Why Can't He Return to U.S. with Me after Marriage? [split topic]

[carol22qand 1]

please someone tell me what happens if i a us citzen go to algeria to marry my friend of 2 years why he says he can not come back to usa with me after our marriage? i can only stay for 30 days in algeria he says that is enough time for me to be checked out& us to get married before i have to come back to the us.i am worried he only wants me for my usa visa stamp& after i come back to the usa he can go anywhere he wishes under my visa if i marry him in algeria. there is 20 years age diffrence& he says he loves me so much. i have skyped with a lot of his family he says& they say they love me a lot.i have my passport& visa to go for 6 months already.my visa was approved for one year. at first a year ago he said after marriage we fly back to usa together& now he says i have to come back to usa alone& he comes to me 3 months after.i am so confused to if he can use my visa stamp to go somewhere else in the usa to marry someone else or dose he have to follow me at my home ? he also says he can not help me with money for my plane ticket. i am suppose to leave the usa nov the 5th 2016 to marry in algeria.thank you for any feed back to help me understand.i do love this man very very much& i fell he loves me the same.

[dwheels76 5,459]

please someone tell me what happens if i a us citzen go to algeria to marry my friend of 2 years why he says he can not come back to usa with me after our marriage? i can only stay for 30 days in algeria he says that is enough time for me to be checked out& us to get married before i have to come back to the us.i am worried he only wants me for my usa visa stamp& after i come back to the usa he can go anywhere he wishes under my visa if i marry him in algeria. there is 20 years age diffrence& he says he loves me so much. i have skyped with a lot of his family he says& they say they love me a lot.i have my passport& visa to go for 6 months already.my visa was approved for one year. at first a year ago he said after marriage we fly back to usa together& now he says i have to come back to usa alone& he comes to me 3 months after.i am so confused to if he can use my visa stamp to go somewhere else in the usa to marry someone else or dose he have to follow me at my home ? he also says he can not help me with money for my plane ticket. i am suppose to leave the usa nov the 5th 2016 to marry in algeria.thank you for any feed back to help me understand.i do love this man very very much& i fell he loves me the same.

Marrying someone from another country just not allow them to just come back with you. You have to petition them. It will take 12 months about. Don't know what he is talking about 3 months.

There's money to file will cost about $1000.

However you seem to have bigger issue. You are already thinking this man maybe using you for visa.

No he can't use your visa don't know what you mean by that. What USA visa stamp? Please clarify.

You have some decisions to make about money and travel. And petitioning this man. Seems like real big red flags already and you haven't even met yet.

Edited September 3, 2016 by dwheels76

[Georgia16 2,858]

Take your time and go meet him. You really don't have to get married the first time you meet and you seem SO unsure of his real intentions about all this. I'm guessing you are the older one. Is he fine with not having kids?

Like said above it takes a year to get the visa and he can't move to the us before that. He can come and visit or you can visit him in the mean time.

It's expensive there are filing fees and medical fees and interview fees and so on have you talked about who will cover all of this? And there will be fees in the future as well.

Take your time and get to know this man before you marry

[NikLR 13,220]

Have you even met this man before? No dont get married the first time, especially if you're concerned and more concerning for me, that you havent even a clue on how a spouse of a USC comes to the USA to live.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

If you think he is using your for a visa, then HE IS. Why would he want to marry a person 20 years older who can't bear children when in his culture it is critically important to have kids? You know he is scamming you; you already feel it.

[Boiler 43,426]

Just a thought but there is a TV series covering situation such as yours, 90 Day Fiance.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

i have skyped with a lot of his family he says& they say they love me a lot.

Of course they love you a lot... you are their meal tickets to US.

Sometimes, it is really hard for me to understand how people could 'love' someone so much without actual physical face time together. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

More like falling in love with a dream, a fantasy rather than reality.

If you are really going to visit him, remember to take a closer look at his young female relatives.

The one quietly serving you tea, water might turn up to be his hidden fiancee / wife.

Never be pressured to rush into marriage with him if you are so unsure. You will live to regret it.

[KierenHby 897]

If you have a gut feeling he's using you for a visa, he in all likelihood IS.

He's already ordering you to do things his way, a bad omen. A domineering man like that doesn't "marry" someone with a 20 year age gap. Get to know him.. don't fall for him.

[carol22qand 1]

Marrying someone from another country just allow them to just come back with you. You have to petition the. It will take 12 months about. Don't know what he is talking about 3 months.

There's money to file will cost about $1000.

However you seem to have bigger issue. You are already thinking this man maybe using you for visa.

No he can't use your visa don't know what you mean by that. What USA visa stamp. Please clarify.

You have some decisions to make about money and travel. And petitioning this man. Seems like real big red flags already and you haven't even met yet.

he says to me he dose not need me in the usa he needs me in algeria .i do not understand that.i have been married from arabic befor in 1991 for 8 years we met in the us.he says its easier for him to come to the us with me comming to marry him in algeria. he says he has a work visa& will come under my visa i come to algeria if we marry.he also tells me& my family he loves me very much until the end.i have told him many times i will not come to marry you in algeria& he gets very upset; he talks with my mom& dad about 4 times a week.he said he would not marry me until he ask my dad& he said yes. i really do love him& wish to understand more from him.i do know i have to visit a least one time with him before we can marry.he says to me just trust him& don,t worry we will be together till the end.thank you for your respond to my question.

[Georgia16 2,858]

he says to me he dose not need me in the usa he needs me in algeria .i do not understand that.i have been married from arabic befor in 1991 for 8 years we met in the us.he says its easier for him to come to the us with me comming to marry him in algeria. he says he has a work visa& will come under my visa i come to algeria if we marry.he also tells me& my family he loves me very much until the end.i have told him many times i will not come to marry you in algeria& he gets very upset; he talks with my mom& dad about 4 times a week.he said he would not marry me until he ask my dad& he said yes. i really do love him& wish to understand more from him.i do know i have to visit a least one time with him before we can marry.he says to me just trust him& don,t worry we will be together till the end.thank you for your respond to my question.

He can't come to the US under your visa. You don't have a visa since you are USC it does not make sense at all. And he does not have a work visa for the US not true. Either he just is completely clueless or just filing you with bulls*it so you will do what he says.

You REALLY need to read and read and read so you know what you are dealing with when it comes to visa.

you WILL be on the hook for him if you bring him here (Also if he leaves you) I hope you are aware of that too.

[NikLR 13,220]

If you divorce because he was a fraud, you still have to pay! You can't make him leave. He can stay if he can scam the government too. Everyone on here is telling you this sounds like a scam. Many of us have been here for YEARS (I joined in 2012!) and this sounds like a scam to me.

[carol22qand 1]

If you divorce because he was a fraud, you still have to pay! You can't make him leave. He can stay if he can scam the government too. Everyone on here is telling you this sounds like a scam. Many of us have been here for YEARS (I joined in 2012!) and this sounds like a scam to me.

thank you all very much.this is why i am on here to get answers.i do have a visa to go to algeria.& also i don.t know if i marry him in algeria will it be a legal marriage in us.i was hoping i would come across someone who had married in algeria from the us& i could understand what they have been through.

[Georgia16 2,858]

thank you all very much.this is why i am on here to get answers.i do have a visa to go to algeria.& also i don.t know if i marry him in algeria will it be a legal marriage in us.i was hoping i would come across someone who had married in algeria from the us& i could understand what they have been through.

It will be. Married is married.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

If he had a work visa he could just come here. Since he is not doing that he is lying to you.

[Boiler 43,426]

Him coming to visit you and your parents first sounds an excellent idea.