Internet Love or not to Love?

[LSnBigBear 61]

I would like to know the percentage of K1 or K3 Visa's started with Internet Dating and how everyone's relationship is going? Pros, Cons etc. I dated two women on internet domestically and it did not fair well.

I was fortunate to live and work in the Philippines so I was able to meet my Love the old fashion way face to face courting. I have many war wounds as well from my past dating ;( too.

Reason for my post is I have read some bad situations where petioners were scammed or two sides to every story, there wife left them for some reason after greencard.

I think I will find your comments great as learning curve. I am starting an ebook draft for fun on dating internationally as I lived there, been around many many people from different backgrounds and enjoy learning and sharing.

I often wonder if someday we will refer to "meeting our spouse the old fashion way" as meeting him or her via internet which seems to be popular now days. lol

Thanks for your sharing......

[Hank_ 9,171]

I met my past wife on match.com back in '97, that went very well until cancer showed up.

And yes I met my wife on the internet as well, right now she is in the kitchen making Pancit... yum!! Then we will jump on the bike and go for a ride 108F ( 42c ) heat or not...

[bowgirl 8]

I met my husband on Filipinaheart.com in 2007 and we married in 2009. We now have a 18 months old baby boy and everything is going well. Not perfect, but we're very much happy. There are cultural differences but we work things out.

[rlogan 2,036]

There is a poll on this site "How did you meet your fiance" that is running about 50% for online meeting. Chat rooms, games, dating sites. It isn't random, but regardless shows the numbers meeting online are huge.

We met in person first. Then after a month back here I flew over again and stayed about three months with her family. Applied for I-129F after returning home, in our 5th month together.

People lie more online. Google search provides studies showing over 80% lie on dating site profiles. The top lies: women lie about their weight and men lie about their income. How telling! So it seems ordinarily decent people can't help themselves when their "facts" can't be checked. Online romance dictates strategies to neutralize lying. The most effective way to eliminate the lies of the women: a nude chat session straight off. For the men, show their tax returns for the last 3 years before seeing his picture. This is the best data-based science I can give free of charge.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I would like to know the percentage of K1 or K3 Visa's started with Internet Dating and how everyone's relationship is going? Pros, Cons etc. I dated two women on internet domestically and it did not fair well.

I was fortunate to live and work in the Philippines so I was able to meet my Love the old fashion way face to face courting. I have many war wounds as well from my past dating ;( too.

Reason for my post is I have read some bad situations where petioners were scammed or two sides to every story, there wife left them for some reason after greencard.

I think I will find your comments great as learning curve. I am starting an ebook draft for fun on dating internationally as I lived there, been around many many people from different backgrounds and enjoy learning and sharing.

I often wonder if someday we will refer to "meeting our spouse the old fashion way" as meeting him or her via internet which seems to be popular now days. lol

Thanks for your sharing......

There is no real difference between whether an Amerikano meets his future wife through a dating service or face-to-face in terms of the potential for fraud, given that in both situations, it is incredible that a woman would be so willing to give up everything she knows and leave it behind to spend her life with a man who is typically older than her, along with all the personal baggage he has. You only need to think about the likelihood that an older American male with relatively limited income would be able to attract a much younger woman from a First World Country - the chances are nil. Young Filipinas, by and large, who are eager and willing to marry these older American men are looking at marriage as a way out of poverty. That's the reality. The consulate recognizes this and most of these couples, if they are honest enough with themselves, know this as well. So whether you meet her through a dating service or face-to-face, there is always that factor - income inequality, that impacts the decision making process for the Filipina. Recognizing that would go a long way in helping these older American men avoid feeling they are being exploited for the 'green card.'

[Caryh 5,206]

People lie more online. Google search provides studies showing over 80% lie on dating site profiles. The top lies: women lie about their weight and men lie about their income. How telling! So it seems ordinarily decent people can't help themselves when their "facts" can't be checked. Online romance dictates strategies to neutralize lying. The most effective way to eliminate the lies of the women: a nude chat session straight off. For the men, show their tax returns for the last 3 years before seeing his picture. This is the best data-based science I can give free of charge.

So will a new internet dating pickup line be established soon? "I'll show you my 1040 if you'll show me your 36's"

[X Factor 1,110]

Meeting online is very common. You must exercise caution though. I had trusted friends in the Philippines that checked out my fiancee and verified what she was telling me before I visited.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Meeting online is very common. You must exercise caution though. I had trusted friends in the Philippines that checked out my fiancee and verified what she was telling me before I visited.

There have been a lot of solid, fraudulent-free Fil/Am relationships that have been on display here on this site, only to hear about how the Filipina left the Kano after she got received her green card. However, that shouldn't always be interpreted as her just being in it for the green card. She may have sincere intentions but also may be practical in thinking that in a few years, if the old geezer doesn't satisfy her wants and needs in a relationship, she'll leave him. The smart ones at least, think that way. They can leave the man here in the states because not only is divorce legal, but she knows she has a much better chance of making it on her own here than back in the Philippines. That's not fraud. That's just being savvy.

[Shawn C 11]

Personally I could never fall in love with somebody online. I have met some people locally that way and chatting with some that said they 'fell in love with me', but I need that eye to eye, body language, pheromones, what ever it is.

I met my fiance while I was on a business trip to HK and later flew to meet her family in the Philippines. I just think people hide too much when it's just online and you don't get to actually spend time with them to see if there is chemistry

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

A lot of it would depend on how hot she looked on webcam.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Hola Buscador

Young Filipinas, by and large, who are eager and willing to marry these older American men are looking at marriage as a way out of poverty.

I think by now you should have some stats or a link to back that statement. Do you? I think

That's the reality.

Your reality? I thought your wife was overcome by your natural good looks and charm...?

that impacts the decision making process for thesome Filipina.

Fixxored that for you. (I'm sure it was just an oversight )

Have you ever considered adding a disclaimer to your signature?

Something along the lines of... "blah blah yada yada this is all my POV and I don't have any statistical facts to back it"...

Edited June 20, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Mike,

I know you like to use this place as your personal playground, but if you want a real discussion, get out of the sandbox.

It's not rocket science in understanding that income inequality is a mitigating factor in these international marriages between older American men and younger women from Third World countries. You're welcome to search for whatever data you are looking for, but the evidence is right there. The income inequality provides an avenue for which older American men can find eager, younger women to marry. That doesn't make these marriages any less bonafide. The consulate in Manila understands this element. No one is turning a blind eye to that reality, except some of the men here who like to think that their younger Filipina brides chose them out of pure love without any other motivations. That's fairy tale BS. How many times are you going to read about some sad sack Amerikano posting on here saying that she left him after she got her green card before you recognize the pattern? While some guys here want to blame the girls - believing that they are the scammers, the reality is both are playing a game of mutual exploitation. All I'm saying is that income inequality is the underlying factor - where both partners, consciously or unconsciously, enter into the relationship under that pretext. If an Amerikano truly wants a fairy tale romance, they can go find it in a divorced, pudgy, middle-aged American woman with kids. Because that's when love is truly blind both ways.

Edited June 20, 2012 by Mister Fancypants

[rlogan 2,036]

Heh. Your love is not pure.

[LSnBigBear 61]

I met my past wife on match.com back in '97, that went very well until cancer showed up.

And yes I met my wife on the internet as well, right now she is in the kitchen making Pancit... yum!! Then we will jump on the bike and go for a ride 108F ( 42c ) heat or not...

Good I like it.. Send some pancit to Florida please.. Not quite that hot here.. But Philippines hot and humid.. I love it..

[LSnBigBear 61]

There is a poll on this site "How did you meet your fiance" that is running about 50% for online meeting. Chat rooms, games, dating sites. It isn't random, but regardless shows the numbers meeting online are huge.

We met in person first. Then after a month back here I flew over again and stayed about three months with her family. Applied for I-129F after returning home, in our 5th month together.

People lie more online. Google search provides studies showing over 80% lie on dating site profiles. The top lies: women lie about their weight and men lie about their income. How telling! So it seems ordinarily decent people can't help themselves when their "facts" can't be checked. Online romance dictates strategies to neutralize lying. The most effective way to eliminate the lies of the women: a nude chat session straight off. For the men, show their tax returns for the last 3 years before seeing his picture. This is the best data-based science I can give free of charge.

Riogen you made me laugh on your last paragraph.. Great Data though to think about.... Thanks for sharing