I urge you to keep a close eye one.

Our first dog was used to the toilet and we have two separate bathrooms here so it didn't bother him at all , but in his house he has only one bathroom and told me it is impossible that all of us use the same one , that why he said he would prefer a big dog that remains in the yard all the time.

[kareelina 42]

Before I get attacked please know that I am a dog and cat lover. I guess if I were in the same situation I would choose my spouse. Humans to me always take precedence over animals. (Well there are exceptions I suppose) Did you not discuss this with your husband before you were married? Could the reason be because of the cost of bringing two dogs to the US? I imagine it would be in the hundreds of dollars? My vote is for you to take the human. But in any event I wish you well. Good luck and GOD Bless.

Melekalimaka, (Merry Christmas)

Aloha, David

I really don't want to make an issue out of it with him , he's been working hard for our visa and regardless all the obstacles that drew us back for 2 years it finally comes to an end , he needs me there badly as he is sick and should be hospitalized soon.

[Ahmed & Amy 291]

I really don't want to make an issue out of it with him , he's been working hard for our visa and regardless all the obstacles that drew us back for 2 years it finally comes to an end , he needs me there badly as he is sick and should be hospitalized soon.

I think that this issue about not bringing the dogs is mainly due to his illness and feeling that he wants his wife not having to worry about the responsibility of taking care of dogs. This has nothing to do with religion nor culture. Many Egyptians whether Muslim or not, have dogs; whether they believe it permissible or not, just like many Egyptians are fearful of dogs for no reason as well. But this is not the issue. The OP clearly stated that her husband will have to be hospitalized soon.

Kareelina, have you contacted any agencies here in Egypt that help with adopting/fostering pets? Maybe temporarily an Egyptian family can take care of your dogs until your husband recovers from his illness, if you decide not to take them with you to the US in the end. I hope the best for you and wish your husband a quick recovery

[Avina 13]

I really don't want to make an issue out of it with him , he's been working hard for our visa and regardless all the obstacles that drew us back for 2 years it finally comes to an end , he needs me there badly as he is sick and should be hospitalized soon.

Sorry Karleelina, no one in this forum can help you with your issues about your husband other than suggesting..

You need to sit down and seriously talk with your husband and set your priorities.

In a relationship with true love, there should be always a way to work things out!

[kareelina 42]

I think that this issue about not bringing the dogs is mainly due to his illness and feeling that he wants his wife not having to worry about the responsibility of taking care of dogs. This has nothing to do with religion nor culture. Many Egyptians whether Muslim or not, have dogs; whether they believe it permissible or not, just like many Egyptians are fearful of dogs for no reason as well. But this is not the issue. The OP clearly stated that her husband will have to be hospitalized soon.

Kareelina, have you contacted any agencies here in Egypt that help with adopting/fostering pets? Maybe temporarily an Egyptian family can take care of your dogs until your husband recovers from his illness, if you decide not to take them with you to the US in the end. I hope the best for you and wish your husband a quick recovery

I haven't contacted any agencies here , all we have here Esma and the shelter of Hanan Debees but the shelter is not like a home with a family some friends in FB animal pages always warned of leaving a dog in a shelter , a FB friend came to my mind now he may board them for a while and I will offer paying him all the expenses , he is a pet lover .

Sorry Karleelina, no one in this forum can help you with your issues about your husband other than suggesting..

You need to sit down and seriously talk with your husband and set your priorities.

In a relationship with true love, there should be always a way to work things out!

Yes you are right , but I will talk with him later after his surgery

[Kastrs 723]

This comment was not fair. I see the OP is from Egypt so I am assuming they are Muslim and if you knew anything about Islam you would know that it is written that angels do not enter the homes where people have dogs. Should her dogs have been discussed before now? Yes, but it isn't as cut and dry and people may think it is and it's unfair to say they will have marriage problems in the future because of this one issue, that I'll point out again, is not because he wants to be a jerk, it is literally against the religion of Islam.

OP: My husband is Jordanian and I had a dog when we married(we married in Jordan) who was 12 years old at the time. He knew my children were very attached to her and never asked me to get rid of her, if he had I wouldn't have anyway, Lilly was a part of my family and it would have been a deal breaker for me if he had asked me to find her a new home. His family was totally fine with it as well, and although his dad passed away 2 years ago(he was the one I was most worried about, I loved him very much and his opinion mattered a lot to me), even he warmed up to her. When my husband first arrived he was scared of her(she was a corgi and has since passed) but after a few days he realized she was totally harmless and he grew to love her as much as we did, in fact he was always the first to wake up in the mornings and he would feed her and take her for her morning walk. I would hear him talking in Arabic to her when he thought no one was listening, he really loved her. About 6 months after he arrived Lilly was diagnosed with cancer and passed away, he was as heartbroken as we were. I swore I would never get another dog because the heartbreak of watching her suffer and then losing her was devastating. After a few months I realized that our house was not the same without a dog and I told my husband I was thinking about getting another dog, he was not for it, but I went ahead and rescued another adult corgi and the day our new dog arrived my husband just kind of rolled his eyes and said "I knew you wouldn't listen" he wasn't angry he was amused. Our new dog's name is name is Petey and we've had him for 3 years now, his owner was dying from bone cancer and could no longer care for him, and as heartbreaking as it was for her to give him up she wanted to make sure he would be well taken care of before she passed and thankfully chose us chose us. My husband is absolutely in LOVE with Petey and they are the very best of friends. My husband's family has visited twice in the fours years since my husband arrived 4 years ago and they always bring gifts for her , it;s quite sweet. I understand the reason your husband doesn't want dogs but perhaps if your husband sees a story like ours he will consider changing his mind and I hope he does. Please keep us updated and good luck!

I think your response back is a bit harsh. My husband, from Pakistan, has had dogs his whole life. Yes he is a Sunni Muslim. Also, we have 2 dogs now. Not everyone subscribes to the same set of hadith and some do no follow them at all.

I am not going to make assumptions about the OPs beliefs.

[Kastrs 723]

Go read up OP's past threads of how their visa problems have been dragging on for 2 years, you will probably understand why I stated that. I did see many red flags.

Yes, I know that Islam considers dog haram.

But that does not mean that all Muslim people are that close-minded when come to getting dogs as pet

And it certainly not an issue for OP since she is muslim and has her dogs for sometimes already.

Another poster stated that they got another Labrador as a Ramadan present.

Dogs are not haram at all. Dog saliva and fur can be considered najasa, which means it is unclean for the purposes of salah, prayer. Provided one does not knowingly have saliva or fur on their clothing during salah, there is no issue at all with dogs. Also, the Quran clearly mentions the dog in the cave in surah Al Kahf.

[Cathi 5,610]

I think your response back is a bit harsh. My husband, from Pakistan, has had dogs his whole life. Yes he is a Sunni Muslim. Also, we have 2 dogs now. Not everyone subscribes to the same set of hadith and some do no follow them at all.

I am not going to make assumptions about the OPs beliefs.

what's being harsh about the fact that dogs are haram? I was pointing out that it's a fact and perhaps this is the reason for his not wanting her to bring her dogs. And what's harsh about stating it wasn't fair for MerryTooth to say they will have future problems in their marriage because of this issue? Answer: Nothing. It's quite the contrary, for someone to state they will have issues in their marriage in the future because of this one disagreement is not only harsh, it's unfair.

[Kastrs 723]

what's being harsh about the fact that dogs are haram? I was pointing out that it's a fact and perhaps this is the reason for his not wanting her to bring her dogs. And what's harsh about stating it wasn't fair for MerryTooth to say they will have future problems in their marriage because of this issue? Answer: Nothing. It's quite the contrary, for someone to state they will have issues in their marriage in the future because of this one disagreement is not only harsh, it's unfair.

Dogs are not haram. Saying they are is just misinformation. Their saliva and hair is najasa for the purposes of salah. And as I previously said the hadith you referenced is not taken as authentic by many Muslims. Furthermore the hadith does not say they are haram, and it is clearly stated that unless something is expressly labeled as haram, it is halal.

[kareelina 42]

Thanks Lord , finally I found a good home for my two dogs they will keep them for me till my husband get recovered and discuss the matter once more with him . Actually they offer to keep them for good.

[TBoneTX 43,057]

That's good news. Thanks for the update.