I am deeply hurt :((

[marriedguy 34]

I just want to vent here.

I had a big argument with my wife, she wants me to live with her in country.

I was there for 5 months with her in her country, just came back in march, I got a recent good job in Microsoft. in Redmond. Only two months now, cannot take any vacations.

My wife's case will be closed soon, her's is CR1 , she might get a interview in July. Our one year anniversary is in middle of june. My wife wants me to be there with her.

Yes I understand the fact it is important to be there because it is our one year. But looking at my circumstance that i got a new job, our papers are not yet approved, as i know for sure they might call my work to check my AOS.

She just does not understand this, and we constantly argue.

I told her, you want me to come for one day and burn $3000 just for the trip, or come for your interview. she says come and stay with her.

She does not understand how important it is to keep a job. People are struggling to find good jobs, and here I am asked to quit.

Family is important but in order to survive one needs money as well. What I am i doing wrong ?

I am loosing my mind.

Are some women like this ?

[Fan_Dancer 171]

She sounds unreasonable. And yes, there are plenty of women and men like that.

[marriedguy 34]

I just was with her 2 months back, some people here have not seen their husband and wife for more than a year, i tell her this and she says, she does not care about other people.

I am just done. I was happy before i got married, now I am a wreck.

[Fan_Dancer 171]

On the bright side, she clearly cares about you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

[Caimei 3]

Not all women are like that. She's acting kinda childish. It's gonna be your anniversary, yes. But she needs to understand other circumstances and you guys need money once she arrive to the

US also and she needs to understand that it's hard to get a a good job now. You won't understand women because women are women Lol she could be emotional now but she will realize it all later. She have to think the stuff in the long run.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I agree your wife is being irresponsible with wanting to put you in a position of getting fired.

Be creative and make it up to her in another way.

[TBoneTX 43,001]

*** Thread moved from CR-1 Case Progress subforum to the Effects of Major Family Changes forum -- topic is interpersonal rather than a CR-1 matter and can apply to various visa processes. ***

[marriedguy 34]

Yes but this is too much, one has to understand as a family, work on things together . She is overly jealous also. Yes she cares about me.

On the bright side, she clearly cares about you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

[Fan_Dancer 171]

. You won't understand women because women are women

That is sexist and stereotypical. No, women are not emotional and immature, or so difficult to understand.

[marriedguy 34]

She is being childish.

She does not understand that the money i burn for that one day trip, we can use it for two months.

Not all women are like that. She's acting kinda childish. It's gonna be your anniversary, yes. But she needs to understand other circumstances and you guys need money once she arrive to the
US also and she needs to understand that it's hard to get a a good job now. You won't understand women because women are women Lol she could be emotional now but she will realize it all later. She have to think the stuff in the long run.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

She is being childish.

She does not understand that the money i burn for that one day trip, we can use it for two months.

Then perhaps you have not been transparent enough about your finances, money coming in and going out on a monthly basis.

My fiance understood my situation because he knew exactly how much I had to visit etc.

Make a list of all your outgoing bills and get her involved in the fiances.

[Caimei 3]

She is being childish.

She does not understand that the money i burn for that one day trip, we can use it for two months.

She needs to know that you need $$$ thousand for adjustment of Status too! Yea you could use that money when you finally file AOS for her.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

She needs to know that you need $$$ thousand for adjustment of Status too! Yea you could use that money when you finally file AOS for her.

OP is doing a CR1, thousand not needed for AOS but I am sure for other needful things.

[Cathi 5,607]

Your post is confusing. First you stated that she wants you to go live in her country, then you said she wants you to go for your anniversary. Does she want you to live there or go for a visit, or both? Either way, the stress of being apart is difficult for many during this process, and it isn't just a woman thing, perhaps the separation is really getting to her. It's difficult for some to be rational when all they want is just to find a way to be together ASAP. I agree with others and try to explain that you simply cannot just up and quit your job at the drop of a hat, that a good job with benefits are difficult to find in this economy and you need to be responsible and make sure that you are able to bringing in money in order to support you both.

[marriedguy 34]

She wants me to live there with her till she gets her visa.

the separation is getting to her, I have no problems, I can manage on the other hand she cannot. It's only two months since i saw her.

Your post is confusing. First you stated that she wants you to go live in her country, then you said she wants you to go for your anniversary. Does she want you to live there or go for a visit, or both? Either way, the stress of being apart is difficult for many during this process, and it isn't just a woman thing, perhaps the separation is really getting to her. It's difficult for some to be rational when all they want is just to find a way to be together ASAP. I agree with others and try to explain that you simply cannot just up and quit your job at the drop of a hat, that a good job with benefits are difficult to find in this economy and you need to be responsible and make sure that you are able to bringing in money in order to support you both.