Help needed wife abdoned marriage

[zkt101 38]

She is a dream just like her name suggests. It's time to find and serve her the divorce paper. In Vietnam, you just don't marry the girl, you marry to the whole family. Unfortunately, you chose the wrong Viet girl, or may I say the wrong Viet family to marry into. Lesson learned, and move on

[JeanLovesTracy 10]

OP, first of all my heart goes out to you, I truly believe most of us started this journey to find something different than the westernized self centered , self serving, non sacrificing people we have met in life to date. however, people are people all over the world and as others have stated she is not worth a minute more of your time. I don't pretend to know the family laws in PA, i would agree with the others and file ASAP..so the one year clock starts. Time is truly are most precious commodity.

Best of luck

[andy78 178]

my suggestion to you from April 25th:

I suggest that you change the locks to your house.

Edited June 8, 2016 by andy78

[sensuelle1985 10]

Hey Dave,

I have read your original post a while back and wanted to wait before giving thoughts. I have a close friend of mine who went through the same situation. He reported her to USCIS (giving all her info) and detailing exactly the situation. When it was time to apply for ROC she was denied for marriage fraud. I think you should report her.

PS: since she's been missing for month, she is considered a missing person, you should try to report her missing to the police, that way they can look for her and you will be able to have her physical location and hopefully she is safe and alive

[Scandi 3,970]

Is he allowed to change the locks on the house when they're still married? Isn't the house her home as much as it is his? I might be very wrong here, I'm not sure how it works. Might be different in different states.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Is he allowed to change the locks on the house when they're still married? Isn't the house her home as much as it is his? I might be very wrong here, I'm not sure how it works. Might be different in different states.

Well the wife won't be around to object anyway

And many things could have happened during her many months long disappearance

e.g the door lock has broken or OP lost his keys for safety reasons need to change the lock etc

[Scandi 3,970]

Still, if the purpose is to lock her out that's not legal and probably shouldn't be given as advice on this forum.

[Teddy B 17,251]

Still, if the purpose is to lock her out that's not legal and probably shouldn't be given as advice on this forum.

Changing the locks is not illegal based on the circumstances in this situation. The op's wife has taken up with some very shady people and he has every reason to fear for his safety. If the wife wants in the house to collect her belongings, she can come back with a police escort. If I were the op, I wouldn't allow her back without the police present at this point.

Edited June 8, 2016 by Teddy B

[Unlockable 7,306]

Getting in trouble for changing the locks on his house is the least of the OP's worries.

[Caryh 5,206]

Still, if the purpose is to lock her out that's not legal and probably shouldn't be given as advice on this forum.

She has given up residence by her prolonged absence. He's totally within his rights at this point to change the locks. Just because she's still legally married to him, does not automatically give her rights to his home. She has taken residence elsewhere.

[Japanland 0]

Still, if the purpose is to lock her out that's not legal and probably shouldn't be given as advice on this forum.

It would be illegal if he was trying to illegally evict the wife/keep her out, but that is not the case.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

He may have more important things to do like file seperation legally and report it to uscis so maybe she is not able to do the ROC because she obviously used this man for a greencard. Id start by info pass, seperation in court, locks changed and when he divorces her he does not need to Serve her if no know address he can have her notified in the paper he will have to run three ads but the lawyers can handle this. If you revoke her stay here by having this marrige declared fraudulent he will not be on the hook for the afidavit aswell soon as removal preceedings began.

PS i would cancel any life insurances god forbid this woman is not done screwing this man

Edited June 8, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[Caryh 5,206]

He may have more important things to do like file seperation legally and report it to uscis so maybe she is not able to do the ROC because she obviously used this man for a greencard. Id start by info pass, seperation in court, locks changed and when he divorces her he does not need to Serve her if no know address he can have her notified in the paper he will have to run three ads but the lawyers can handle this. If you revoke her stay here by having this marrige declared fraudulent he will not be on the hook for the afidavit aswell soon as removal preceedings began.

PS i would cancel any life insurances god forbid this woman is not done screwing this man

USCIS does not recognize local court findings of fraud. The standard of fraud they use is much different than the varying standards used by state courts. USCIS will make its own determination on that issue based on its own rules and standards. We have had plenty of people here try and fail to make a local courts findings stick with USCIS.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

USCIS does not recognize local court findings of fraud. The standard of fraud they use is much different than the varying standards used by state courts. USCIS will make its own determination on that issue based on its own rules and standards. We have had plenty of people here try and fail to make a local courts findings stick with USCIS.

Damn thats sad someone can do this and run...

[Caryh 5,206]

Damn thats sad someone can do this and run...

Yes it is, but I don't want people wasting time and money thinking getting an annulment based on fraud will have standing with USCIS. I don't think they even bother to look at those, given the results people have reported back. I also found a reference once, I think in the handbook, which stated a USCIS agent should not consider a local court ruling and following the standard process.