Withdrawal I130 and Divorce in Lagos Nigeria

[beckickp 0]

Hello I married a Nigerian Nov 2014 and filled the I130 with a date of Jan 7th. I need to withdrawal the I130 soon and I need to also Divorce him in Lagos I have already filled for annulment in usa where I live because i meat the requirements in my state to do so with the proof I have and such. I want to also be sure my Divorce is cleared in Nigeria as well but all the lawyers want to rob me to get it done! I will be Nigeria within the next month and would like to know if this can be done when i am there? Also if I only do the annulment in USA will it make it impossible for me to marry a Nigerian again (if i were to ever meet someone) or anyone from a different country

I know in the future I will want to fill a K-1 or CR-1 visa again and do not want his mistakes to haunt me. How do I do this correctly?

Thank you for all the time and replies!

can not believe I am even having to ask this!

[TBoneTX 43,022]

*** Country-specific thread moved from CR-1 Process forum to the Africa/Sub-Saharan regional subforum -- topic involves divorce procedures in Nigeria. ***

[sampacomosexy 1]

I don't think it will affect thou

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Just as marriage anywhere makes you married anywhere , divorce or annulment anywhere makes you unmarried everywhere in the eyes of the US. The only issue you will get when you apply again is that you have filed more than once and if the next filing is in a short time frame your marriage will be examined to see if you are true or just running a marriage for hire scam on the government. If you choose Nigeria again, remember that Nigerians rarely marry without hiring an investigator to check out potential spouses for very good reasons and this is one very good local custom to follow.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Divorce is filed per the rules of your state and there should be information online about serving him notice of the divorce. Most likely you can satisfy this via publication or Fedx serving him notice with signature. You don't need a lawyer for this but perhaps a short free consultation then do it all yourself

and you don't have to travel to Nigeria to complete the divorce.

You can send the divorce petition visa Fedx and when he signs it shows on the web site the person signed for the letter, then print it out as evidence the person was served.

You can also place the divorce piblication in an online Nigerian newspaper.

[AB loves AG 54]

Just as marriage anywhere makes you married anywhere , divorce or annulment anywhere makes you unmarried everywhere in the eyes of the US. The only issue you will get when you apply again is that you have filed more than once and if the next filing is in a short time frame your marriage will be examined to see if you are true or just running a marriage for hire scam on the government. If you choose Nigeria again, remember that Nigerians rarely marry without hiring an investigator to check out potential spouses for very good reasons and this is one very good local custom to follow.

Once the annulment/divorce is completed in the US can she remarry in Nigeria or does something need to be finalized there too? . Do they recognize US divorces? I did not know Nigerians check out their potential spouses, I thought it was the USC more doing that. Out of curiosity, what are they looking for?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

They check out the family, to see if there are criminals in the family or if anyone is slave born when older people marry. ( they still believe that free born shouldn't marry into a descendant of slave blood ) It is interesting to listen to a relationship end because of findings because the investigation is usually well into the relationship.

[AB loves AG 54]

They check out the family, to see if there are criminals in the family or if anyone is slave born when older people marry. ( they still believe that free born shouldn't marry into a descendant of slave blood ) It is interesting to listen to a relationship end because of findings because the investigation is usually well into the relationship.

Wow...very interesting. Do you know the answer to my other question. Does Nigeria recognize US divorces?

They check out the family, to see if there are criminals in the family or if anyone is slave born when older people marry. ( they still believe that free born shouldn't marry into a descendant of slave blood ) It is interesting to listen to a relationship end because of findings because the investigation is usually well into the relationship.

Wow...very interesting. Do you know the answer to my other question. Does Nigeria recognize US divorces?

[sampacomosexy 1]

Really, they investigate usc. Oh wow

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Just as marriage anywhere makes you married anywhere , divorce or annulment anywhere makes you unmarried everywhere in the eyes of the US. The only issue you will get when you apply again is that you have filed more than once and if the next filing is in a short time frame your marriage will be examined to see if you are true or just running a marriage for hire scam on the government. If you choose Nigeria again, remember that Nigerians rarely marry without hiring an investigator to check out potential spouses for very good reasons and this is one very good local custom to follow.

I disagree with Nigerians 'rarely marrying without hiring an investigator', some yes, some clans, tribes, families of higher status etc. but I feel

saying rarely is too far of a reach. I have been familiar with the Nigerian culture for over a decade and have to disagree with that generalization.

All too often there is no money to build a house, have all the food needed much less money for an investigator and many are all too happy to

have found a ticket out of the country with a USC and don't even care about the background checks.

It is not much different than here really, I would hope that people do background checks here in the US when they meet random people online

with the intention to have a serious relationship or marry, we should all consider checking people out in the beginning and not when already in a

relationship.

The marrying into 'slave ancestry' issue is clan / status specific and does not apply to the modern everyday Nigerian.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

I disagree with Nigerians 'rarely marrying without hiring an investigator', some yes, some clans, tribes, families of higher status etc. but I feel

saying rarely is too far of a reach. I have been familiar with the Nigerian culture for over a decade and have to disagree with that generalization.

All too often there is no money to build a house, have all the food needed much less money for an investigator and many are all too happy to

have found a ticket out of the country with a USC and don't even care about the background checks.

It is not much different than here really, I would hope that people do background checks here in the US when they meet random people online

with the intention to have a serious relationship or marry, we should all consider checking people out in the beginning and not when already in a

relationship.

The marrying into 'slave ancestry' issue is clan / status specific and does not apply to the modern everyday Nigerian.

I too have been in the culture for decades and if there is money for marriage then there is money for investigating. Nigerian's put a lot of importance around their family and they consider it money well spent. The slave blood is amoungst the older ones. When it comes to finding the ticket out, most didn't find it without having money to spend on the internet. With the number of yahoo boys looking for a ticket to the US or US money it is all the more reason to be careful with meeting a Nigerian online. The ones who care least about tradition are those that wouldn't pass the investigation ( and I know plenty of those looking for love online )

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

One of my points was that yahoo boys could care less about an investigation because they intent to defraud a USC anyway, if they have money or not,

just enough for the internet or a sack full from the latest scam.

My other point was that generally Nigerians do not investigate their potential spouses unless they are of certain status and family/clan.

Lets not forget that not all Nigerians are so wrapped up in tradition and that doesn't make them yahoo boys, but very genuine

good people but still go on what they personally see in their future mate no matter if the family approves or not.

When you want to see all Nigerians as exotic "them" "they" and "very traditional" then you forget the individual very educated modern Nigerian who

could care less about what clan tradition demands.

Tribal mixed marriages still opposed and frowned upon, each individual does what is right for them personally, Ebo marrying Yoruba and vice versa, slave

ancestry or not. They stand up to their elders and proclaim a new way.

I believe we do agree that investigations aren't a bad thing at all (except for the silly slave ancestry prejudice tradition)
but I just disagree that you stated "rarely" does a Nigerian not investigate a future spouse.
The younger generation is way more individually driven and has lost the village mentality and will tell grandma to 'let it go' and marry who he/she wants to

if it is a decent person whom they trust and love. Romanticizing and generalizing the old traditions for all isn't fair to the modern Nigerian of today.

Again, it is family/clan/status specific for some but not all.

We are getting off topic, sorry OP for derailing the thread.

[beckickp 0]

No its ok! This information is all good and things I have not heard of or thought of! THANK YOU

[foreignnaijawife 17]

Thank you Mrs. Ebunolowa for your explanation.