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[MrsN 8]

Hi I'm Nigerian and I know how your feeling. To them introduction is marriage and the fact that you applied for K-1 is a red flag. They have the right to look at your Facebook because it's public domain. And also the fact that once you do introduction your considered husband and wife even if bride price isn't paid yet. They only way is to prove that you aren't married to the interviewer which will be difficult. The fact that your fiancé didn't prove your introduction pics the first time is also a red flag to them because it looks as if you have something to hide that's why the interviewer pulled the pic from Facebook. Your best bet would have been to do an I-130.

[oscar12 23]

Very wrong move for them to see any pictures like that....They obviously know you guys are serious and they know the different between k1 and Cr1 visa.They just wanna come up with the pictures showing you and your fiance wearing the same dress in front of people...They will totally label it s as a traditional marriage and deny it base on the fact that you both are married and using the wrong visa...Don't provide a lot of pictures like that. ..Just ordinary pictures of you two together and a lot of phone records can do.....Good luck

[Boiler 43,402]

Same dress?

[Marvo 8]

They asked your fiance a question and then went to the back room and came back with a picture from facebook which you guys had not provided voluntarily, I'm assuming? How did they find your facebook profiles? Am I understanding this correctly?

You can look up most people on facebook if they don't adjust their privacy settings. They have their names, phone numbers and more. No different from an employer looking up a interviewee being considered for a job.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

Sorry about your situation. I hope you will listen to some of the points made above and gather as much evidence to show no marriage has occurred.

But this facebook thing has been asked a couple of times and i remember telling someone to keep the relationship or anything that can harm their interview off Facebook. Some people attacked me for that.

Anyway, get written statements to help your case. Pictures alone, as requested might not totally resolve the issue.

I pray you guys can get through this and get the visa.

[Unshakable Faith 493]

Same dress?

Traditional wedding attire is usually made in the same fabric print.

[Boiler 43,402]

Did that apply here?

[Amachuma 17]

Did that apply here?

During introduction you both can wear traditional uniform..

[Boiler 43,402]

Is that a yes?

[Unidentified 2,930]

During introduction you both can wear traditional uniform..

I think what Boiler is trying to ask is: at the introduction, did you wear traditional clothes that can be interpreted as wedding attire?

[Amachuma 17]

I think what Boiler is trying to ask is: at the introduction, did you wear traditional clothes that can be interpreted as wedding attire?

Yes we did, but that's the culture.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Yes we did, but that's the culture.

Then it is very important to make sure they understand that it is part of culture. If they suspect you two are already married, your visa will be denied.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Very wrong move for them to see any pictures like that....They obviously know you guys are serious and they know the different between k1 and Cr1 visa.They just wanna come up with the pictures showing you and your fiance wearing the same dress in front of people...They will totally label it s as a traditional marriage and deny it base on the fact that you both are married and using the wrong visa...Don't provide a lot of pictures like that. ..Just ordinary pictures of you two together and a lot of phone records can do.....Good luck

Why is it a wrong move for them to go on facebook and look at your profile and pictures? People who will interview you for a job will do this.

And yes, they know the difference between K1 and CR1. K1 are for unmarried people, that's why they deny people they suspect are already married.

Seems like they want to be 100% this couple did not actually get legally married in their home country.

[Boiler 43,402]

Quite possible to be too married for a K and not married enough for a CR1

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Quite possible to be too married for a K and not married enough for a CR1

Absolutely, too married for a K1 and not enough for a CR1.

If they were to pursue a CR1 now based on the engagement (which they assume is a traditional marriage) then of course Lagos would deny

and say you aren't married and that is what pisses me off about Lagos. It's insane.

If they don't fully grasp the cultural customs then they should go by the registrar only.

If it is registered then married, if not then not.

By the way to spin the whole thing on whether the dresses match or not is also speculation.

Some couples chose to wear the same clothing and others have similar but not the same clothing, just because a couple

wears the same outfit does not mean it wasn't an engagement.

The consulate really needs to come into the current century with their little custom field manuals.

They appear to know customs but put a personal spin on it to twist the whole thing into what it is not and then the couple is

supposed to proof it is not so. Just asinine.

That is why I suggested to get a Certificate of Bachelor from the ministry as factual evidence that they aren't married.