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'Psychopath' or 'Best Parent in the World'? Dad's Unusual Punishment for Son Stirs Debate

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I agree with everyone else stating that this was a foolish punishment that says more about the father than it does the son. Take Xbox time away. Take the Xbox away from the kid for a while with clear indication of what it takes to get it back. Posting this online just makes it all the more foolish.

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  • April 2004 met online
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  • August 4, 2006 sent certified mail I-129F packet Neb SC
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“People respond in one of two ways: ‘I learned a lesson I never forgot,’ or ‘I hate my dad because I never forgave him.’”

When Papa T-B. was young, growing up in a poor family, he and his twin brother got BB guns. One day, they were shooting at each other. Their father/my grandfather -- an immigrant of high integrity who led by example -- saw them. Without a word, he broke the guns on his knee. That was a lesson that Papa T-B. and Uncle T-B. never forgot.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Canada
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When Papa T-B. was young, growing up in a poor family, he and his twin brother got BB guns. One day, they were shooting at each other. Their father/my grandfather -- an immigrant of high integrity who led by example -- saw them. Without a word, he broke the guns on his knee. That was a lesson that Papa T-B. and Uncle T-B. never forgot.

Very large difference between shooting at people, even with 'toy' guns and getting bad grades, being given an impossible task of fixing them in three weeks and then being forced to smash your most prized possession while your father films it. Did Grandpa T-B film it and then take it down to the local cinema to be shown to everyone in town? If not, then this wasn't the same as what happened to this child.

Met in 2010 on a forum for a mutual interest. Became friends.
2011: Realized we needed to evaluate our status as friends when we realized we were talking about raising children together.

2011/2012: Decided we were a couple sometime in, but no possibility of being together due to being same sex couple.

June 26, 2013: DOMA overturned. American married couples ALL have the same federal rights at last! We can be a family!

June-September, 2013: Discussion about being together begins.

November 13, 2013: Meet in person to see if this could work. It's perfect. We plan to elope to Boston, MA.

March 13, 2014 Married!

May 9, 2014: Petition mailed to USCIS

May 12, 2014: NOA1.
October 27, 2014: NOA2. (5 months, 2 weeks, 1 day after NOA1)
October 31, 2014: USCIS ships file to NVC (five days after NOA2) Happy Halloween for us!

November 18, 2014: NVC receives our case (22 days after NOA2)

December 17, 2014: NVC generates case number (50 days after NOA2)

December 19, 2014: Receive AOS bill, DS-261. Submit DS-261 (52 days after NOA2)

December 20, 2014: Pay AOS Fee

January 7, 2015: Receive, pay IV Fee

January 10, 2015: Complete DS-260

January 11, 2015: Send AOS package and Civil Documents
March 23, 2015: Case Complete at NVC. (70 days from when they received docs to CC)

May 6, 2015: Interview at Montréal APPROVED!

May 11, 2015: Visa in hand! One year less one day from NOA1.

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He was made to smash ONE of his Xbox consoles... wow. When I was that age, the only thing I controlled was the TV remote for 1-2 hours every day after homework.

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He needs to feel some hurt. Again, the pain was minimum compared to life's lessons when he grows up.

did this kid pay for the xbox with his own money he earned and saved? if not - i don't see how the pain is enough or within context to mean anything to the kid. it's like when my son gets a sixty dollar game, plays it once or twice, determines he doesn't like it and asks me to drive him to the game store so he can trade it in and get a whopping 5 bucks or so in trade. then he wants me to make up the different so he can buy another sixty dollar game that he may or may not keep or value. i'm finding it extremely difficult to teach my kid the value of work/money. he's grown up with expensive gaming systems, he takes their value completely for granted. i'm not blaming him for that, it's totally my fault. but that's my only issue with it. an xbox is a material possession but hours of human work/sacrifice went to build/pay for it.

He was made to smash ONE of his Xbox consoles... wow. When I was that age, the only thing I controlled was the TV remote for 1-2 hours every day after homework.

my brother and i had one hour each for cartoons on saturday mornings. we would highlight our tv choices in the tv guide. and no remote, had to stand up and turn the knob. :cry:

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my brother and i had one hour each for cartoons on saturday mornings. we would highlight our tv choices in the tv guide. and no remote, had to stand up and turn the knob. :cry:

I like those knobs. It always made a satisfying clunk-clunk sound.

Now the rotary phone, I do not miss. Gah... I feel old.

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I like those knobs. It always made a satisfying clunk-clunk sound.

Now the rotary phone, I do not miss. Gah... I feel old.

kids have so much more privacy with cell phones. i remember having to make all my phone calls in the kitchen, often with the rest of the family at the kitchen table listening in. the cord only stretched so far, lol.

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Now, if they just gave the young lad a time out and explained to him that he can build or do nothing himself and that all effort is folly. Total reliance upon government is the way to go. Surely being directed into a life of study and discipline amounts to nothing more that growing up to be a bully who dips teeny bopper hair into ink wells and pulls chairs from under self important progressives.

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