super sad now. Do not know what to do . My boyfriend refuse to get married with me

[super sad now 11]

let me tell you something sweetie.

you eventually received k-1 visa then entered U.S. for marriage. you both were waiting so long time for it.

but now he wants you to go back your home.

even if you marry him, it isn't that easy. he wouldn't care of your all visa, money, and food anything.

he is not your man. you are not his one love too. sadly..

it isn't that easy I hopefully you go back to your country again. then live there .... even if you marry him you still have to file green card. also after 2 years of green card you should get 10 years GC too. whenever you have to do it you should proof your both relationships... from all material stuff.

I don't think it is easy also. why would you do that? you are the most important girl in this world. you can't just be sad and devastated because of one guy who doesn't respect his fiancée.

One of my friend. ( not anymore..) she was pregnant and hers husband went back U.S. alone.

but eventually she came to the U.S. with tourist visa then she married him even if he was cheating on her while she was pregnant.

everything was alright. we couldn't just blame what she chose. however, things were getting worst than before.

he didn't file green card for her so she was overstayed in U.S. for 2 months but yeah eventually she filed it and received gc. but before that she was pregnancy woman. but He never ever helped her to get meal.. buy food anything. so she lived hers life horrible. the only thing she could do is using internet website so everyone was helping her until hers baby born... also, when baby was born she was about to die. because of too many blood I guess. while I was sleeping hers friend asked me to reach hers parents yup. hers husband wasn't there while she was having HIS baby.

idk what's going on right now. but I bet she and baby are happy now. but it was sooo miserable at the first time.

Hopefully you won't choose your life in a hell. you don't deserve it.

Thanks for letting me know your friend's story. It is sad. That is an example to me. I do not want to put myself into disaster.

[madtownguy 164]

I will pay for your ticket back home if you can get my wife to learn massage and all that stuff.... ha ha my wife has learned how to use my credit card pretty well, and netflix. It sucks you are in the situation you are in, I can't imagine someone wouldn't pay for a ticket if the relationship didn't work. That is just odd. Just move forward, in general your life will continue to get better so just imagine the next guy will only be better.

[super sad now 11]

I will pay for your ticket back home if you can get my wife to learn massage and all that stuff.... ha ha my wife has learned how to use my credit card pretty well, and netflix. It sucks you are in the situation you are in, I can't imagine someone wouldn't pay for a ticket if the relationship didn't work. That is just odd. Just move forward, in general your life will continue to get better so just imagine the next guy will only be better.

Thanks for your words.

Just feel he is childish and cold.

I will move on.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

You should go home and rebuild your life a man/boy like this doesnt deserve true happiness. If he cant be honest with himself or you the best thing is to leave if you stay and try it could just end up getting worst but I would report him so he cant do this again in the future.

I accidentally gave rep. But I meant to say "report him" for what? He did nothing other than being a bad person. Nothing can stop him from continuing this kind of life behavior.

[loveamerica99 4]

Wait out your remaining three weeks until you have to go back.

You may meet another nice American while you are down here, who will treat you right.

Good luck, and believe me when I say you are better off without this loser!

[NataliaLin 18]

Don't bother marrying him!

He already showed a lot of signs of cheating or at least non-interested of you.

Don't waste your money supporting him.

Pack your things, and go back.

[Tahoma 2,291]

I never approved of giving relationship advice, or marital advice in that matter. But I will tell you what I tell my daughter. You are the first and foremost important person in this world, and you should be treated accordingly. You are not second best, but you first class and you deserve to be treated as such. Never settle in life because you do not think you will find better, or you do not think there will be another, or you think this all you will get or this is what you deserve. You will end up living a life of 'what if's' and sadness and longing for 'what would have been's'. God gave you one life and you deserve to live it to the fullest. You deserve to have that one man who will treat you like the princess you are. Who will give you back all the love that you give him. Who will be there in all the happy times and the sad times, who will hold your hand through it all. A man who will come home to only you. Love yourself first, never settle, and live your life to the fullest. Where one door closes, one door will always open. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live your life to the fullest. So do what you must to do that.

^^^ This.

[Sandra G. 5,016]

He is a stupid loser.You deserve better!

[Ab7694 0]

I hope you will do what best for you... But Before leaving the country just show him this forum topic and comments of so many people here about him so he will realize what he really did to you.. I think he might not have any idea how horribly he treated you.. Yous should show him this forum before leaving he should know how terrible person he is

[super sad now 11]

I hope you will do what best for you... But Before leaving the country just show him this forum topic and comments of so many people here about him so he will realize what he really did to you.. I think he might not have any idea how horribly he treated you.. Yous should show him this forum before leaving he should know how terrible person he is

Thank you :-) .LOL, DO YOU THINK THAT WILL WORK? Since he decide to do cheating, he already give up the good character. This does not bother him .

Wait out your remaining three weeks until you have to go back.

You may meet another nice American while you are down here, who will treat you right.

Good luck, and believe me when I say you are better off without this loser!

LOL , thank you :-)

Chinese women (be it Mainland China, Hong Kong ,Taiwan or Singapore) tend to baby their husband and mother them . they have this "Take care of them" or "cook for them" mentality. It is entrenched in our culture and familial relationships. Unfortunately , not every man are bothered by the oedipus complex.

Your relationship is doomed. If you wish to stay, you can.

:-)

[Ab7694 0]

Whether it will work or not... You should have to show this... The real problem is he doesnt even understand what he really did.. He should have to know this.. He might realise and fell guilty and at least pay for your tickets

[super sad now 11]

Don't bother marrying him!

He already showed a lot of signs of cheating or at least non-interested of you.

Don't waste your money supporting him.

Pack your things, and go back.

en ,thank you !

[super sad now 11]

Whether it will work or not... You should have to show this... The real problem is he doesnt even understand what he really did.. He should have to know this.. He might realise and fell guilty and at least pay for your tickets

:-) have no high expect ion to him.

[super sad now 11]

He is a stupid loser.You deserve better!

Thank you :-)

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