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Filed: AOS (pnd) Country: Philippines
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Take control of the relationship.

Tell her "It's My Way or the Highway", Do not let her back talk you.

Tell her Women whom backtalk in USA, end up growing old living all alone with a house full of cats

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Indonesia
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All the sweet, emotionally available, well-adjusted, marriageable women in the world who are capable of forming a mature lifelong partnership, and you're sticking with THIS one?

Read your words, aloud, and ruminate on what they signify in terms of this non-relationship.

The voice of reason.

Emotions totally make us forget about this sometimes. I was never in a really bad relationship, but I also am grateful to a couple exes that broke up with me since they saw the situation more clearly than I did, and only afterward did I see what they did... There are millions, if not billions of other available women out there. Life is too short to put up with craziness and unhealthy partnerhships (unless that's your thing, then more power to you I guess).

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Sorry but you are merried with a crazy woman.

How can you continue with a person who doesnt like people? Even her own familly?

You are going to live a terrible life with her.

a person who doesnt like people and hate people bas sirous mental problem

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Jordan
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We both don't want it.

The funny thing is when we are together we have no fights, it's only when we are far away.

I told her once let us go for a divorce, she said no, and never to use that word again.

I am against divorce, if things does not work that does not mean run for a divorce.

Work it out, not all marriages are perfect.

proof that being apart is stressful. Instead of talking to her like she is a child and treating her like she has no right to her feelings, why not try to be more understanding? There is no way on the face of the EARTH I would put up with any man treating me the way you treat her her. If you think people here are going to be sympathetic to you, you are crazy. If I were here I would run, and run fast.


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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Jordan
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There are 2 sides to every story, hers, yours and somewhere in the middle. You say she paints you as the bad person, yet you are here painting the same picture of her. I find it difficult to believe that she is entirely the one to blame, especially the with the way you talk to her.


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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Sweden
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proof that being apart is stressful. Instead of talking to her like she is a child and treating her like she has no right to her feelings, why not try to be more understanding? There is no way on the face of the EARTH I would put up with any man treating me the way you treat her her. If you think people here are going to be sympathetic to you, you are crazy. If I were here I would run, and run fast.

Normally I would agree with you. But I think both are having issues. He has lacking communication skills and from what he has told us she has either severe social anxiety, a personality disorder or is emotionally abusive (controlling, doesn't let him be with his family, doesn't want to spend any time with people, strange desire to cut people, really hope the last one was a joke.)





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I did not come here for people to be sympathetic to me, just vent myself.

proof that being apart is stressful. Instead of talking to her like she is a child and treating her like she has no right to her feelings, why not try to be more understanding? There is no way on the face of the EARTH I would put up with any man treating me the way you treat her her. If you think people here are going to be sympathetic to you, you are crazy. If I were here I would run, and run fast.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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Take control of the relationship.

Tell her "It's My Way or the Highway", Do not let her back talk you.

Tell her Women whom backtalk in USA, end up growing old living all alone with a house full of cats

Wow. Every post you make seems to outdo the previous one. You do realise this is the 21st century and not 1915 right?

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Sweden
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Wow. Every post you make seems to outdo the previous one. You do realise this is the 21st century and not 1915 right?

Yeah it's getting worse for every post. Feel sorry for his partner. Or maybe she likes controlling cavemen.





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What if he did take your advice? Do you want to take that responsibility? Are you that confident that that will resolve things? Are you so confident that destroying a marriage and ending what they have is your answer and theirs? Always becareful of words you say and words you put in people's minds and ears.

Its hard being away from each other... thousands of miles carries alot of stress. No one should tell another that they aren't good for each other and their better off divorced. Those are loaded words that carry alot of responsibility.

Oh please.

He thinks she is crazy enough to warrant seeing a mental health specialist.

She doesn't seem to trust him much.

I don't foresee this improving. There's no marriage to destroy if they already have these issues.

Moving together won't solve everything. On the contrary; culture shock, being away from family, etc will put a bigger strain on them once the "honeymoon" phase is over.

Cross-cultural relationships where immigration is involved are not easy.

Take control of the relationship.

Tell her "It's My Way or the Highway", Do not let her back talk you.

Tell her Women whom backtalk in USA, end up growing old living all alone with a house full of cats

Aside from the emotional abuse attitude involves, telling a woman with social anxiety a line like this will make her worse.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Tunisia
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It seems like a very real possibility you have a sociopath on your hands. Has she ever been to therapy? If not, now seems like a good time. If she doesn't like the people in her own country, she's definitely in for a rude awakening once she comes here. We have some of the most reckless, rude, and downright stupid people living in America. Keep us posted :pop:

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A thousand lives if I could give,
I would spend it all again with you,
Don't forget where you belong,
Only with me you are strong,
Not even the gods above can break,
Baby what we have"

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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I understand your frustration and the best way to understand your wife is to put yourself on her shoes....

you married her, it means " for better or for worst". There's a right way to solve your problem. Does she have a job? maybe she's bored to death and need an outlet such as new friends, hobbies and you being there with her makes a lot difference, don't make her feel alone, barking on her will make things worse.

It is hard to live far from people that you grew-up, but i know she will get use to it, she just need YOU.

Good luck!

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Hey! I get where you are coming from...it is frustrating when people do not understand timelines and want everything "fast, fast". Don't worry things will work out in the end for better or for worse....this will all come to an end one way or another.

From what I read, you and your wife seem like a good match...you both seem to be spontaneous and passionate and unmitigated by what many consider to be appropriate social interactions...not everyone will get you or your relationship, but that is okay. I suppose that is why the two of you are together...you get each other. As long as the two of you are happy with each other that is all that matters.

The two of you do not hide or even temper your feelings from each other...as my husband says this a "spicy" relationship.

Relax marriedguy! You are okay! Your wife is okay! Good luck on your continued journey.

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