Wife has maintained relationship with P.I. boyfriend, what can I do?

[tuck4x4 19]

If I remove the I864, then move out, what am I then responsible for? I understand that removing the I864 means removing my financial responsibility? I didnt even know if that was possible.

Literally, If I move out, she has no place to live and nothing to live on.

[hari29 24]

As a greencard holder you need to maintain your residence in USA atleast 6 months in a year. If you stay longer outside USA, your greencard may be revoked. Since she cheated you on all aspects, trick her in to going back to her country and leave her there. You can even fly with her to show that this is just a visit and fly back without her knowing about it and preferrably take all her documents back with you. When you come back, file for divorce. There are spy softwares which can record all skype conversation secretly and also spy cams.Install them and record all for your court evidence. Call USCIS and withdraw I864 immediately. Also file a visa fraud claim with them.

[Boiler 43,397]

If I remove the I864, then move out, what am I then responsible for? I understand that removing the I864 means removing my financial responsibility? I didnt even know if that was possible.

Literally, If I move out, she has no place to live and nothing to live on.

Perhaps the ticket home will look more attractive?

[tuck4x4 19]

As a greencard holder you need to maintain your residence in USA atleast 6 months in a year. If you stay longer outside USA, your greencard may be revoked. Since she cheated you on all aspects, trick her in to going back to her country and leave her there. You can even fly with her to show that this is just a visit and fly back without her knowing about it and preferrably take all her documents back with you. When you come back, file for divorce. There are spy softwares which can record all skype conversation secretly and also spy cams.Install them and record all for your court evidence. Call USCIS and withdraw I864 immediately. Also file a visa fraud claim with them.

She is absolutely aware that leaving the US now would mean she cannot return.

[Jawaree 717]

I would kick her out and call some rescue places to take the dogs, the dogs are more precious than her life, believe me.You got married to a scammer.

Amen...she can never be trusted....get away from her B4 she file false claims

against U, don't worry about deportation, file for divorce the simple way, there

is no kids or property involved, but 1st make info-pass appt and withdraw everything,

be sure to take all the evidences with you when U go there....Don't go back to that

woman, try to move out when she take those 2-3 days visit with friends, also take

pics of her possessions U left in the house and carry to your local precinct, showing

you left all her possessions there. She is a good scammer

[mymarley 14]

listen to them... im reading your story... very similar story to my husband with his exwife but minus the dog but add a lot of guys with sexvideo i think his story was worst.. divorce her now..

[HislittleSecret 21]

Withdraw the AOS. Don't tell her anything. Just document everything and file for a divorce. I would get the police over to your house so that they can watch you put her out. She can't make a claim on you just because she is angry. I would show up with the police. Don't stay alone with her. Keep all your evidence.

[yaizz 5]

I met my wife in 2009 when I was working in the Philippines. I left to move back to the USA but we maintained a long distance relationship until I was able to process her K! and get her here.

A couple of days before she moved here, I received an email from a guy claiming they had been a couple for the last year and he was angry that I was taking his girlfriend away. My wife confirmed this as partially true, but told me that she had stopped seeing him months before. Her boyfriend said that was a lie, in fact, he used to sit there with her while she was skyping me.

I am an idiot, but because I had already gone through with the process and paid for both her dogs and her plane tickets. I agreed to have her come and see how things worked out.

When she got here it was very difficult for me to trust her so we waited until the last moment to get married, almost 3 months exactly. We did not get her SSN because, up until the last minute, I wasn't sure we were even going to marry.

The day after our wedding, I came home to find her on skype with her boyfriend again. I talked to him a bit and he was absolutely shocked that she was in the USA and married. She had told him she was with her family in Davao. We fought, we cried. She told me she was lonely and hated it here, but after a few weeks she wanted to repair things and we began to try.

Not having gotten her SSN within the first 3 months, we now had to file the EADs to get it. I work commission and we had some bad months and I was unable to pay for it until about 2 months ago. We went for biometrics 2 weeks ago.

On saturday night I got home from work and picked her up to get ice cream. While out, the boyfriend emailed me "control your wife while she is alone".

I asked her what was going on and she denied everything, but then he sent me copies of texts between the two of them with her saying I miss you and why are you ignoreing me. He then sent me 3 screenshots of the two of them naked together in skype. She admitted to everything but says its my fault because she was alone too much and I didnt give her enough affection. She has 3 very good filipina friends here who pick her up all the time. Id say she spends 3 to 4 days a week with them and even sleeps over at one of their houses a few times a month, so she definitely has people to talk too.

Over the last couple of days she has gone from wanting to seek counseling together, to outright calling me a selfish MF that is only keeping her here for my personal reasons. Yesterday I took her bank card and today she is telling me the reason she has done the things she has done is because of my treatment of her.

How do I get rid of her? I do not have money for plane tickets, it took me months to save for the EAD. Also, she has her 2 dogs that would require all vaccinations and plane tickets. I do not want to have her living on my couch for the next six months while I save for her and her dogs tickets.

She vows that she will not leave without the dogs and says the government wont deport her because there has been no "physical" adultery on her part.

Any input please?

And yes, I realize Im an idiot. So can we avoid telling me this?

Look at the bright side of this; at least you seen it with your own eyes, that she never loved you or planned to in that matter. I know it hurt like sh*t but it's better know then live in a lie because some people to this day are with someone who they think loves them. The only logic to this train wreck is to save money and send her and her two dogs back home. The next time you're ready to for a relationship, my advice is to fall in love naturally. Don't rush it by flying to a third-world country in search for it because places--- especially the Philippines, are the "Candy Shops" for wives that you wont find one that would say "No" to a relationship involving a chance in America.

[VOL 425]

Why would the OP be so dumb to help her adjust status now?

I would hope he wouldn't be that stupid, But I just gave him options

If I was in his shoes I would of already lost my cool and she would have a real reason to use the VAWA

I hate lying deceitful scammer fiancé/spouses who come to USA for only a GreenCard.....

[Ilovemyman 147]

Well my friend youvwill go to police station, she will call the police to get green card with wava.

She eill acuse you of abuse.

But sorry but here you are the onlt gilty, how did you marry a woman who was with her ex-boyfriend?

You knew very well that she was cheating on you.

She will get her green card very soon

I hear all of these, but the difficulty is this:

a) she will not willingly leave without the dogs

b) It will take me months to save for the tickets, i do not have anyone to borrow from. I pay child support for my 15 year old and even though I make enough to support my family as is, there is no extra.

c) I cannot pay 2 rents so cannot move out. Her friends will no longer take her.

d) I am very aware of VAWA and am scared because I've never seen someone who gets as angry as her, and as funny as it sounds, I have been hit 4 or 5 times by this 4'10" 97 lb'r. she has gotten so angry in the car that she tried to throw her cell out the window. I was faster with the window switch when I realized what she was doing and it bounced onto the floor. I am scared of her damaging property. Also, I cannot lock my bedroom door.

She is now messaging me telling me she needs/wants counseling, but not Christian counseling. (she does claim to be christian). She will only go to a professional, accredited marriage counselor.

And to get this off of my chest: Her family hates me now. When I was there we all had great relationships.

Her mom has been expecting Merlan to support her but because we have delayed so long in getting the SSN she has not been sending money home. She has told her sister and aunt, who live in Japan, and her mother in Manila, that I have not allowed her to work so she cannot contribute.

Her sister has gone so far as to tell her that she is no longer welcome if she is not willing and able to help her support their mom. Her sister thinks she has become americanized and just enjoys living a fun life too much to pitch in and she is having to pay for it all herself. They have really made her life hard. Instead of telling her family the truth, she tells them its my fault. I haven't felt very sorry for her Mom because she knew my wife was cheating on me the whole time. They lived together.

I honestly thought that I was one of the smart guys who, instead of meeting some random lady online and importing a relationship, I met and dated someone in person for a long time before starting the process. I lose.

[Cathi 5,609]

Revenge is not needed only a selfish ####### will do that. He brought her here so in turns-- he's obligated to bring her back.

He isn;t obligated to do a thing. Nothing, zero, zilch, NADA!!!!!!!!

[Avery Cates 1,141]

He brought her here so in turns-- he's obligated to bring her back.

He's obligated to approximately nothing of the sort.

His obligation is to remove her expediently from his business.

[Soulmate1971 9]

I am a Filipina nurse now residing here in us I. am ashamed of what she has done! There's too many of them like her. I always warn ppl I hear they are chatting to be cAreful who they pick! I feel sorry for you but I would drop off her 2 dogs to a shelter and buy a ticket for her and drop her scamming ### off to the airport!

[VOL 425]

She has no green card. She won't be able to travel to Mexico without a Mexican visa.

Good Point

She can enter Brazil with her Philippines Passport

[deeder 1]

Wow